kimiko Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 I have a great girlfriend. I'm a 25 year old man, and she is one year younger than me. We plan to get married. Here is the problem. She threw out all her old pictures of ex's long ago. I still have mine. They are in a drawer in the garage, and I seldom look at them. She hinted (she didn't demand) that maybe I should get rid of them because it bothered her, before we got married. I want to make her happy, and I could never be in a relationship and do something knowingly that upset her, so I promised I would. I don't really care about the pictures much or throwing them out. The problem is that was several months ago. She recently was moving boxes and discovered that I had not thrown them away at all. Mostly cause of laziness, but also because I don't like being hinted at or told what to do, I want it to be my decision. Now she is really upset because one, I broke my promise, and for another, now she thinks I'm not over my ex because I still have her pictures. I tried to talk it out, but we're at a stalemate. What can I do?
chicasha Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 well....if you were just too busy to do it before...then do it now. Actually...do it right in front of her...just tell her...'see..?? i really don't care...the only reason i didn't throw them out before is purely cos i didn't get around to it yet......here you go"..and rip them up in front of her, and throw them away. If she's not convinced after that....she needs to get over it.
HoldOn Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 Well, personally, the picture thing wouldn't bother me. Unless it was like a framed picture of them kissing on the mantlepiece or something. Regardless, the problem here is that you promised to do it and then didn't. So just do it now, in front of her, and apologize for not keeping your word. Everyone makes mistakes!
jst4u Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 If she feels so threatend by them either do it in front of her or ask her if it would make her feel better if she did it. Could release some of the tension if she was the one burning the picture or throwing darts at it. The only thing you can do in this matter is get rid of them the faster the better. So stop reading this get your butt up and make your girl happy
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