Boyfriend would rather I live in car than stay with him for 10 days

[CopingGal]

He sounds like an a-hole.

[amaysngrace]

I know a guy who had roaches in his place and when he moved in with his girlfriend he brought them with him.

 

Maybe he doesn't want eggs to hatch in his place. Does he stay at your current place ever? Maybe he's skeeved out and just doesn't want to say anything about it.

[doomedtowanderalone]

I know a guy who had roaches in his place and when he moved in with his girlfriend he brought them with him.

 

Maybe he doesn't want eggs to hatch in his place. Does he stay at your current place ever? Maybe he's skeeved out and just doesn't want to say anything about it.

 

That is why I was telling him I was putting my stuff in storage and not bringing anything to his house but some clothes (washed in super hot water immediately). Ironically, that is EXACTLY what I was talking about when he unloaded his true feelings on me. So that he wouldn't worry and that he would know I was being considerate.

 

(It's not infested to where I see them everyday. But I hate them so much that once a week is enough for me).

 

You just reminded me of something he said. I didn't know you are supposed to spray places when you move in since I'd never had this problem before but he finally told me 2 months after I had lived here. I asked him why he didn't mention anything before and he said something like, "Because I wanted you to figure it out for yourself"

 

So many signs...

[amaysngrace]

He's not treating you right. There's no way I would let somebody I care about live in their car for one day.

 

That would make ME feel bad to not offer help. I think he's a bit heartless.

 

[doomedtowanderalone]

He wants me to stay with him now! He said he wants to help me any way he can and that it is the least he can do.

 

He doesn't seem to want to be together. It seems like it would be a friend thing.

 

What do you think?

[TaraMaiden]

NO!!! NO, no, no, no and absolutely, definitely, unequivocally, adamantly NO!!!

 

Not even maybe.

My guess is he just wants sex.

 

Betcha if you were to get over there he would think two things:

 

How quickly can i get my leg over?

Wow... is this girl such a damn doormat-pushover! Is she a sucker, or what?

 

NO!!

 

Get it??

 

Please - don't even THINK about it...!!!

[amaysngrace]

Just go there but don't read too much into it for now.

 

Just be an appreciative houseguest and don't snoop through his stuff. Just act like a guest. Also try to make outside plans for the time you're there so you can be gone a lot.

 

Use his place to wash up and crash.

 

For now just say thank you.

[TaraMaiden]

Just for the record, and no disrespect intended - I entirely disagree with the above advice.

[Snakechammah]

How about if OP just uses his house for her convenience... but withhold sex? That way, she uses him before he uses her.

 

Then after her apartment is ready, BAM, move in and cut all contact with him.

 

She does need a place to stay.... but only for 10 days. After that, she is a free woman! If he is cheating on her (as he doesn't want to be together), then she should be using him to the last straw (his house!)