Eternal Sunshine Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 You remembered the tour bus theory!! I remember all your theories 1
SunandMoon Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Dude, you gotta start moisturizing... Lol! It's mostly when I had a beard, I think. When clean shaven I look like I'm ten. Besides I've been told I have nice skin! *Pout* 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Lol! It's mostly when I had a beard, I think. When clean shaven I look like I'm ten. Besides I've been told I have nice skin! *Pout* I think you mentioned that you are overweight? That will easily add 10 years to your age....
SunandMoon Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I think you mentioned that you are overweight? That will easily add 10 years to your age.... Yeah, by about 30lbs or so. And really? Did not know that... Working on it!
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Yeah, by about 30lbs or so. And really? Did not know that... Working on it! Definitely. Are you losing hair or going grey? That's another thing that will make a guy look older...
amaysngrace Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'm the opposite, I've been told I look to be in my mid thirties (apparently ) but I'm 23. My advice...more moon, less sun. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 My advice...more moon, less sun. See, you're funny too!
amaysngrace Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 See, you're funny too! I was trying to be helpful.
oaks Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 In terms of physical attraction, I find that people more than approximately 5 years older than me tend to "look old" to me in a way that makes them unattractive for dating. There are exceptions, and of course people aren't walking down the street with their age pinned to their chest. At the other end of the spectrum, people more than (again, approximately) 10 years younger tend to "look young", with the same problem. But, I also know that someone 10 years younger than me might be at a very different stage of life and might want very different things, so it's rare that I bother trying with an age gap like that. So, yes, I prefer to date people around my own age (late 30s), but with a spread that dips more to the younger end than the older end.
SunandMoon Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 My advice...more moon, less sun. Too bad I love nature!...yet I'm a hermit. That may be contradictory.. Shoulda just named myself Paradox. Definitely. Are you losing hair or going grey? That's another thing that will make a guy look older... Thinning hair, ya.
Radu Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Guy, 29. My last gf was 23, we broke up when i was 28. I tend to go for 'just out of college' or 'last yr of college'. 22 is ideal, though at that age i have great difficulty finding a good one because those girls tend to listen too much to their own gf's, they need to 'sign off' on me. As of yesterday i have 2 grey hairs on my chin. I need to lose some weight [50 pounds or more], and i'm considering turning octo-lacto-vegetarian to keep myself in better shape. Thinning hair on top of my head.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Another thing I want to add is that older men are not so much turned off by the fact that I am divorced so young. Before when I first started dating I was so mortified to tell a guy that I was a 21 year old divorce, and many of the guys I dated were kind about it, but made it clear it threw them off... Again, not a generalization, just from what I have seen. I have dated some great guys in my age group though who were just fine with it as well.
TG1 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Since I am a 22 year old guy, I love dating girls who are either the same age as me or younger but the oldest I will go for a girl if she is older than me is if she is a year or 2 older than me
veggirl Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Yeah I prefer around my age. Biggest age gap I dated was when I was 23 and the guy was 29, I thought that was a lot. I felt very childish around him, could be because he was divorced and had a child, lol so we were in VERY different places in our lives. Beyond that, all my BFs have been within a year of my age, other than my current BF, he is 27.
veggirl Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Yes, and that just takes away from the "connection". You want someone on the same wave-length who is going to experience "the firsts": marriage, kids etc with you. this is a big thing for me, too, the "firsts". If my BF and I were to not work out (can't imagine that tbh), I really doubt I'd be dating older guys because most in their 30s will have an ex wife or babies. when I get married, I want it to be a first for us both, same with if I have children. I understand at some point I wouldn't be able to be picky on that, I suppose, but I haven't hit that time yet 4
Anela Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I think for me, being 33, I was a late bloomer and don't have the relationship experience women my age have. I feel uncomfortable with older men who already have marriage and kids thing behind them (and most men over 35 do). I also hate how some men over 35 let themselves go and look like my dad. Having said that, I most attracted to people who had comparable life/relationship experience to me, regardless of age. Same here, and I'm a few years older than you.
