tryingtofindmyway24 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) I am in love with an immature man-child. He is verbally abusive and used to be physical on both ends mines and his, but we are past that point now. He claims he loves me but hangs on to a grudge of me breaking up with him over a year ago in hopes of trying to find myself after a horrible divorce from my hs sweetheart of almost 4rs. When we first met I told him that I didnt want a relationship, but he keep forcing the issue so I wasrushed into being with him without ever really being on my on during the divorce process. I have been with my man-child since the 3rd day my ex-husband left me to be with his other life (yes, he was living a double-life) so as you can see when I met the man-child I was already mentally unstable to date, especially finding out that my whole marriage and time with my then husband was a lie after 9yrs of been with only him. Dating the man-child I experienced what I just came to learn is G.I.G.S (grass is greener syndrome) he rushed me into a relationship that I really didn't want to be in becuz at the time I was still trying to figured out what the hack was happening with my marriage. At first he wasn't a man-child to me or maybe he was all along, but I was too blind to see because he was a shoulder that I could cry on someone to help me get over what was happening to me so he seemed like an Angel to me. I have now come to realize that our relationship is not going anywhere and it saddens my heart because he holds the grudge of me breaking up with him 2 months into our relationship after my G.I.G.S due to the rushed relationship just as I was rushed in and out of my marriage, just after us dating for two weeks he told my mom that he was her new son-in-law during my divorce process. Now, he is very immature does not want to do anything with himself and he tells me that he doesnt care if I leave or does he care? I dont know what to do because its like I really love him or am I just afraid of being alone because I never actually been alone,ever! I'm 24yrs he is 23yrs and I got married at the age of 19yrs and my divorce just got finaled this year and Man-child was there every step of the way, but now he does not comfront me anymore and could really care less if I cry, he even laughs sometimes. He just sits and plays his xbox and tells me that he doesnt care if he ever sees me again or what happens to me all because I broke up with him almost a year ago for 3weeks trying to find myself, but we got right back together and I actually was considering down the road marrying him. Are these signs to leave and move out now even when I know that he can't afford the rent on his own. He says he doesnt care about me, but its hard to believe even though his actions shows he can careless about me. Should I even feel sorry for him if I just up and leave move-out without warning.... He said he doesnt care if he ever sees me again? What should I do...? He does not want to do anything with himself and now he's bringing me down also...after us living and jumping right into a relationship during the divorce process and been together since then for 1.5 yrs. Edited July 23, 2012 by tryingtofindmyway24 add
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