zanesfan Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Just curious what you guys/gals think about why some women marry. For example, would it be awful for a woman to meet a nice man, good career, good looking, that wants exactly what she wants.... but.... She doesnt have that fiery passion for him and/or he isnt good in bed? Do you think some women will settle knowing that she possibly wont be pleased sexually in the long run? However, she is sure that she is marrying someone that genuinely loves her (and she loves him back) and that can give her stability. Is this awful?
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Interesting question. I am dealing with a very similar situation. One of the men I have been steadily dating is exactly what you described. He is a good man, cares about me, is stable, family oriented, and a very sweet man. I 100% enjoy our time together because it is just so... comfortable. Nothing is forced. The only thing our relationship lacked was that spark. He is attractive, but there is no real fire about us. I have been so used to crazy whirlwind romances where we were crazy about each other from the get go, and our sex compatibility is amazing. Unfortunately, those situations also turned sour fast, mostly because when it was good it was amazing, and when it was bad it was HORRIBLE. Too much passion. This is where it all comes down to wants... I value a good man over a good lover. I am still trying to figure it out, because things are good, but they aren't amazing... I love my time with him, but it lacks a sense of insanity that I feel one experiences when falling in love. After almost 3 months of dating I haven't felt it, then again, his care for me and tendencies have yet to waver.
stillafool Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Interesting question. I am dealing with a very similar situation. One of the men I have been steadily dating is exactly what you described. He is a good man, cares about me, is stable, family oriented, and a very sweet man. I 100% enjoy our time together because it is just so... comfortable. Nothing is forced. The only thing our relationship lacked was that spark. He is attractive, but there is no real fire about us. I have been so used to crazy whirlwind romances where we were crazy about each other from the get go, and our sex compatibility is amazing. Unfortunately, those situations also turned sour fast, mostly because when it was good it was amazing, and when it was bad it was HORRIBLE. Too much passion. This is where it all comes down to wants... I value a good man over a good lover. I am still trying to figure it out, because things are good, but they aren't amazing... I love my time with him, but it lacks a sense of insanity that I feel one experiences when falling in love. After almost 3 months of dating I haven't felt it, then again, his care for me and tendencies have yet to waver. Sweetie don't settle for less than that spark. Marriage is long and when the honeymoon stage is over you have to have a husband you still want sexually or you will just be going through the motion and feeling lost and frustrated. Add kids to the picture and ......you get the message.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Sweetie don't settle for less than that spark. Marriage is long and when the honeymoon stage is over you have to have a husband you still want sexually or you will just be going through the motion and feeling lost and frustrated. Add kids to the picture and ......you get the message. The sex is definitely better... I enjoy the sex, that is definitely true... I guess I just never got the butterflies, or the nervousness, or any of that. *shrug* It is just comfortable. I am still figuring it all out.
Author zanesfan Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 I ask because I normally fall for guys that have that edge to them. That does not necessarily mean that they are bad boys. However, I do know this one guy in particular that wants to be with me but we have no sexual chemistry. Ive only known him for about 3 weeks but I just think that at 32 he is very inexperienced with a small pecker . Usually when I like someone I am willing if not eager to "slob on the knob" this time not so much. However, I am willing to give it more time to see what develops.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I ask because I normally fall for guys that have that edge to them. That does not necessarily mean that they are bad boys. However, I do know this one guy in particular that wants to be with me but we have no sexual chemistry. Ive only known him for about 3 weeks but I just think that at 32 he is very inexperienced with a small pecker . Usually when I like someone I am willing if not eager to "slob on the knob" this time not so much. However, I am willing to give it more time to see what develops. Ok, well that wasn't where I was going....
Oxy Moronovich Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Just curious what you guys/gals think about why some women marry. For example, would it be awful for a woman to meet a nice man, good career, good looking, that wants exactly what she wants.... but.... She doesnt have that fiery passion for him and/or he isnt good in bed? Do you think some women will settle knowing that she possibly wont be pleased sexually in the long run? However, she is sure that she is marrying someone that genuinely loves her (and she loves him back) and that can give her stability. Is this awful? No one is forcing her to marry though. So why feel sorry for her? Secondly, if she wants him to be great in bed, why doesn't she discuss it with him? So many people complain of their partner's sexual prowess but didn't take the time to talk about improving their sex life. I take the time to have a discussion regarding my sexual likes and dislikes with the chicks I get into LTR with. 1
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