headsashed Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Yesterday i was out walking the dog and i bumped into my friend,we got talking and who should appear and walk over to us,the ex. She knows my friend through me btw,she said hello to us both but i ignored her. She started telling my friend that she just bought a new car blah blah and that she was out last night with her friend and her ex before me. I didnt let this bother me at all,i didnt even look bothered that she was rubbing it in my face. Anyway,after i got home she txt me,ande believe me,i nearly fell off the sofa with laughing. Ill show you all the text message. hey,im not trying to rub things in your face,i want to be able to still talk to you and stuff,i do enjoy talking to you but i know we will still argue at times. I do still love you just not like i used to,im going to take it day by day with ***** ,i dunno if i want to be with him or not,i havent got a clue yet. I hope we can still be friends. Who does she think she is lol,i aint nobodies 2nd choice,emotional tampon or whatever it is she wants me to be. I never replied,i couldnt tbh,i was laughing too much. 1
Samilia Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Yesterday i was out walking the dog and i bumped into my friend,we got talking and who should appear and walk over to us,the ex. She knows my friend through me btw,she said hello to us both but i ignored her. She started telling my friend that she just bought a new car blah blah and that she was out last night with her friend and her ex before me. I didnt let this bother me at all,i didnt even look bothered that she was rubbing it in my face. Anyway,after i got home she txt me,ande believe me,i nearly fell off the sofa with laughing. Ill show you all the text message. hey,im not trying to rub things in your face,i want to be able to still talk to you and stuff,i do enjoy talking to you but i know we will still argue at times. I do still love you just not like i used to,im going to take it day by day with ***** ,i dunno if i want to be with him or not,i havent got a clue yet. I hope we can still be friends. Who does she think she is lol,i aint nobodies 2nd choice,emotional tampon or whatever it is she wants me to be. I never replied,i couldnt tbh,i was laughing too much. "Who does she think she is" is what came to my mind too.. she's basically making this movie in her head and making up the answers.. that's pretty funny indeed. Cute how she's letting the door open, just in case it doesn't work out with the guy.
fificremefarben Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Good on you for not replying! Not cool for her to send a message like that!
Ruby65 Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Unbelievable ego! And so typical of an ex -- it's all about her, her, her! Good for you for not responding.
Author headsashed Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Its always been about her,aslong as shes happy she doesnt care who gets hurt in the process,i forget to mention that earlier that day she called my phone,i didnt answer and then i got a txt saying she didnt mean to ring me,what a plank lol. My friend called me when i got home and he was sayin how he couldnt believe that shes rubbing things in my face,so i forwarded him the txt and he was like wow,she really is messed up,thinking i will still be there to pick up the pieces etc when things go wrong with her and her ex. Shes tryin to play with my heart strings and it aint working. I dont think this is the last ill hear from her either,but what she doesnt realise is that day by day im getting stronger and stronger. Its true when they say keeping contact only pushes and ex further away,cos shes pushing me into the next country,thats when chitown can buy me some drinks for being his friend 1
Dblock10 Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 nice one! yeah she's a head case. are you just going cold no replying at all on her? have you thought about saying your not interested in anything she wants to give, but thanks for the offer lol
tusharsolanki Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 great to see you so strong my freind... good going there.. keep up with the silent treatment..
Author headsashed Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Im cold turkey,i do get the urge from time to time to tell her to stfu and and leave me alone but its not worth my free txt lol. I know im being strong etc but that isnt stopping what im feeling inside,i still feel hurt,missing her etc but its the only way i can heal. For all i know shes banging him right now but NC helps like u wouldnt believe.What u dont know wont hurt right? the longer i stay NC the quicker i heal.
