AlexanderJames Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I've posted so much on the breakups page since joining up I thought I'd come see what the other parts are like. Not sure if theres all that much point to posting what I'm about to but some genious might come out with some golden advice that I havent considered or something I dunno. I'll try to keep it short, dont want to turn it into a journal. I've been friends with this girl for a little while now. I met her a while ago through friends and was instantly attracted to her. I had a friend who was chasing her so I just got to knew her as a friend and hung out with her from time to time. We get along pretty well, always enjoy each others company. We were at a house pool party not long after meeting, It was the first time she'd seen me without a shirt on. When I took it off she said "Oh god someone has a body", blushed and then seemed like she was lost for words. She asked to take a photo of me haha, I let her. Anyway things between her and my mate didnt go anywhere so he gave up and she started dating some absolute dick. It didn't last long, he was abusive and controlling. I was always there for her when things where bad and she needed to talk. I figured this put me in the friendzone. I was angry that a guy like him could score a girl like her, but happy that he was dumb enough to let her get away. We started hanging out a bit more after this, but I had figured myself to be in the friendzone so I didnt make any attempts to get closer to her. One time we were at the beach just tanning and having a laugh and she out of nowhere said "I've never realised how amazing your eyes are they're gorgeous". Made me feel pretty nice haha. Put the friendzone crap behind me and decided to see where things could go. Most people, mostly men, will know what I'm talking bout here but I made lots of efforts to talk to her and catch up via txt but never really got anything. She would txt back if i txt her but never really engaging convos. And if I didnt txt her for a week or so I wouldnt hear from her. So I stopped trying so hard and we didnt hang out for a while. Eventually she started saying we dont hang out enough anymore and invited me to her house for drinks with friends and to hang out. I met her mum and step dad and they both really liked me which is good. At one point during the night she got her phone out and showed me a photo she had. It was the topless photo of me on he phone 6 months later. Dont know if that counts for much though haha. Not long after that I invited her to the movies with me, on the day we planned to go she said "My housemate really wants to see the movie but isnt free til next week, want to go then?". I told her I was looking forward to it being just us two and she said she felt the same so we went and saw something else. It didnt really feel like a date though, more like two friends hanging out. It wasn't awkward at all it was great fun, just didnt involve any of the date stuff. Plus a couple of times she mentioned how she had gone out over the weekend and got a few guys phone numbers and stuff. Anyway after I dropped her off she started txting me saying she had a great time and thanking me. Since then we have been txting and talking most days. If I dont message her for a day she will message me that night. Not like earlier when she would go weeks without talking to me. It's not really flirty stuff or anything though. It's weird with other girls I've never had trouble being playful or flirty but I think maybe because I'm not sure if we're just good friends or whatever that I dont wanna make a dick of myself. We went to a party this weekend and I was the first person she came and said hello to. And she didnt really leave my side for most of the night. We went from the party to town but got split up in town. She was upset that we didnt stick together for the night... Kinda bummed me out too. People think I have a chance here? Any tips on how to get her interest if it's not already there? Thinking I'll invite her out to the movies again or to dinner or something and see what she says. Just confused with the mixed signals of her going out with me, but talking about getting attention and numbers from hot guys. I guess there's only one way to find out though huh, be a man and ask
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