lovingone Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I recently heard some online dating advice that basically said that if someone mentions partying and having a good time a lot in their profile, to stear clear of them if you are looking for a more serious type of relationship. I came across such a profile on a dating site so I passed them up. A couple of days later the man sends me a "flirt" which almost never happens with men when you view their profile and pass them up. I typed him a little note saying I liked some aspects of his profile but I am not the party animal type. A few days later he emails me and basically said that he is not partying as much as I think and he hopes I stay in touch with him. Should I maybe give this guy a cautious chance? He seems to have put in a little effort and came across as friendly.
dasein Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Profiles are just words, not people, don't rely too heavily on them one way or the other. Meet people early and often from OLD and start getting to know them in person. If he drinks five doubles on the first date and wants to stay out til 3? or always trying to get you to drink more? or makes fishing comments about doing drugs or tells lots of drug n blotto stories? He is probably the kind of partier you don't want based on your OP. You won't really know til you meet them though. Good luck.
KungFuJoe Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 There's nothing with partying nor people who like to party. But if you're going to be with someone who does you better like it yourself or you will get left behind!
irin Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 i stay away from those people, you never know, one night out, a few too many drinks, waking up in someone's bed. doesn't go well with serious Relationships.
fucpcg Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I am soo sick of party people and alcohol, especially after my last relationship, that I write clearly in my profile in effect "If partying is a big part of your life, no need to contact me, because it definitely isn't a big part of mine". I don't buy that he put partying in his profile, then says it's not a part of who he is. Based on MY profile, I think you can see the difference.
KungFuJoe Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 i stay away from those people, you never know, one night out, a few too many drinks, waking up in someone's bed. doesn't go well with serious Relationships. What if that "someone's" bed is your own?
ascendotum Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Profiles are just words, not people, don't rely too heavily on them one way or the other. Meet people early and often from OLD and start getting to know them in person. If he drinks five doubles on the first date and wants to stay out til 3? or always trying to get you to drink more? or makes fishing comments about doing drugs or tells lots of drug n blotto stories? He is probably the kind of partier you don't want based on your OP. You won't really know til you meet them though. Good luck. I agree with this. Go on a date and see for yourself exactly what they are like, unless of course their profile was quite adamant that they like to paarrrty! There's tons of women looking for a fun guy and he could easily be pumping up his image a bit with the 'likes to have a good time' aspect purely to please women. Also people have different definitions of 'good time' plus also while they are single, there is nothing wrong with going out every weekend, as long as they dont regularly get wasted and consider the bigger the hangover the more awesome the night. Find out for yourself by going on a few dates. "A couple of days later the man sends me a "flirt" which almost never happens with men when you view their profile and pass them up." I found this strange. Most guys seem to find women hardly initiate at all on OLD. If a woman viewed my profile but did not send me a msg I would not assume she thought I was no good...but are you saying that if a woman views a guys profile and does not send him a msg or flirt (or whatever) that he is wasting his time contacting her? i stay away from those people, you never know, one night out, a few too many drinks, waking up in someone's bed. doesn't go well with serious Relationships. You know this is more about you than them, imo.
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