always_searching Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Okay. I think the fates are against me. First, two weeks ago I finally decide to really embrace having a girlfriend and happily hold her hand in public when her ex-girlfriend sees us, walks over to us and totally goes off on us in the mall. I mean, I tried to be understanding--tried to appreciate where she was coming from, but now THIS: After weeks of my girlfriend and I being on edge about everything that's going on i.e. her ex, their mutual friends turning against her, my dealing with leaving the church, we were FINALLY enjoying each other--not planning on describing, but you can feel free to use your imagination--when there's a knock on the door. Yeah, guess who? She came to apologize for how things have been going down for the past two weeks, which is really commendable. But now she's trying to get my girlfriend to go to her house and to spend time with her. Though I would be fine with them being friends, my girlfriend said, "No," and the ex left... And then she came back. She's still here and I'm really--REALLY--trying to be understanding, but I swear to GOD, I am about ready to scream. Someone please give me some words of comfort, because I'm about ready to lose it. :mad:
madjac74 Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 The ex seems very possessive and stalkerish and that could not only be bad for your relationship but could become dangerous for your girlfriend. Hopefully the ex just gives up and goes away but you may want to start documenting things in case you have to get a restraining order or something in the future. I suppose that wasn't exactly comforting
Author always_searching Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Thanks, madjac74. Haha, yeah, that's not very comforting, but you bring up a good point. I know that break-ups are hard and she was with my girlfriend for four years--they have a lot of history. I mean, I get it. That being said, I feel like two months of them having been broken up should be long enough to get over it at least to the point of not just showing up at my girlfriend's house uninvited. Especially when she knows she has a new girlfriend. Dear God, I just don't know. I too am worried for my girlfriend. I mean, I don't think her ex is crazy, or at least I didn't until she came back... Right now she isn't acting very balanced. They're outside. I just hope my girl is treading carefully...
Eddie Edirol Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 If your GF doesnt tell her ex to get lost permenently, this will keep happening. If she is too worried about closing the door, you might have to ditch her. Her ex is most likely to wiggle her way back into your gf's life, which is a BIG disrespect to you. But if YOU say something your gf will get upset. So if she doesnt wan to close the door on her ex because of this behavior, then I will assume your gf wants her ex in her life.
Author always_searching Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Oh my GOD! It's 10pm and she's back. AHHHHHH!!!! Someone please pinch me and tell me this isn't happening... Eddie Edirol: Obviously you're right. I initially thought I was going to freak out. Nope. I just feel like crying at this point.
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