robaday Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Ive been talking to an ex gf from four years ago for the last six months or so, occasional emails, texts and one long phone call. We had a really bad break up, I was more into her than she was into me - 3.5 years of NC until six months ago. It was my first relationship. It was at the height of my drug addiction, and I was quite unstable at the time - as Ive grown Ive realised she did what she had to do. Now, after growing and changing I feel really excited to have a new friend in my life. Im 99% sure she doesnt want me back, but the fact is, she was an amazing friend. She wants to meet up with me in two weeks. Ive since moved on and had two other relationships, although am single at present. My deepest regret was lashing out at her and shouting as we were breaking up, it meant I never thought id see her again, even as friends. Now Ive got the chance. So for everyone going through a bad break up, they do get back in touch, it might be when youve fully moved on, it might be years later, but theyll never forget you. Some reading this might think im a pushover, for settling for friends, or wanting to meet her - she was an important part of my life, she was my best friend, and I feel blessed to have her back in my life. 1
cheekysmiles Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 This is a subject I've been wondering about for some weeks now. Our situations based on what you've written are very much the same. Can I ask, do you still feel attracted to her?
Author robaday Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 do you still feel attracted to her? I havent seen her in four years, so physically im not 100% sure! emotionally, yeah, i mean, she was my first love, its not the all consuming desire i had, but im sure yeah, theres a part of me that still cares about her an awful lot, although i could and can handle just being friends - dont really want her back anymore, but i cant help being really excited to see her - its more like seeing a best friend after four years...... I should add, that i had amazing sexual chemistry with my second girlfriend and i doubt id ever find that again, but we werent great friends. but with this ex, we had an intense emotional bond....as in we really were best friends. i dont know if any of that makes sense.
maxy1 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Nah that makes sense. It's common to feel for an ex that you once loved, especially if you got along and understood each other well. But only you can know if those feelings are minute enough to not affect a new sort of friendship. I mean, we all have best friends we love dearly as well. It can be like that with her if both parties allow. At least I would hope lol.
JoJola Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Sounds like you care for her greatly; the emotional bond is far more important than the sexual chemistry....i mean its great to have both. I dated a guy for 3 years on and off; we has great chemistry but nothing more...it was horrible to be with someone you cant talk to...good luck to you both! Mayb this time things could be different
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