theskyisblue Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Well after being broken up with I just had to get out of the city where I live for a break. Everything had connections with my ex – places she and I had been, restaurants, walks we had taken. My house, my job, my life here – it is all about her and I and this seems like a really bad way to live your life. I decided it was literally too much to take. Went away and got a sense of peace from being away from it. I had to return to the city and my house and work and I am really struggling. No amount of ‘you’ll get through this’ talk makes me think I want to stay here. I came back to this city to build a life with this girl and she broke up with me and just carried on with her life. What are people’s thoughts on quitting the job, quitting the house, well just basically getting totally out of this place and finding somewhere else to live? I’ve got family in a different part of the country and could live there for a bit to work out what to do from here. Our mutual friends have become her friends and everybody seems to rally by her even though I was dumped. I accept that she doesn’t want to be with me and I would like to meet somebody else but ho w am I supposed to do that in this place? This place is making me feel unwell – and I don’t want to run into her or her friends. Surely I should get out of here?
goodbyesunshine Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 From what you've said it seems like you have a good chance of moving somewhere else and being happier there. If you're so utterly depressed about staying, then maybe you should start making the plans - where to go, where to stay, what jobs to apply for etc. Also it might be helpful to think about the reasons you shouldn't go - people you'd miss, places you'd miss, and what's holding you back, etc. If by the time you finish all the planning and you feel still feel happy and hopeful about moving, why not? I know how painful it is to have so much memories of someone no matter where you go - I live in a tiny city and every mall, every pavement, every shop reminds me of the times I've shared with someone I really love. Thankfully I have friends and family who can help me through all these, but even then, it's still hard. Good luck and be sure to take all the time you need to make a clear decision!
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