MashedPotatoes Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 This is a classic case of a guy falling for his best friend's ex. Having said that, let me explain. She and my friend broke up about 6 years ago and I know that there is no chance of them getting back together. She and I became good friends while they were dating and remained close friends after they broke up. As a matter of fact, the three of us are still very good friends and things between my friend and his ex are very friendly. Now, I have always found this girl attractive, but not once did I ever consider her romantically. She's essentially my best female friend and I've gone to her for advice regarding my past relationships. My best friend has made the occasional jest that she and I should hook up, but I always just brushed it off. About a month ago, she came to visit and the three of us plus a few other friends all went out for drinks. She was very flirty with me...holdings hands, interlocking arms while walking down the street, stroking my arm while we passed out on my friend's couch. I didn't quite know what to make of her behavior as she'd never been like that with me before...ever. I tried not to make too much of it, but it definitely got me thinking. Last weekend, we all went to Vegas (same group that went out for drinks) and now, I am utterly confused. The flirting continued and she made several remarks to me and my friend regarding my physique and saying how "hot" I was. We got pretty close through conversation, on the dance floor, and after partying all night and returning to the hotel room, she asked me if I wanted to join her in the bed (I was on the couch, my best bud was on a roll away cot). Man oh man, did I want to, but although it might have been obvious I wasn't sure of her intentions so I just simply said "I better not." I brought this up with my best friend, and he told me that he and my other close friends have always wondered if anything was going to happen between me and the girl. Clearly, they know before I knew..funny how that is. He told me to go for it and that he has a sense that she may feel the same way to. I plan on visiting her within the next couple weeks. I just wanted some unbiased insight from ya'll. Some facts to consider. We first met when I was 70lbs overweight (210 lbs)!. In the past couple years I've become a gym rat, marathoner, and triathlete and I'm now a very fit 140lb. I'm now a very confident guy and I know she sees me differently. Appreciate any input. 1
Oxy Moronovich Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 If you don't get with her now then you most likely never will. Just ask her out already. Yer friends knew you liked her cuz guys never choose to be close friends with chicks they aren't attracted to. 1
jobaba Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Seems like you are in, but tread cautiously. With women, rejection is always a possibility no matter what signs they give you. Keep your emotional investment down and go for it. Seems you have gone too far to turn back now. 1
Forever Learning Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Yes, by all means, go for it!! Make your move!! All the best to you, and good luck!!
Casablanca Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 If you don't get with her now then you most likely never will. Just ask her out already. Yer friends knew you liked her cuz guys never choose to be close friends with chicks they aren't attracted to. I don't always agree with this, one of my best friends is a female, and she is attractive, but I don't find her attractive, as in she isn't my type
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