todreaminblue Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Ok I am 28 the guy I have been seeing is 48. We have been friends for a while and he helped me through some tough times so we fell into a relationship. The first few months every thing sexually was great! He loves oral and wants it whenever, where ever. I did not have a problem with that and would do it all the time often waking him up with it. I too like receiving but it does not matter to me much. Besides I don't like the way he does it. Anyway, Over the last month he has been having a hard time getting and erection or keeping it. Well a week ago after laying in bed with him not having an erection, he told me I was bad giving blow jobs. He said on every other level I was his dream girl. I am independent, we have great conversations, we have fun together cook for him, we have amazing actual intercourse (when he can keep it up) and I am sexually adventurous. However he said that oral sex is what keeps him going and since I suck at it we should be just friends. Ok, fine. I agreed. I mean I won't have a hard time finding another man. Plus I never had complaints in the oral dept. before. But he still acts like we are together. He wants to spend the same amount of time together. He wants to continue to have sex. Why? If i am no turning him on the way he is accustomed to why does he still call me and ask me out and or to come over and have sex? Also even though I never had complaints from other boyfriends does bad oral really mean deal breaker? P.S I know i am not bad at but just would like to know. He has issues and I don't know how you could continue a relationship with a man who is contradictory in nature if in teh first few months were great then something in the last month up until he told you "...lets be friends because you suck at oral" is the issue.....And now that he is treating you like nothing was ever said is a problem.....you need to clear the air.....why wouldn't a 48 year old man show his partner what to do to please him orally.....that is the question.....In my opinion only it could be in regards to his age.......clear the air and if he doesnt make it clear.....you need to move on to someone who can be open with you and sexually open as you obviously are to post this thread....he should be the one posting he should seek advice or get some help or open up ....the problem isnt with you ........good luck and dont let him confuse you for toooooo long.....deb
O'farrell Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 there is nothing I hate more than when a woman can't give a nice handy So much so that I would end the play right then and there because it would piss me off.
ascendotum Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 This is funny...we met for lunch today and he told me he had an "opportunity" to sleep with an ex. He said they were hot and heavy but all he could think about was me. That he couldn't perform cause he realized right then he couldn't be with anyone else. I couldn't stop laughing. I was probably being rude but I couldn't help it. He asked me what was so funny. I told him I hadn't gotten any better at oral since we broke up...but I am sure the next guy I meet won't have any issue working with me. He just looked dumbfounded when I said that and got up (leaving him to pay for lunch). Felt good. Thought I'd share Personally I dont think you were rude at all with your come back reply, nor your amusement at his situation. You response was spot on. The bit I thought was a bit rough, was when you then just got up and left. It was a bit tacky of him to bring up story of another woman, but I guess it depends on the flirty/personal talk nature of your prior friendship. I assume you still met with him because you are going back to being friends, and don't consider him a prick for wanting to break up with you. Too bad for him if he now has regrets.
Emilia Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 This is funny...we met for lunch today and he told me he had an "opportunity" to sleep with an ex. He said they were hot and heavy but all he could think about was me. That he couldn't perform cause he realized right then he couldn't be with anyone else. I couldn't stop laughing. I was probably being rude but I couldn't help it. He asked me what was so funny. I told him I hadn't gotten any better at oral since we broke up...but I am sure the next guy I meet won't have any issue working with me. He just looked dumbfounded when I said that and got up (leaving him to pay for lunch). Felt good. Thought I'd share hahahaha well done. That guy is a real idiot
Emilia Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Hm....people are saying dump him because he can't get an erection..... I think I would dump my wife/gf if she starts to get loose, doesn't get wet down there..... The difference is that she will have use for someone else with a bigger penis, you however won't be much use to anyone with a flacid one
brahmabull117 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 and that's why you don't date guys old enough to be your dad next thread please
ascendotum Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 and that's why you don't date guys old enough to be your dad next thread please Well...its something younger women need to factor in (its not going to be the exact same for all older guys), but its not like the the ED issue just disappears when this guy starts dating in his age band. Who are women over 40 supposed to have sex with? If anything I thought a younger woman would inspire him more. He should have cut back on the smokes & grog and got himself a script for boner meds, but anyway too late.
Emilia Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Who are women over 40 supposed to have sex with? Younger guys
mickleb Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Yuck - this guy sounds like a complete loser. Refuses to work, has no freakin' direction in his life, has no qualms about letting a young woman pay for his food and entertainment, is dealing with a custody battle (whose paying for "father of the year's" legal fees if his worthless ass can't be bothered to work?) and he can't get it up so he's blaming you. If the douche bag can't afford to pay his child support, then he certainly has no business buying Viagra for his pitiful d*ck. What a complete dirtbag. Golly, don't let THIS prize slip through your fingers, OP. Indeed. The 'let's blame my hot, young, undemanding and sex-hungry lover for my plasticine penis' problem seems to be just the tip of the ego-issue iceberg this guy is floating on. So good to see the difference in your attitude between post #17 and #25, OP: why I <3 LoveShack.
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