Els Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Age isn't a huge factor for me, but by some stroke of fate all the guys I've ever been with happened to be exactly the same age as I. It's really strange. There's absolutely no reason for it - they weren't even in the same college class and I didn't exclude anyone else purely because of age, it just... happened. That being said, I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with preferring to date people around your age range. Your example of acquaintances dating 50 year old men at 20 kinda squicks me too, to be honest. I mean, each to their own, but I can't imagine looking at a man of that age and seeing him as anything more than a father (or grandfather!) figure. Even 10+ years older is iffy, straying a little into uncle territory.
Emilia Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I like men much younger than me, probably because I don't care for having kids and getting married. I'm 40 and tend to date men in their 20s. I just find it easier
Lonely Ronin Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'm 32, at the moment, and I would say my current dating range is 24-36. With that being said I feel like i have a lot more in common with women in the 26-34 age range. the youngest I've ever dated was 5 years younger, and the oldest I've ever dated was 3 years older.
kaylan Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) In terms of a legit relationship Id like a girl to be in her 20s, preferably early to mid 20s. (im 25) Im open for a fling and casual dating with women in their 30s and 40s, but I know realistically it wont lead anywhere. Different interests, different places in life, etc It is pretty common knowledge that women typically mature at a younger age than men. Not ALL, same as the fact that not ALL older men are mature. Untrue.Women mature physically at a younger age and thus older men start making a B line for those women. Women arent more mature on a personality level though. Thats just the line older men tell young women so they can get into her pants. In my experience its young people are immature in general, regardless of gender. And its because of this that I prefer my women to be at least 22. Edited July 23, 2012 by kaylan
Author Seductive Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Yes, and that just takes away from the "connection". You want someone on the same wave-length who is going to experience "the firsts": marriage, kids etc with you. I agree completely. So glad that some people here share my views. When I say grow old together, I mean to have the same experiences at the same time in our lives. I can't fathom having kids with a 40 year old.
Radu Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Another thing I want to add is that older men are not so much turned off by the fact that I am divorced so young. Before when I first started dating I was so mortified to tell a guy that I was a 21 year old divorce, and many of the guys I dated were kind about it, but made it clear it threw them off... Again, not a generalization, just from what I have seen. I have dated some great guys in my age group though who were just fine with it as well. Yeah, that's because of two reasons mostly : - if you are in your avatar, they wanted to get into your skivvies - they were desensitized to divorce or went through a bad divorce and probably thought yours must have been bad I'd usually go with the former instead of the latter though. kaylan, mentally, girls have an advantage over guys. They start playing and being aware with relationships at a much younger age [what do you think Barbie and Ken are ?], and their brains are hardwired to spend more time analyzing relationships. I am discounting players here.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Yeah, that's because of two reasons mostly : - if you are in your avatar, they wanted to get into your skivvies - they were desensitized to divorce or went through a bad divorce and probably thought yours must have been bad I'd usually go with the former instead of the latter though. kaylan, mentally, girls have an advantage over guys. They start playing and being aware with relationships at a much younger age [what do you think Barbie and Ken are ?], and their brains are hardwired to spend more time analyzing relationships. I am discounting players here. Really? So the only reason why I get dates now is because they think one or the other? Bummer. Well I guess I am doomed then. Seriously though, older men tend to be more understanding, and that is with me dating single ones who have NOT been divorced, and whom of which I did not put out for.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 In terms of a legit relationship Id like a girl to be in her 20s, preferably early to mid 20s. (im 25) Im open for a fling and casual dating with women in their 30s and 40s, but I know realistically it wont lead anywhere. Different interests, different places in life, etc Untrue.Women mature physically at a younger age and thus older men start making a B line for those women. Women arent more mature on a personality level though. Thats just the line older men tell young women so they can get into her pants. In my experience its young people are immature in general, regardless of gender. And its because of this that I prefer my women to be at least 22. I disagree. I don't want to start a gender war though, I have just seen for myself that women tend to mature at a faster pace than men do.
veggirl Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 In my experience its young people are immature in general, regardless of gender. And its because of this that I prefer my women to be at least 22. Word, totally agree with this. A 20 yr old girl is no more mature than a 20 yr old guy. They may want different things sometimes, but that doesn't mean one is more mature than the other. they are both crazy immature 1
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