Pod81 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 What are the chances that I've had contact with two of my ex's on the same weekend? One of them I've been in NC for more than a year (BU was almost 2 years ago) and I've been in NC for 5 weeks (BU about 6 weeks ago). It's as if God or some unseen force is testing my resolve... So the first encounter involved my ex when I was in graduate school. I ran into her at a conference involving the field that I work in. Turns out my co-worker is friends with her co-worker so they sat with each other and started chatting. As she came over to my table to join her co-worker, that's when she realized I was there and it was too late for her to turn back. I even noticed how awkward she acted - whispering into her friend's ear, texting on her phone, etc. Plus, I could tell it in her face that she didn't want any part of the situation which I found slightly amusing. It felt pretty good that I hid it a lot better than she did although I do admit it was awkward for the first few minutes. So we caught up and actually had decent 5 minute conversation or so. I'm back home from this conference now and she friends me again on FB (She unfriended me a year or so ago). Figured why not? I'm at the stage of total indifference - I have no feelings for her and I know she has no feelings for me because she's engaged now. Besides, I was the dumper in that relationship and it was due to her temper that I couldn't overlook. My advice for those of you who run into an ex unexpectedly is to hold your head up high, and act confident. How wussy would it have been if I had decided to get up and run away? And that thought did briefly cross my mind! So anyway, the most current ex (broke up due to GIGS on her end) decides to like a FB post of mine, which I thought was a bit unusual since she hasn't had any activity on my FB for about 2 months now. Honestly, I wasn't expecting any contact whatsoever for much longer. Anyways, I'm not analyzing this at all and I know this is just the most miniscule of breadcrumbs. Still have no temptations to look at any of her updates, blogs, etc and going strong with NC! I guess what they say about GIGS cases is true...and well, I wouldn't be surprised now if I get larger crumbs in the future. Will post here for advice when that happens!
Sugarkane Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 You're totally right it is best to act confident and happy. I hope I can do that if this ever happens to me.
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