Kaushu Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 Well i don't know how to start..m feelin so low and distraught, but i've heard sharing our bad feelings helps in lessening our sorrows and sadness......i loved her a lot but.....m cryin while typing this out. I was in love with a 24 year old woman and i still love her like hell.Her name was aditi.She was a widow and had a son of 1 year old.We studied in the same college. We got really close after exchanging some messages on our phones.After some meetings, we or i should say i fell in "REAL LOVE" with her.We hanged out, met everday, shared everthing about ourselves, and our families.Her past according to her was tragic. Her husband died in car accident.According to her, her husband never loved her and always used to hit her and assault her.This was in 2011. When she "fell in love with me" she said that i gave her everything...love,care, happiness, respect, strength and what not which she did not receive from her husband at all. I'm 21 years old and she 24 but there were no thinking barriers between us.We studied together and even vowed to get married.......But things just changed when i first invited her to my house. She was really very rich and i was a middle class guy.....she said she loved me a lot but then on 15 of july 2012 she came to my house and on the 16th of july 2012 she messaged me " i don't love u at all...u r no where near me". We knew this fact and i had told her before about it too that our lifestyles and standard of living were a bit different. But then she used to say" i dont love u bcoz of money or standard, i love u bcoz u r everything for me". I loved her so much, i promised to work hard for her and give every happiness of life she wanted.We agreed on this.We decided that we complete our studies in next 3 years and by that time i would have really got myself a good standard of life and an extremely healthy n and well to do lifestyle. n i even started working in that direction. I used to just study first but then for her i took up teaching job and paid me well. She was happy.....and i was happy too.....But all of a sudden she changed her mind.She left me saying that she had no feelings for me and was a friend.....I couldn't believe first....but she kept repeating it for next 7 days.I was totally broken.I asked her what went wrong.Did i commit any mistake?....She said i was really a good guy but not her"TYPE!". n just 3 days back before saying this she had said she found everything in me!.We almost did everthing barring sex bcoz we had decided to go for it after our marriage as we were from conservative families.it really got difficult for me....but then her behavior became more bizarre and wierd by the day.She even insulted our relationship by questioning me as to why i loved a woman who is a widow and has a child of 1 year.I said i really cared for her and loved her really and was ready to accept her despite her tragic past.But she insulted me more and said my love was physical. I know she said this to shoo me away.....m really broken and still want to get her back despite no mistake of my own....I WANT U BACK ADITI....i want u back...i love u really......but she has left me i know....for money, for standard and what not.She played with my feelings but i'm still ready to forgive her and have her back............ Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 What makes you think she left for money? Link to post Share on other sites
Samilia Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 Well i don't know how to start..m feelin so low and distraught, but i've heard sharing our bad feelings helps in lessening our sorrows and sadness......i loved her a lot but.....m cryin while typing this out. I was in love with a 24 year old woman and i still love her like hell.Her name was aditi.She was a widow and had a son of 1 year old.We studied in the same college. We got really close after exchanging some messages on our phones.After some meetings, we or i should say i fell in "REAL LOVE" with her.We hanged out, met everday, shared everthing about ourselves, and our families.Her past according to her was tragic. Her husband died in car accident.According to her, her husband never loved her and always used to hit her and assault her.This was in 2011. When she "fell in love with me" she said that i gave her everything...love,care, happiness, respect, strength and what not which she did not receive from her husband at all. I'm 21 years old and she 24 but there were no thinking barriers between us.We studied together and even vowed to get married.......But things just changed when i first invited her to my house. She was really very rich and i was a middle class guy.....she said she loved me a lot but then on 15 of july 2012 she came to my house and on the 16th of july 2012 she messaged me " i don't love u at all...u r no where near me". We knew this fact and i had told her before about it too that our lifestyles and standard of living were a bit different. But then she used to say" i dont love u bcoz of money or standard, i love u bcoz u r everything for me". I loved her so much, i promised to work hard for her and give every happiness of life she wanted.We agreed on this.We decided that we complete our studies in next 3 years and by that time i would have really got myself a good standard of life and an extremely healthy n and well to do lifestyle. n i even started working in that direction. I used to just study first but then for her i took up teaching job and paid me well. She was happy.....and i was happy too.....But all of a sudden she changed her mind.She left me saying that she had no feelings for me and was a friend.....I couldn't believe first....but she kept repeating it for next 7 days.I was totally broken.I asked her what went wrong.Did i commit any mistake?....She said i was really a good guy but not her"TYPE!". n just 3 days back before saying this she had said she found everything in me!.We almost did everthing barring sex bcoz we had decided to go for it after our marriage as we were from conservative families.it really got difficult for me....but then her behavior became more bizarre and wierd by the day.She even insulted our relationship by questioning me as to why i loved a woman who is a widow and has a child of 1 year.I said i really cared for her and loved her really and was ready to accept her despite her tragic past.But she insulted me more and said my love was physical. I know she said this to shoo me away.....m really broken and still want to get her back despite no mistake of my own....I WANT U BACK ADITI....i want u back...i love u really......but she has left me i know....for money, for standard and what not.She played with my feelings but i'm still ready to forgive her and have her back............ What makes you think she left you for money indeed? I see a woman who is a widow with a child and got into a relationship too fast. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 HI. Sorry you are hurting. Please separate the passage with paragraphs so it's easier to read. Thanks a bunch. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Samilia Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 If you tell me she broke up with me because she wants more stability for her son, I'd buy it, and I'd find it legit. Don't throw stereotypes about men and women, it's degenerated thinking. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 it sounds like you're just trying to find an actual REASON why she left, and it doesn't sound like "money". 1. if she left because of money, she's a selfish pig and you don't want her anyway. 2. the story you tell sounds like she simply doesn't want to be with YOU, and she wants to go out and live her life. chances are there's nothing you could have done to change it. 24 with a kid and she's a widow? that's a lot in a short time. she's still a child and needs to go experience new things right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 Could be because she is a widow with a young kid and she started to get too close to you. Then, she's started to feel guilty because of those feelings she was having. I mean, her marriaged ended because someone passed away. It wasn't because he was an asshat, or cheated on her or beat her. It ended because he passed on. That's really hard to let go. She may have though that she was betraying her husbands memory with the relationship she was having with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 It's money/class. Aditi is an Indian name, i have a feeling the OP is indian as way. They are pretty class consciencious there, and it sounds like she was aware of some social pressure. Link to post Share on other sites
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