Mary Oak Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Just me again... 7 year relationship, been broken up almost three weeks. We work together and we have spent most of our time talking today. NOt about relationship stuff, just normal stuff. I was talking about my counseling session tomorrow and mentioned that I would like her to go with me eventually down the road, she just shook her head yes, but did not say anything. We hug and "pick" at each other and just being around her makes me feel so good. I just don't know if I am hanging on to hope.... it hurts less when I see her, but then when we have to go back into work, i feel empty. Neither of us has done anything since we broke up except spend time with family. SO, there is no one else. I want to commit to working on this, but am scared???
steveblack Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I feel for your pain. I am going to be honest with you, I do not know your situation, but if I was in a 7 year relationship (as guy) and wanted to breakup (and i worked with her) I would have been thinking about breaking up for awhile. You really should not talk to her, you hanging on to false hope, and wanting something doesn't mean its going to happen. You should set your boundaries, "I love you, but this is not healthy for me to talk to you" if its meant to be, she will come back. She can't have her cake and eat it. Either you set your boundaries or you keep eating her breadcrumbs and keep getting hurt. You can't be there for her at all, as much as it hurts. Breaking up is like not doing a drug. You been doing something for 7 years in a row, and all of a sudden it stops. But, like a drug if you do a little bit, you will be back at square 1 all over. be strong
Samilia Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Just me again... 7 year relationship, been broken up almost three weeks. We work together and we have spent most of our time talking today. NOt about relationship stuff, just normal stuff. I was talking about my counseling session tomorrow and mentioned that I would like her to go with me eventually down the road, she just shook her head yes, but did not say anything. We hug and "pick" at each other and just being around her makes me feel so good. I just don't know if I am hanging on to hope.... it hurts less when I see her, but then when we have to go back into work, i feel empty. Neither of us has done anything since we broke up except spend time with family. SO, there is no one else. I want to commit to working on this, but am scared??? I would change job, to give the relationship a chance. I know you probably want to get every bit of her you can get, but I see it as a healthier way to work on the relationship. Her nodding instead of giving a clear yes probably is indicating hesitation. keep going at your counselling cessions, that's your best chance to get her back since you had mentioned your bad temper is what tear you two apart.
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