livelife Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I've posted on here quite a bit, but its a long story. Basically i'm here now because my ex i'm pretty sure has lied to me and is now putting the blame on me, making me feel guilty and saying that me "nagging" has pushed him away, when all I have done is gone to him about problems ive had while we were trying to work on things. I also mentioned how.."what did I do to get you to stop caring?" He answered that question and i said wow...you just admitted to not caring about me.. He dodged that and answered another part of the text. I'm done texting him but i'm having a very low point right now. I'm just here to vent because each time I think about it I start to cry and i'm sick of crying. I haven't eaten much throughout this whole process of the break up (Early June) and my mom has commented on my weight loss. I'm sick of feeling like a bad person when I know i'm not.
john7474 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I know how you feel because i allowed my ex to makeme feel guilty because of our failed relationship. I was good to her also and put her happiness above my own. I realize now that could have parted the seas or moved the mountains and she wouldnt be happy. She was not happy inside b4 we got involved, how could she be happy in a long term relatioship? I realized no matter how much love i gave her, she would never change and the.relationship turned out to be all about her. When i began to voice my needs were not being met, she jumped ship. You should not feel guilty and first forgive yourself for any wrong doing u might have done in the relationship. 1
Author livelife Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Sounds like we're in the same spot... My sister has had enough with my stories of how hes treating me and she messaged him bc he wanted to message her the other day about me (when things were okay) and she said I hear you wanted to talk to me, whats up and he said theres nothing to talk about anymore, sorry for wasting your time. and she goes something along the lines of well i never wanted to talk to you in the first place. glad to hear youre finally leaving my sister alone. youre a douche. no time wasted here my friend. Hes now sending me a screenshot of that message saying "well thats awkward." I didn't respond. He sends another one..."I was being nice to her and got that in return..thats awkward." still I havent responded and I don't plan on it.
AlexanderJames Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Good girl Now update this every morning or every night or both with how you feel. Keep tabs on your progress and vent all the ****ty thoughts and get the things you feel like saying off of your chest. Even things you want to say to douche face pop em on here so he doesn't get to feel like a victim. Stay strong for me 1
Author livelife Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 He texted me again shortly after i didnt respond getting all mad saying it looked like I was having a fine time moving on (I posted online I was going to dinner and a movie...it was with my mom. hahaha.) He started claiming that it shows I don't care because I wasn't chasing him...The guy ****ing told me he didnt care anymore...does he REALLY expect me to be THAT desperate and chase his ass after someone says that? No way. So I woke up today, a little upset, went back to sleep, and im trying to now just get through the day. Im feeling okay right now, but I know itll all hurt when I'm in my bed tonight. I have work tonight and tomorrow morning so atleast that'll keep me busy.
jmjacobs31 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 You're ex sounds like my ex. He loves to shift all the blame on me. He told some of his friends he doesn't like how I nag him to do stuff around the house. Well guess what buddy.... welcome to relationships!! Ha! One time after we broke up he texted me telling me I got a doctor bill in the mail and asking what it was for and if I was ok etc... well when I didn't tell him what it was about he got all pissy and I thought stop acting like you care.. on and its none of your business. I too lost a lot of weight, about 20lbs total. Went from 140 to 120 in less then a month and a half. Now that things have settled down a bit I am back up to 125 and I have my appetite back and am eating normal again. Just keep in mind when you deprive your body of food it makes it harder for you to think straight. I also started to see a therapist. She has helped so much!! She has helped me see that I am not the bad guy here, and shes opened my eyes into what kind of person my ex really is. I would really suggest counseling if its possible.
Author livelife Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 It's honestly awful. i don't know how after he says he doesn't care he expects me to go begging to him. Not going to happen. If he hadn't told me that, yes I probably would have tried to get him back, but not after he says that... I have thought about counseling. I'm going to see how the next weeks play out with me and how I feel for that. Talking to friends has helped a lot when I tell them the story and they are just like whhhat....you deserve sooo much better than to date someone like that.
Sugarkane Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 My ex did exactly the same thing. They don't want to be seen as Aholes by everyone else, so they play victim. I'm 99.9% sure my ex was cheating and had someone else already.
Author livelife Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 I don't think my ex was cheating on anyone, but when we broke up and claimed we weren't going to hook up with anyone, I think he broke that promise.
Author livelife Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 I'm having another weak moment. Why do I keep wanting to work things out with this jerk? It's done. It's over. I NEED to freaking accept it.
AlexanderJames Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Come to Australia and have a getaway with me :3 Just keep staying strong the weak moment will pass
Sugarkane Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Come to Australia and have a getaway with me :3 Just keep staying strong the weak moment will pass Are you an Aussie too?
AlexanderJames Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Are you an Aussie too? I'm an Adelaide boy Where abouts are you? Nevermind lol. Says right under your name. I'm dense as hell sometimes
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