ses623 Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 Well, I don't know where to start, so i might as well start by telling a little about myself. I'm a 17 year old male, and going onto my senior year in high school, i've had maybe only 3 or 4 girlfriends in my whole life, but that was when i was in Junior high,(and trust me i only remember 1 of those relationships being exciting), and im inexperienced in the whole dating scene. I don't have a problem talking to girls at all, I have many girl "friends" to put it that way, but i have never been in a more serious relationship with a girl. My confidence level is moderate-high, I consider my self decent looking, easy going-laid back kind of guy. I'm just a down to earth guy looking for a down to earth girl. Since I'm going to be getting a truck soon, and school is out for the summer, I need some places where I can meet some girls. As I said before I dont have a problem talking to a girl, It's just approaching them in a public place. And im always thinking when i see a hott girl walking down the mall or something, If I approach her what the hell am I going to say to a girl I don't even know, or havent even seen before? For an example I went to a car auction today, I was looking a trucks there, and I seen some hott girl sitting behind a counter handing out dealer tags, and I mean wow she was bad-ass...lol. I was checking her out and thinking maybe i can talk to her when she is on her break or something ya know, well anyhow I seen her in the cafeteria on her break with a cup of water talking to some older lady, when I was tempted to go up and talk to her, and then i realised I didn't know what to say to her, because I don't know her, and i have never seen her before. Well anyhow to the point, because I dont want to bore you guys with my stories ,I have a few questions: 1. Where are some good places for a 17 year old to go to meet new girls? 2. Can you guys give me some tips on approaching a girl that I have never met or seen before? I would like to hear some tips from the ladies here too as well as the guys. 3. What are some do's and don'ts on a first date? 4. 2nd date and on?
jst4u Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=indigo][/color]Where to start from a girls aspect. I know you say you have no problems talking to girls, but than in another sentence you say you don't know how to approach them. So I am guessing the girls you are use to talking to are already your friends. The girl at the car auction would have been a good place to start. You could have talked to her about her job and if she does the auctions often. Maybe ask her opinions on certian aspects of getting a car from an acution if she works them alot. If you are calm and collected and act like you really care a girl is less likelly to shrug you off. If you notice a girl across the room watch her for a bit and see if there is anything you could start a conversation about. Maybe something she is doing. Once you start talking you can feel her out and see what interests her and talk about those things. As to where to go to find girls. Sweetie you are trying to hard just relax and stop looking and you will be surprised how much faster it will come to you. Experiance all comes in time and not everyone is experianced in the dating world everyone has something they are unsure about.
Author ses623 Posted July 9, 2004 Author Posted July 9, 2004 Yeah the girls that I mentioned that I talk to are the girls that I am friends with I know from school, or outside of school whether they have been my partner in some class, or they needed help with something, and i seized the opportunity, if they initiated a conversation with me first, a girl I know through a friend, from a group or whatever the case may be.
jst4u Posted July 10, 2004 Posted July 10, 2004 It seems to me a little bit that you may kinda be hiding in a shell. I was the same way. Now I just don't care and I talk to everyone. I am in the military and you can't be that shy person doing what I am doing. Just start talking to people the worst they could do is tell you to go away and I am sure that is not going to ruin your day. If you want to meet girls have the chicks you talk to set you up with people they know from the area or something like that. Blind dates are awsome because you both feel the same ackwardness till you start talking and break the ice. The worst that could come out of that is a real good friend.
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