socrushed Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 what does it mean when this girl at work flirted with me crazily, then i asked her out and she rejected me. now i've been ignoring her and not giving her attention and we only see each other once every two weeks. when i walked in and ignored her, she said "hi *name*..." without smiling. she usually smiles and is very bubbly. then later on i saw her looking at me for at least 10 seconds with a pouty face.. what happened was i made eye contact, then quickly looked away, and when i looked back 5 seconds later she was still looking at me. so i smiled, and she smiled a little, then i looked away and went back to work... why she doing this to me wtf. she already rejected me... b itch..
Casablanca Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 what does it mean when this girl at work flirted with me crazily, then i asked her out and she rejected me. now i've been ignoring her and not giving her attention and we only see each other once every two weeks. when i walked in and ignored her, she said "hi *name*..." without smiling. she usually smiles and is very bubbly. then later on i saw her looking at me for at least 10 seconds with a pouty face.. what happened was i made eye contact, then quickly looked away, and when i looked back 5 seconds later she was still looking at me. so i smiled, and she smiled a little, then i looked away and went back to work... why she doing this to me wtf. she already rejected me... b itch.. Women make no sense, hate to say it ladies. I love you all, but some things they do drive me nuts. Maybe she only flirted for an ego thing, or maybe she is one of those girls who thinks most guys who flirt with her just do it for fun and have no serious intentions (see the thread about why women don't assume an outing between her and a guy is a date)/thinks the guy realizes she is just flirting for fun She does have to realize that you need a little bit of time, not a lot, to recover from getting rejected. It is weird at first, and give it a week or two and that feeling should go away. I wouldn't look too much into it. It isn't her changing her mind about being interested, if she did, she'll let you know
Author socrushed Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Women make no sense, hate to say it ladies. I love you all, but some things they do drive me nuts. Maybe she only flirted for an ego thing, or maybe she is one of those girls who thinks most guys who flirt with her just do it for fun and have no serious intentions (see the thread about why women don't assume an outing between her and a guy is a date)/thinks the guy realizes she is just flirting for fun She does have to realize that you need a little bit of time, not a lot, to recover from getting rejected. It is weird at first, and give it a week or two and that feeling should go away. I wouldn't look too much into it. It isn't her changing her mind about being interested, if she did, she'll let you know oh.. well it's been like 6 months since she rejected me and since i haven't really talked to her. feelings not quite gone, but i always want to avoid her because seeing her hurts. i wish she wasn't so attractive then i wouldn't think twice about this. you said she'll let me know if she's interested, but several times she tried to talk to me again and get really flirty and i don't know if that was her way of trying to let me know or not.
Casablanca Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 oh.. well it's been like 6 months since she rejected me and since i haven't really talked to her. feelings not quite gone, but i always want to avoid her because seeing her hurts. i wish she wasn't so attractive then i wouldn't think twice about this. you said she'll let me know if she's interested, but several times she tried to talk to me again and get really flirty and i don't know if that was her way of trying to let me know or not. I'd just ignore it, if she wants to go out, she'll ask you out, her just flirting is her just being her from the sounds of it. Don't look too much into it
darkmoon Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 (edited) pouty face = spoiled brat, say goodbye or have pouty kids with her, i say no xx she might have expected you to chase her which is not nice for a man so pout back and leave her alone Edited July 22, 2012 by darkmoon
Snowman219 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Women make no sense, hate to say it ladies. I love you all, but some things they do drive me nuts. Maybe she only flirted for an ego thing, or maybe she is one of those girls who thinks most guys who flirt with her just do it for fun and have no serious intentions (see the thread about why women don't assume an outing between her and a guy is a date)/thinks the guy realizes she is just flirting for fun She does have to realize that you need a little bit of time, not a lot, to recover from getting rejected. It is weird at first, and give it a week or two and that feeling should go away. I wouldn't look too much into it. It isn't her changing her mind about being interested, if she did, she'll let you know Yes the more you ignore these little attention seeking whores the better. Thankfully I work in a place where they speak mostly Spanish so I don't have to listen to them whine. It's just blaah blah blah blah to me.
Author socrushed Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 ****, i talked to this other guy at work and he works at her shift sometimes. he's like a playa type. i asked him how he liked the other shift, he said it's great as long as he's sitting next to *her name*. what do i do now.
Tulsy Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 ****, i talked to this other guy at work and he works at her shift sometimes. he's like a playa type. i asked him how he liked the other shift, he said it's great as long as he's sitting next to *her name*. what do i do now. What do you mean "what do I do"? There is nothing for you to do. Let it go. She's a d1c tease...she wants you to want her, but she won't actually reciprocate. Forget about it. She's not into you anyways, who cares if she's hot...her attitude is ugly.
