girl2117 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Hello everyone, new here! I'll try to keep this short. I am a rising senior in college. My ex boyfriend and I met during study abroad fall 2011 and began dating almost immediately. Had a wonderful time abroad and returned with our relationship since we both happen to go to the same college. Things were great throughout the rest of the school year, but toward the end we began fighting about the summer since I would be staying on campus and he would be returning home (across the country). I am a huge planner and wanted to work out specific dates that we would see each other, etc. and he wanted to more go with the flow. From June until recently we would talk on the phone maybe twice a week, usually arguing to some degree about the distance. When we weren't arguing, everything was very normal. However, during one fight he said that he knew something was wrong with our relationship, that he was selfish and he needed to figure out what was going on with himself. So I gave him a few days to think about it and then last week he called to break up with me. He said that he wanted to be completely honest with me and that he didn't feel the same way he used to about me and thinks of me more as a friend. Then he said he's not 100% sure what he's doing (this is his first really serious relationship), but this is how he feels and he doesn't want to hurt me by not being truthful. Then he said he wants us to be friends. Obviously I was upset, saying "why would you do this to me, etc." The next day he texted me to check up on me and I did a complete 180 and told him I don't want to talk to him for a while and I would contact him when I was ready. This was a week ago. I'm not really sure what I'm looking for here. I know I need to probably just move on, but a large part of me almost finds it impossible to begin that process until he returns to school. I guess I just find it difficult to believe that not seeing or being with each other for almost 2 full months did not have an effect on his feelings for me. Is it stupid to think that there is a possibility for reconciliation once school begins?
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