The Tallest One Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Hi all! Having a tough weekend! Been pretty depressed! Just really lonely! Tried to spend as much time this past week keeping super busy but when I'm alone I almost can't bare it! Relationship has been over almost a month now and I know it's for the best but I am just so hurting! My life is a complete mess and should not be this way at 42! Even when I see my kids or when I'm with family I still feel lonely! Just miss affection, tenderness, companionship! Last four years of my life have been a nightmare and I just want to wake up from it! Loneliness is a terrible feeling!
CopingGal Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Hi. Sorry for your pain. You said you have been broken up for a month, but the last for years of your life have been a nightmare...why? If the relationship was that bad, maybe it's good that it's over. On a friendly note....considering the mass murder at the Batman movie, have you thought about chaning your avatar?
Author The Tallest One Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Sorry, I should clarify, my ex wife left me four years ago and things have been tough! My last relationship was with a gf and she's a hard one to get over! Yes I will change my avatar, thanks!
edwards99 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I am with ya buddy..its hard..we are in the same spot..the alone time is when our minds work overtime..nothing but time is helping..
Author The Tallest One Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Edwards99, it does suck! At least my holidays are over and I'm back to work! Its nice to be around people. What's been happening to you?
dayslikelikethis Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Loneliness sure is tough. My breakup has been about 5 weeks ago and it's killin me. I'm 39 so I can relate to your "My life shouldn't be such a mess at this age". I work from home too, so I am not in the company of others much.. I find myself checking her FB, coming back to LS, etc.... I have found myself having insomnia at night (thinking about what she's doing and if she is laying next to another), sleeping in late in the day, work is lacking, and overall just depressed. How long ago was your breakup with your GF? How long were you two together? Personally, I felt more feelings for my ex (of 6 months) than I had for my ex wife at any point! I thought this was a once in a lifetime connection. I can relate to your loneliness. Have you been getting out and meeting new people? I have been to bars to drown my sorrows, but I guess that's not exactly a healthy plan of action to take. lol.
Author The Tallest One Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Dayslikelikethis, I was with my ex gf for almost fifteen months on and off! I too loved her more than my ex wife and I also though my ex gf was "the one"! I litterally force myself not to think of her but it's tough! If I spend more than a few seconds thinking about her, it becomes very painful! When my wife left and took our two boys, I was devastated! Two years later I met ex gf and she blew my mind! Georgeous, sexy, great in bed, a blast to be with! We hit it off great but over time, our issues took a toll and things just fell flat! I am doing better than even a week ago but I have to take priscrition sleeping pills to sleep, and I also sleep too late! The appetite isn't good either!
broken-and-lost Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Sorry to hear about your situation, it does really suck and i can relate being 39 myself it's tough because you assume your life should be sorted though i had the girl of my dreams and everything was great then just got taken away makes it hard to move forward been over a 1 half still not pulled myself together yet the loneliness does suck a lot. trying to keep busy is the best thing you can do
Coffee20 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 really sorry that you feel like that can understand it, I am still very young though. I just realized that is better for me to let my brain to think and analyze my ex over and over because if I try not to, then I think about him even more. So I always have time in my day when I think about him, usually it's in the morning after I wake up. I hope you feel better today
Author The Tallest One Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Coffee20, hi!, I have already spent a lot of time processing and analysing her and the relationship. I just need to move forward and not keep looking into the past! It's not easy when you don't know what the future holds and in the meantime you have to take it day by day. Sometimes the loneliness and boredom can get to us at times!
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