Author socrushed Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 what about that guy that's probably flirting with her like crazy now... he has really strong confidence and has more muscles than me. god damn, see, i couldve gotten her if i actually had game. i'm like 60% sure of this. in our previous interactions, i did the exact right moves to KILL all sexual attraction. acting all nervous, shy, withdrawn, not showing any type of emotional response to her flirting at all because i'm so anxious and scared. and just portraying a vibe of desperation and neediness.. the opposite of how i treated her before she started flirting with me. now this other guy's gonna pick her up easily. this is ****ed.
Tulsy Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 what about that guy that's probably flirting with her like crazy now... he has really strong confidence and has more muscles than me. god damn, see, i couldve gotten her if i actually had game. i'm like 60% sure of this. in our previous interactions, i did the exact right moves to KILL all sexual attraction. acting all nervous, shy, withdrawn, not showing any type of emotional response to her flirting at all because i'm so anxious and scared. and just portraying a vibe of desperation and neediness.. the opposite of how i treated her before she started flirting with me. now this other guy's gonna pick her up easily. this is ****ed. Could have gotten what? A d1c tease, and she won't stop teasing d1c even when this guy is poking her. You saved yourself a lot of heart ache, believe me.
Balzac Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Co-worker tapping it does nothing to change her demeanor or social maturity. If she was into you, her game would have picked up and she'd have let you know what she wanted.
Author socrushed Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 she did try to "game" me at one point. she flat up went up to me, grabbed my hand, asked me when we're going to go out, suggested friday, and we set a date on friday. supposedly some crazy **** came up, she was dealing with a divorce. it was the following week and the way i dealt with her that might have killed attraction or she met someone else during that time that i acted like a pus sy. how is it not a big deal that my coworker is gonna tap that. i want to cry just thinking about it.
KungFuJoe Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Crying always help. Along with self pity. Women LOVE that in a man.
Tulsy Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Crying always help. Along with self pity. Women LOVE that in a man. lol. Ya, I'm mean really...get it together dude. Why are you ready to cry over this chick, just cause she's into someone else? YOU WERE NEVER A COUPLE ANYWAYS, and she turned you down. I think you may have emotional problems...spend sometime on yourself, take care of you, get right...eat good, exercise, .... make yourself feel better about yourself. Improve your self-image, and don't worry about stuff you can't control (ie: other people). If you don't, you will suffer anxiety for nothing. There are many more fish in the sea, and this one has parasites anyways. Move on from this, and move towards a better you.
haribogumsnickers Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Just ask her out again. If she rejects you again, then immediately say "A double rejection equals a yes". Should work.
Tulsy Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Just ask her out again. If she rejects you again, then immediately say "A double rejection equals a yes". Should work. Terrible advice. Do not ask her out again.
USCGAviator Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Get off your knees and be a man! Maybe she was testing your fortitude. You should have brushed off her rejection and since then, bantered with her every time you saw her. What should bother you more than anything is knowing you probably could have had her in the palm of your hand, had you handled things differently.
Author socrushed Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 lol. Ya, I'm mean really...get it together dude. Why are you ready to cry over this chick, just cause she's into someone else? YOU WERE NEVER A COUPLE ANYWAYS, and she turned you down. I think you may have emotional problems...spend sometime on yourself, take care of you, get right...eat good, exercise, .... make yourself feel better about yourself. Improve your self-image, and don't worry about stuff you can't control (ie: other people). If you don't, you will suffer anxiety for nothing. There are many more fish in the sea, and this one has parasites anyways. Move on from this, and move towards a better you. i dreamt about her last night. i dreamt she was sitting there with a beanie on, looking really sad. something must've happened to her and she wasn't talking to me or anyone. i woke up with really strong feelings for her. why do i feel like i love her and she's the only girl for me? What should bother you more than anything is knowing you probably could have had her in the palm of your hand, had you handled things differently. it does man... i keep thinking about it now. if i just had game, i wouldve got her easily..... if i just worked on myself the past years and went out all the time to brush up on my game with girls instead of sitting in front of the computer/tv every night... ****
USCGAviator Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Crushed don't thing of it as "game" and you gotta stop the self pity. The dik tease comments kill me cause this is simply basic attraction and flirting. Women love to playfully flirt and laugh. If you can connect with them and portray confidence doing it youll be surprised how successful youll be. I'm guessing you feel your starting off at square one here. Bad news is you might not have a chance with this woman anymore. Good news is I may be wrong. Try building a playful friendship with the woman that once rejected you. This could end up being a good confidence builder for you and you might learn a thing or two. You also work with her so your not wasting time with her that you could be investing in someone else. All good positive things! Cup is always half full my man!! 1
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