lunat1ccc Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I met my Army gf while we were going through training together. We were together for a few months and then she got stationed overseas in Europe. I do trust her but her personality has always been flirty. She is 19 and I'm 24. So, here's the problem. It's been about a month since she's been in Europe, and will be there for about 2 years. During the time, I will plan visits and she will come during her leave. The distance is manageable, but here's what gets me. She sends off vibes that she LOVES attention from guys. She's in a unit full of men so I get the feeling that she loves it when guys hit on her. She goes clubbing with her friends and comes back the next morning, and drinks her night away. She tells me how guys hit on her, but she reassures me that they are nothing compared to me. She started putting on make up, which she hasn't really done before and dresses in ways that attract guys. For example, she told me how a shirt she wore revealed her dark colored bra due to the coloring of the shirt. A few days ago, she was in her bra and underwear with her door unlocked in her barracks (female roommate). She said it was a hassle to get up every time someone knocked, so she kept it unlocked. She has her guy and girl friends coming in and out, and they did drop by when she was in bed with only her bra and panties. This has been the first time she has done something like this. Like I said, her unit is mostly men and only a few females. Am I being unreasonable for thinking and feeling like this? I just get the vibe that she wants guys to give her attention, from whatever she does. She tells me she loves me and I believe her, but I honestly don't want someone who behaves like this. What do you think? 1
Forever Learning Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 She's 19, and she's having the time of her life. She shouldn't be in a long distance relationship with you, I don't think. She's overseas for 2 years, and 19 years old? I think you guys should just date other people locally and enjoy life. Her being 19, she just wants to have fun. If you guys were near each other, I might have different advice (but maybe not). At 19, life is about dating and discovering yourself, not being tied down to a jealous partner. I'm sorry this may be upsetting. I just know I was 19 once, and dating around and having a blast was fantastic!! I suggest you find someone locally and who is 24 like yourself. Cheers and all the best to you. 1
thatone Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 and the answer to your question is they ALL love attention. 2
Author lunat1ccc Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Thanks for the reply. She told me that she does want to have fun but also want to be with me. I know that she's genuine when she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. What can I tell her without hurting her? We always Skype together and she tells me she loves me, and cries when things don't work out and the slightest topic of breaking up emerges. I just wish she were closer. Ultimately, she feels she wants to explore because everything is new to her. She's from a small, country town so all this is new. I love her but I just feel we are in different phases in life. She said she'd compromise by cutting down on partying. I just don't know if this is something worth pursuing in the long run.
InJest Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 It's been a month. This is not love. Drop her and start moving on or you are in for a world of hurt. I know you're going to keep seeing her, but this will only get terribly worse. Good luck. 1
Oxy Moronovich Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 You're dating an Army chick stationed on another continent whose gonna be surrounded by a bunch of horny Army dudes and you expect her to be faithful? Fail. 1
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