Seductive Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) I'm in my late 20's, but I've been told by several people that age shouldn't matter when you're dating. I've also had friends encourage me to date men that are at least 10 years older than me or more. With all due respect, there's nothing wrong with how old a person is. I don't mean to disrespect anyone that's much older than me either by making this thread. When it comes to attraction, I can't bring myself to have that natural chemistry with men that are much older than me. I just picture my father when a man in his 40's or 50's asks me out. I'm the most attracted to people that are in their late 20's and early 30's. It's not just about sexual attraction, but it's also about having more in common and being able to grow old together. Yes, I know that an older person may look younger than they are or that an older person may be healthier than his/her younger partner. I'm sure there are happy relationships where two people are many years apart, but I can't see myself doing it. I wanted to know if anyone else feels the same way? Do you have a strong preference to date people within your age range? If an older man strictly prefers a woman much younger than him, I don't see anything wrong with young women preferring men as young as them or only just a few years older. Come to think of it, the people that encourage me to date older men are also in their 40's and 50's (like a few female acquaintances I have) or they're young female friends in marriages with men that are a lot older than them. Edited July 23, 2012 by Seductive
monkey00 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'm kind of the same. If I'm in a relationship I would need to be with someone who's in their mid-20's to late 20's (like me). Any other extremes represents a wide gap that the person may likely not fill unless they have a similar mindset to me in terms of stage in life and maturity. Women that are much older than me may want to retain control of the relationship, which I probably wouldn't accept. So ideally they have to fall within that range. There's a reason why people date others who are in the same range, it's because of the same life experiences that bring them together.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I prefer to date older, only around 5-10 years though. 1
Author Seductive Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Thanks for your reply, monkey. Just curious-has anyone told you were too picky or shallow for having set age requirements? I agree with your point about dating older women. I don't think it would be a good idea for me to date someone in their early 20's either. I could definitely see a power imbalance there.
Forever Silent Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 My age or greater. Since I am 22, then 22 and up. Would date down depending on maturity level.
Author Seductive Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Miss Jaclyn-5 years older than me is fine for me.
amaysngrace Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'm that way too. I prefer guys my own age, give or take a couple of years.
USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I personally never understood women's appeal for significantly older men...but I'll date any age...
tina783 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I am 29 dating a 41 year old. It is going very well and he is amazing. 3
monkey00 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Thanks for your reply, monkey. Just curious-has anyone told you were too picky or shallow for having set age requirements? Actually no one's questioned me for being picky or shallow about it, but no one has asked me about it either heh. But aside from the age thing, I do wonder if I am too picky sometimes...but nothing wrong with having standards. Otherwise you're just desperate.
mesmerized Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Definitely around my own age. More than 5 years age difference seems too much to me now.
SmileFace Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I always dated older (+8 years). Then I decided, "Hey Smile! Enjoy you youth - date your peers!" Then they all turned out to be flakes, immature or taken and full of drama. The End.
ThaWholigan Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'll be 24 next month, and I very much prefer women in their 20s. I have an affinity with girls in their early 20s, but I must admit I'm much more physically attracted to girls mid-late 20s, they start to get that full-body shape that women get when they start to reach 30, and it's so sexy, especially when they are in decent shape . 1
Author Seductive Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Refined question. How many WOMEN here prefer to date men around their age? I thank the men's replies, but I too also wonder is it common for 20-something women to date significantly older men? Don't get me wrong. I did go on three dates with a 37 year old when I was 27. I was just trying to be open-minded and give it a shot. But, it went exactly as I thought. I wasn't feeling anything. He was nice to hang out with, but it stopped there. I couldn't see myself getting intimate with him or relating to him on an emotionally intimate level.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Prefer comparable looks and maturity regardless of age. Or better in both cases.
iris219 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I'm 33 and would date about 3 years down and 15 years up. I prefer 5-10 years older. Most of my friends prefer people their own age.
USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Don't get me wrong. I did go on three dates with a 37 year old when I was 27. I was just trying to be open-minded and give it a shot. But, it went exactly as I thought. I wasn't feeling anything. He was nice to hang out with, but it stopped there. I couldn't see myself getting intimate with him or relating to him on an emotionally intimate level. And this is what I would expect from a woman dating a significantly older man, so I too wonder what the hell they're thinking... I always dated older (+8 years). Then I decided, "Hey Smile! Enjoy you youth - date your peers!" Then they all turned out to be flakes, immature or taken and full of drama. The End. But aren't younger women this way too...? Should men be dating older women...?
Bob_Funk Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I I'm 25 and prefer girls 17-25. But really I'd date any woman who's under 40 and height-weight proportionate.
brahmabull117 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 What "full body shape" are you talking about? You mean they get fatter? probably this - http://www.jaimekoeppe.com/images/nlg/fashion1.jpg 1
SmileFace Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 But aren't younger women this way too...? Should men be dating older women...? Yeah, but what are the odds that guys are really going to turn down some young tail? We have the idea that we are so mature and older guys seem to have no problem feeding us that dream. Until they are three months and your attraction doesn't do it anymore and they see how immature a 19 year old really is. Such is life.. I say the only way to solve this is to just not date..lol
ThaWholigan Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 probably this - http://www.jaimekoeppe.com/images/nlg/fashion1.jpg Yeah, that^ That shape. The body looks less girlish and more womanly. 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I personally never understood women's appeal for significantly older men...but I'll date any age... What do you consider significant? For me, my dating range is based on lifestyle. Too many men my age are just into partying and haven't really honed in on what they want to do with their lives. I prefer someone more settled.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 And this is what I would expect from a woman dating a significantly older man, so I too wonder what the hell they're thinking... But aren't younger women this way too...? Should men be dating older women...? It is pretty common knowledge that women typically mature at a younger age than men. Not ALL, same as the fact that not ALL older men are mature.
brahmabull117 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 What do you consider significant? For me, my dating range is based on lifestyle. Too many men my age are just into partying and haven't really honed in on what they want to do with their lives. I prefer someone more settled. If a guy approached you who was your age and was very attractive and seemed pretty settled, would you still turn him down?
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