dustpull Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Long story short, I've been posting here on this forum about my paranoid/freakout phases where I would ask you guys if this guy likes me or not. So far everything went perfectly (last time I posted a question was 3 weeks ago). Last week I kind of confessed my feelings to him through text and he replied back to me, telling me that I'm very special to his eyes, he assures me that noone else can sweep him off his feet, that he's so lucky to have met me etc.. And he invited me over to stay over at his place last night, which I did. Btw we're gay, I'm not a girl lol sorry if it sounds misleading. But yeah long story short, we made out and kissed and cuddled passionately for hours, which ended up with an oral sex. After the oral we showered together, he cooked me dinner and slept together on the same bed. The next afternoon, he cooked me lunch and we both ended up making out again which led to oral sex. After that, I felt a bit awkward with him, like I could tell he wants to rest alone for awhile. When he was about to drive me to the train station, he kissed me (he made the move) and said 'lets go' with a smile, but when he dropped me off the station we didn't kiss or anything. I'm not gonna write an essay on this but yeah I texted him right when I got home, confessing to him how I feel towards him (really cheesy on some part, and it was LONG), in which he replied with a much shorter text basically telling me thanks so much for everything and how i'm such a sweet guy to him and he hopes to hang out with me again 'soon' and says I'm a great kisser and cuddler and I made his weekend enjoyable.. but he didn't reciprocate my feelings towards him.. Idk how I feel about that.. cause just last week, he said something really sweet... my question is, if you don't like or is not interested in someone, would you cuddle/kiss/makeout with them for hours, cook them dinner/breakfast, sleep with them for the night while hugging you real tight, telling them how cute they are everytime.. etc..? Everyone's telling me I'm just being paranoid, but this time I think I have the reason to be? P.S: This was our second 'hangout' which obviously felt like a date to me (on both occasion). We've been talking since June 16 and last time I hung out with him was 2 weeks ago, and he told me how I exceeded expectations and such (that was 2 weeks ago tho before the staying over and oral sex).. SIGH I'M SO CONFUSED. ALL OF THIS because of how he replied back to me on the text.. and how it was a bit awkward towards the end of the day.. ughh
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 You're too worried about everything right now and being overly sensitive because you are really into this person. But that's going to come off too intensely because I think you're taking this too fast, I don't think he's at the same pace with you...I think he likes you but now you're kind of doing what a lot of women (even though you're a guy) do in a situation where they let their emotions drag the relationship into a one-dynamic/high expectations scenario where it's all about how you feel. Your message I'm sure was appreciated and he did reciprocate just not to the same degree but I think you're asking for a lot because you seem to be diving in too far. You're just that kind of sensitive person that seems to become so into someone you start to quickly revolve your world around them. You need to start taking things just day by day and slower...don't let your emotions turn you into a psycho thinking about every little detail trying to make a discovery like you're observing some ancient artifact, just calm down and stop obsessing over it by taking preoccupying your mind and putting more energy and focus into other things...that way you can let things slow down a bit and not overwhelm a person because typically a very desperate type individual that's overly emotional doesn't make that person feel special It just makes you look crazy and have a reason to be single as you're just a clinger and cling to anyone you get your hands on and feel a spark of chemistry with...not a good place to be. You need to just let more things happen...you're doing way too much with way too little, it's just madness.
TG1 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I happen to agree with this guy and everything he has said, he pretty much summed it up for me too about how I feel on the subject
Author dustpull Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 You're too worried about everything right now and being overly sensitive because you are really into this person. But that's going to come off too intensely because I think you're taking this too fast, I don't think he's at the same pace with you...I think he likes you but now you're kind of doing what a lot of women (even though you're a guy) do in a situation where they let their emotions drag the relationship into a one-dynamic/high expectations scenario where it's all about how you feel. Your message I'm sure was appreciated and he did reciprocate just not to the same degree but I think you're asking for a lot because you seem to be diving in too far. You're just that kind of sensitive person that seems to become so into someone you start to quickly revolve your world around them. You need to start taking things just day by day and slower...don't let your emotions turn you into a psycho thinking about every little detail trying to make a discovery like you're observing some ancient artifact, just calm down and stop obsessing over it by taking preoccupying your mind and putting more energy and focus into other things...that way you can let things slow down a bit and not overwhelm a person because typically a very desperate type individual that's overly emotional doesn't make that person feel special It just makes you look crazy and have a reason to be single as you're just a clinger and cling to anyone you get your hands on and feel a spark of chemistry with...not a good place to be. You need to just let more things happen...you're doing way too much with way too little, it's just madness. You are absolutely right in fact this is what the majority of my friends have told me too. He just got out of a relationship almost 2 months ago, and when we first chatted he already told me how he'd like to take things slow with the next guy in his relationship because it wouldn't be fair if he sees them as a rebound or something. Is it too late to fix things? Did I already ruin things by confessing to him how I feel? Did I already scare him away? Everything went PERFECTLY up until Sunday afternoon.. right after the oral sex and the long message... I have been freaking out over it .. He didn't even send me a good morning message today sigh.. Is it even possible to lose all feelings just like that? I seriously thought he really liked me, I would never do 1/4th of what he did to me to someone I am not interested in.. let alone replying back to them.. But he did all of that to me, yet I'm still being paranoid and freaking out.. I don't know what's wrong with me. We're both 20 btw
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