Author headsashed Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Think she might have got the hint,ive not heard anything since that txt. NC all the way,its not so hard anymore
Chi townD Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Dude, she's just trying to hurt you. If she wasn't, she would have never made it a point to mention her Ex in front of you. She's trying to get a rise out of you. BUT!!! What she doesn't realize is that you've been coming here and people have been giving you the tools on how to move on and see right through the Bullsh*t that she's trying to pull. And, to be honest, it's probably driving her crazy that she can't get a rise out of you anymore. Good job! 1
Author headsashed Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 thanx chi,so hows about that drink for being ur friend? haha. Ive not been at work this past week due to a broken rib so ive been reflecting on things a little,i was thinking about how bad i was last year when we broke up to how i am now. Last year i was a total mess,that much of a mess i cut my own wrists. This time around ive only hurt,not as much though but i have done everything right this time,as in new job,hobbies and all that malarky and its helped but what helped most this time around is NC. I aint 100% yet,im far from it but i no longer rise to her silly games or whatever shes doing,which shows im so much stronger that last year. I dont get why she would want to try hurt me anymore,shes nothing to gain from it. I do admit though that it did sting a bit when she mentioned her ex,but surely thats the worst news i could ever hear? and tbh it didnt even hurt that bad. I did see her last night too,driving past my house,a little later than usual but it aint her usual way home from work,wierd though because i was sat outside my house having a few drinks with my friend as the weather has been lovely here,plus my friends parents live next door to me. I know hes also friends with her on fb and he put his status that he was havin a drink in the sun with me,so who knows,maybe she was just checking up lol. I do find it a little strange though that ive not heard anything else from her since she mentioned things about her ex. In the end,if this is a game to her then she loses because i aint playing it,if she wants me on the back burner then shes got no chance,if she wants friends then she can bloody well go find someone. You were right though chi when u said that it wouldnt be the last i heard from her,u know her better than i do lol.
Chi townD Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I dont get why she would want to try hurt me anymore,shes nothing to gain from it. In a sick sorta way, she was trying to gain something. She was hoping that you would get mad, upset, yell, scream, cry....anything to get an emotional response out of you. Because, if she was able to do that, then she would know that you had SOME kind of feelings towards her. You would have given her an ego boost. Knowing that she can still get an emotional response from you. She would know that she was pulling on the leash and seeing the dog was still there. You did a good job. You gave her nothing. 1
Author headsashed Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 Ill continue to give her nothing aswell. I know im doing the right thing for me too,yes it still hurts and ignoring her is hard at times too but i know its the only way i can heal 100% . The hardest times for most people is when were drunk and the other week i was hammered lol,she was out too and txt/phoned me after i got home,i never responded and it made me feel good because i wasnt weak,i didnt bow down to her or buckle onto my knees when she contacted me. I know this bit is irrelevant but i did notice she has banged on a few pounds,not in a good way either. Ive actually put 5 pounds on which is good for me because im like a stick insect lol. Ill sono be wowing all the girls im sure,with my good looks and super charm haha. I just hope i can keep going from strenght to strength now and ignore things she chucks at me if she does.
g450 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Its always been about her,aslong as shes happy she doesnt care who gets hurt in the process,i forget to mention that earlier that day she called my phone,i didnt answer and then i got a txt saying she didnt mean to ring me,what a plank lol. My friend called me when i got home and he was sayin how he couldnt believe that shes rubbing things in my face,so i forwarded him the txt and he was like wow,she really is messed up,thinking i will still be there to pick up the pieces etc when things go wrong with her and her ex. Shes tryin to play with my heart strings and it aint working. I dont think this is the last ill hear from her either,but what she doesnt realise is that day by day im getting stronger and stronger. Its true when they say keeping contact only pushes and ex further away,cos shes pushing me into the next country,thats when chitown can buy me some drinks for being his friend She is obviously living on planet frutopia. But I have a question for you: Why are you playing these petty little juvenile games with her? Just block her damn number, sheesh! Why stoop to her level of maturity? (if you can even call it that) 1
Chi townD Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 He has! Head has a ....unique problem. The Ex lives a few doors down from him and he's changed his number a few times, but she always finds out the new number. He's letting go, but she loves to try and rattle his head up and NOW he learning to focus her out and it's pissing her off and Head is starting to find the humor in it.
