ascendotum Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 so I thought, hmm, I'll grab the smart guys attention with the D. Parker poem. Hey I don't know any of any of her poems. (maybe you mean quirky metrosexual hipster guys). Anyway apart from the quote I liked it and thought it was fine. You don't have to be go too esoteric or indepth for most guys though, but maybe you dont want most guys. Given your moniker, do you still write now...if so, I think you should mention that in the 'Living in the now' section. I see your interests but I read between the lines to get to what your personality is. 1
EasyHeart Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I read the whole thing and had two thoughts: "Wow, this is really long!!!" and "Yum!!! Cupcakes!!!" TELL US MORE ABOUT THE CUPCAKES! (and less about everything else). 2
madjac74 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I read the whole thing and had two thoughts: "Wow, this is really long!!!" and "Yum!!! Cupcakes!!!" TELL US MORE ABOUT THE CUPCAKES! (and less about everything else). I like your attention span. It's pretty much non-existent.
FitChick Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 This is why even the best writers need editors. Writers are in love with their own words and need an impartial eye. I've been guilty of this myself in the past. Why say the same thing three different ways? You also want to leave something to talk about when you meet. Give them appetizers, not a full meal. 1
FitChick Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I miss my 20s, when technology wasn't advanced enough which forced people to date in-person or through dating services (think: Love Connection with host Chuck Woolery 1983-1994). . For those who are too young to remember ... 1
Bristolius Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Writergal, We have a lot in common. I'd even bet we knew some of the same people. If I did OLD, I'd contact you, or maybe you're too good-looking. Oh well. It's a fine profile.
todreaminblue Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 And that's the frustrating part because that kind of un-necessary pressure makes me feel like a piece of meat. I miss my 20s, when technology wasn't advanced enough which forced people to date in-person or through dating services (think: Love Connection with host Chuck Woolery 1983-1994). Plus, I think Mother Nature trumps technology every time when you and your date meet in person. Why? Chemistry. Chemistry online is waaay different than chemistry in person. Online dating is a meat industry writergal.... so I am not surprised you feel like a piece of meat.In the real meat industry for women dates are known as johns.I think the main reason that this name was in use is so that every prospective meat buying client were treated equally ...no judgements made as long as they could afford to buy. The best cuts of high class meat always look fresh and inviting,and make the buyers want to get closer to appreciate that quality.So in this analogy I find it similar to online dating without the meat being paid for and appreciated. The biggest help I can tell you is you have to be approachable and for a man they want someone who makes them feel like a man and also good about themselves.It is only a small selection of men who like to feel challenged by obvious intelligence that is well rounded and a little bit intimidating.Online dating you have to consider more about what you can offer the guy to make him feel appreciated than what you require unless you switch roles..... or combine both roles..why is it more important that they must meet your requirements than you meet theirs......just like men dont treat women equally ....women tend to be the same way...appear different you pull dates from all walks of life....then make your choice......it is a meat market you have to seduce them into buying what you have to offer or you become the buyer and make the first moves if you want prime rib......if you want the smart guys you already have decided to be the buyer..its cold I know, I wish i knew otherwise....good luck with the hunt.....deb
todreaminblue Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I posted a reply Writergal in response to you feeling a bit like meat on display. Online dating to me is a like a meat market a perfect analogy or the industry of advertising is another one.I have had a few rough weeks lately one of the things that has made me feel better today is pulling my online dating profile.I almost went out with a doppelganger of my ex so unfair to the guy he was a sweetie....i was also being unfair to the guys who wanted to get to know me.....hence my struggling and rough weeks.....too much interest made me feel guilty and I am not ready to commit to anyone or move on till i deal with my feelings.I certainly dont want to hurt anyone. Anyway online dating is all about advertising another analogy......there are professional advertisers out there who just have a knack for getting buyers.....and there are beginners who hope to make it in the industry who do ok and then there are those who should find another job........professionals get the majority of shoppers and seal deals......beginners do ok but often get taken advantage of, make naff gaffs and lose out to poachers........who are the professionals. There are women and men out there who deserve alot more and have a lot more to offer in reality because they have so many facets to theri personality online dating doesnt do justice to who they are or what they have to offer.....they are the billboards not a half page advertisement..... You area billboard well rounded quirky intelligent fun compassionate strong minded and complex.....you deserve to meet someone who deserves to get to know that person........Online dating profiles are a glossy photo with a caption underneath......you are the article in a magazine that intellectuals would read and enjoy.....dont waste time with online dating......join some groups writing groups fro example or artistic groups that spred yoru wings and show who you really are......the dorothy parker quote is something that should be shared...its quirky and cryptic and clever.......just not online dating unless you want to head hunt and spear head the attack......be the buyer of the meat your feminine nature is why you are struggling being meat..I dotn know if you like to be the one who approaches first..I was a professional dater or escort at one time in my varied life path chain of events opened my eyes to a lot of different people and situations....So i can advertise quite effectively and the majority of men want a woman who makes them feel good about themselves I have a mental illness as you know that stems from abuse.....this led me down a lot of life paths to do with men.....carrie t would understand what I am talking about.....carrie is a submissive.....i am a switch.....but do best with a dominant alpha male who i can switch and change.strong enough mentally and sexually adventurous enough to satisfy these needs..which would be my ex.....who has been a dominant and important chunk of my life where i was completely satisfied...and protected .......I dont do casual sex because i used to be paid for that...online dating has that element for many of the participants You want a particular type of man you have requirements and one of them is high intelligence.....so you are the buyer not the meat in the meat industry.....you are a head hunter so you need to do the chasing..... In real life women are often intimidated by me so maybe that is why i have tried to explain myself to you..i have an addiction to helping others........i am trying to help because i think you are gifted......you deserve better .....maybe you might get lucky online..i hope you do....ill send those vibes your way ...i think you in reality are complex and intelligent.....we mightn't agree with each other..... the mental illness thing...i respect your ideas..but I hope you find what you are looking for without dealing with the ones that waste your time and stop you from meeting the man you deserve to have who is out there writing and creating just like you..and i hope the piece of meat feeling doesn't intensify either...you dont deserve it...best wishes.....deb 1
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