Joe_Schmo Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 When I was 19 I met this incredible girl through a friend of mines girl friend! We met at the start of summer & as we all know there’s nothing like a summer romance. I met her at a party but was to drunk to take any notice of her interest in me so one of her friends approached me with her number & asked me to call her tomorrow. I called her and we hit it off right away and made plans to hang out that night, she came over to my house to watch a movie we got close & next thing I know we’re kissing. After that night we talked every day till the next time I saw her at another party this time she came with me and not my friends girl. We go to another room for some alone time & end up getting busy (no sex yet just a good time) & she ends up asking me to go out exclusively & of course I say yes! So we start dating & everything was unreal, so good the L bomb (Love) is dropped with in the first month. Anyways, the summers coming to an end & schools starting real soon for her, she lived about 30min away from me & her school is about 45min away from her house. Out of the blue she tells me that she doesn’t think it will work with her going to school full time & working part time. Well I do my best to talk her out of it but once her mind is made up she’s very set in her ways. I was upset but there was nothing I could do, we talked every so often & I saw her every now & again but I was always kind of bitter, I guess I felt like she let me down! When that school year was over she left to Australia for summer & just before she left we started talking more & more but just as friends. She got back in September and we didn’t really talk at all the odd time but nothing major until this past December and even then it was just as good friends. My work Christmas party was coming up so I asked her to be my date(just as friends) she excepted so we went. That night was the first time I had seen her in a year and I had only seen her a hand full of times before that year. Everything was going great the food was good the drinks were great & we were both really enjoying each others company. I asked if she wanted to come outside with me for some fresh air so she did & the next thing I know she kissing me! Afterwards we went back to my place and did the unexpected (sex). The next morning nothing was weird she left & that was that or so I thought. She called me & asked to meet me for dinner so I did and right after that once again we’re in the sack! This continues for a couple of weeks so we both decided to see each other once again exclusively, it was like nothing had changed we had the best time together not one fight during the next 6 months the only difference was she was planning another trip to Australia in less than a year, that & the L bomb had not yet been dropped although we were both feeling it. Australia wasn’t a problem for me & why should it have been things were unreal & I’d cross that bridge when the time came. So about 2 months ago we are at a friends party together & I end up being the drunkest guy there, anyways at the end of the night we go back to my place and all is good, so good I tell her how I really feel about her (I love you) she didn’t return it but I was to drunk to even notice. After that night we didn’t even mention what had been said I knew it affected her I just wasn’t sure in what way! I went away later that week for the weekend; I didn’t call her the whole time I was away just to give her the space I thought she need. I got home late Monday night and asked if she wanted to hang out for a bit, I went to her place and all was well or so it seemed. She gives me the “I think we should talk” (I knew this was coming). She told me she loved me she just wasn’t ready for love again because she was leaving for Australia in 6 months & thought it would be to hard to leave me if we were still so intense. Again I tried to convince her she was making a mistake and we could work around her trip when the time comes, but as I told you she’s very set in her way’s once she makes a decision, so once again we call it quits & its been that was for the last 2 months! About 2 week after we broke up we started hang out again & it was as if nothing had changed until I asked where this situation was going, she said she still felt the same and maybe it would be best if we stopped seeing each other like this. For the last month we haven’t hung out but every time she’s wanted to talk I’ve been there for her, until this past week when I decided I wasn’t going to get over her unless I walked away once and for all. I stopped calling her, I stopped picking up every time she calls me, when she calls me at work I have to pick up but I let her go right away, I just say I’m with a customer. Well this coming Sunday we have plans to see a concert together, now this is something that has been in the works for quite some time now & I’d feel like a dick if I sold her out. I would do anything in the world to get this girl back & all of a sudden she’s been calling me at work right as she knows I open, she’s been calling me at 130 every night this week & even called me Hun, & babe words that haven’t been used in the last months. I told her that after this show we wouldn’t have as much contact & I’ll be moving on but now this! What the hell am I to think now? HELP! Give me you opinion and tell me what u think.
GROBBY Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 Dude, She sounds a little too "on again / off again" and truthfully you will get hurt down the road. Let her come to you 100% and don't make it easy for her at all. In the meantime get on with your life and get yourself a girl who is willing to make you a priority.....
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