Author headsashed Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 He has! Head has a ....unique problem. The Ex lives a few doors down from him and he's changed his number a few times, but she always finds out the new number. He's letting go, but she loves to try and rattle his head up and NOW he learning to focus her out and it's pissing her off and Head is starting to find the humor in it. You hit the nail on the head there chitown,i do find humur in this,all im doing is tryin to move on with my life,nothing else,im not playing any sort of games at all,everything she has chucked at me i ignore,simple as that. If i change my number then nothing will change,we live in a very close community,on the same street and have a very lot of mutual friends,so she will find out my new number if i was to change it or she will just turn up at my house,and it wont be the 1st time.,ask chitown,he knows her like the back of his hand lol. On a side note,ive met a new girl,we have been talking for a few weeks and she wants to meet next week. Ive been honest with her bout everything and she has too,were kind of in the same situtation,ive told her im not ready for a RS but we can still meet as friends and have a good time,she has agreed. Ive kept this quiet too because if my ex finds out im sure she will have something to say about it and i cba with the hassle off her. Ive not heard from the ex in 3 days so maybe shes moving on now with her new bf and i can live in peace now.
edelveis Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 You have to ignore her my friend.do not even reply and continue your life.you are on the right away and you are doing great!keep being strong!
Sugarkane Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) I had a similar experience. The guy I briefly went out with after my ex, called me up months after he dumped me. He only did it to brag how well he was doing without. Before that the same guy begged me back then stood me up, only to blame the whole breakup on me. Then he vetbally abused me by text. Cruel much? I saw he has a new gf on fb once. I pity anyone that ends up with this Ahole. I deleted everything and I never want to see/ talk to this Ahole again. These people really get off on the attention. Edited July 25, 2012 by Sugarkane
g450 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 He has! Head has a ....unique problem. The Ex lives a few doors down from him and he's changed his number a few times, but she always finds out the new number. He's letting go, but she loves to try and rattle his head up and NOW he learning to focus her out and it's pissing her off and Head is starting to find the humor in it. I dont buy that for one second. If he changes his number then he should not give it out to so called friends that will give it to her. What the hell kind of friend does that? And even if changing his number would not work he can always block HER number. He is just making excuses to stay in contact with her, simple as that. And nobody is forcing him to answer the phone or read her txts etc. If a person really didnt want you in their life they will find a way to get rid of you. Ask my XW. From where I sit I see somebody who likes to play games. Just because she lives in the same appartment building doesnt mean he has to give her the time of day. I think he just enjoys the drama.
favoritepills Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Stay strong, man! Ignoring her is all she deserves -- she can't stand that she can't have your attention whenever she wants anymore. Good job on all the progress you've made so far, and best of luck with the new girl! It's good to take it slow, just build a friendship and see where it goes from there.
Author headsashed Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 I like the drama? ive done everything possible to avoid the drama,,i DONT answer her calls either,sure ive read her txts but oh well,i dont reply to do i so obviousley im not causing any drama. As for changing my number,i did it before and to this day i dont know who gave it her,what you want me to do then,change my number and not give it to anyone? whats the point in having a phone then. Blocking her number,ive downloaded many apps on off the android market and none work,yeah i could call my cell carrier and ask them to block it but all she has to do is witheld her number and boom,shes through again. I see it like this,why should i keep changing addresses and phone numbers to avoid her? she will get bored eventually. Im doing everything right to move on with my life and if you think because i havent changed my number or blocked hers that i like the drama then i can tell you that your wrong.
Author headsashed Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 Stay strong, man! Ignoring her is all she deserves -- she can't stand that she can't have your attention whenever she wants anymore. Good job on all the progress you've made so far, and best of luck with the new girl! It's good to take it slow, just build a friendship and see where it goes from there. Thanks pills,ive pretty proud of myself for how far ive come,and as for next week,im kind of nervous lol but atleast ive been honest and told her its only friendship,you never know though,it could turn into something good but im going slower than a snail lol.
Dblock10 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 i think you can block the number and even if they do a withheld from the same phone it will not work.
g450 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 I like the drama? ive done everything possible to avoid the drama,,i DONT answer her calls either,sure ive read her txts but oh well,i dont reply to do i so obviousley im not causing any drama. As for changing my number,i did it before and to this day i dont know who gave it her,what you want me to do then,change my number and not give it to anyone? whats the point in having a phone then. Blocking her number,ive downloaded many apps on off the android market and none work,yeah i could call my cell carrier and ask them to block it but all she has to do is witheld her number and boom,shes through again. I see it like this,why should i keep changing addresses and phone numbers to avoid her? she will get bored eventually. Im doing everything right to move on with my life and if you think because i havent changed my number or blocked hers that i like the drama then i can tell you that your wrong. Really? If that being the case, then what is your purpose for posting this thread then?
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