SeattleBabe Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'm going to see a guy that I met from an on line dating site. We've been talking (calling and texting) for a month. I've already met 4 from that OLD site, I've been there for over a year and had pretty good and bad experiences, is it okay to discuss them with him? I'm getting a good vibe with this man, he's quite different from the first 4. I don't wanna ruin anything before it can come true.
USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 In my limited experience, I've found that sharing particularly disastrous and funny stories about previous OLD experiences is good conversation material. You can learn a bit about the other person, and who doesn't like a good laugh...? 2
madjac74 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'm going to see a guy that I met from an on line dating site. We've been talking (calling and texting) for a month. I've already met 4 from that OLD site, I've been there for over a year and had pretty good and bad experiences, is it okay to discuss them with him? I'm getting a good vibe with this man, he's quite different from the first 4. I don't wanna ruin anything before it can come true. What I have discovered is that anyone who you meet on a dating site is ok with talking about their past experiences with it. It is often something you can laugh about.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Yeah, I do it on my online dates all the time and it's always a hit
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Just be careful because this guy might be the worst of all! I'm kidding...If you feel like you had a good rapport with this man over online during a month chances are you're going to get a similar flow in person as well so whatever works in conversation now I think will work out the same way, so just see where the conversation goes and let it flow into whatever topic you come up with, I'm not sure If I've ever gone into a date/meeting someone the first time, wondering what topics to cover but I think it's a fairly good question. Overall I think It's a fun conversation topic and usually asked since OLD is "weird" since it hasn't been around for too long yet but it's just getting more common and growing extremely fast so I don't think this will be a topic of issue 10 years down the road or probably quite normal/typical in 20 as social media will only take off even more I predict. I think what's important is to gauge the chemistry, the body language and test the comfort level...just ease into it, don't try and force anything much. If the chemistry is good you're not going to have a hard time of thinking of what to say.
jakelongot Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'm going to see a guy that I met from an on line dating site. We've been talking (calling and texting) for a month. I've already met 4 from that OLD site, I've been there for over a year and had pretty good and bad experiences, is it okay to discuss them with him? I'm getting a good vibe with this man, he's quite different from the first 4. I don't wanna ruin anything before it can come true. Would you mind sharing with us what his initial message to you said?
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Just be careful because this guy might be the worst of all! I'm kidding...If you feel like you had a good rapport with this man over online during a month chances are you're going to get a similar flow in person as well so whatever works in conversation now I think will work out the same way, so just see where the conversation goes and let it flow into whatever topic you come up with, I'm not sure If I've ever gone into a date/meeting someone the first time, wondering what topics to cover but I think it's a fairly good question. Overall I think It's a fun conversation topic and usually asked since OLD is "weird" since it hasn't been around for too long yet but it's just getting more common and growing extremely fast so I don't think this will be a topic of issue 10 years down the road or probably quite normal/typical in 20 as social media will only take off even more I predict. I think what's important is to gauge the chemistry, the body language and test the comfort level...just ease into it, don't try and force anything much. If the chemistry is good you're not going to have a hard time of thinking of what to say. Yes, for me it happens naturally. I don't do it on every online date, I just go with the vibe of the moment and don't really plan anything. I think when you share some stories about other disaster online dates, you are sort of telling your current date that he IS better than those guys you are making fun of. It can give him a bit of a confidence boost. Everybody likes feeling like they are not creepy
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 You have met 4? I have met 40+. Imagine the stories I have to tell But then, I don't correspond for long. I pretty much suggest meeting up within the first 3-4 messages. No point in wasting time if there is no chemistry in person.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 You have met 4? I have met 40+. Imagine the stories I have to tell But then, I don't correspond for long. I pretty much suggest meeting up within the first 3-4 messages. No point in wasting time if there is no chemistry in person. Wow, I don't even know If I can mentally comprehend meeting 40 plus people through OLD, let alone not knowing any of them hardly and just meeting, we have quite the opposite strategy in meeting our SO's.
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