i'mfaraway Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 For those of you in LDRs, why do you choose to be in one? Is it because you found the one and decided an LDR is better than losing him/her? I can't think of any other reason that might have someone enjoy being in an LDR. So I tend to think those willing partners in LDRs have found true love. Is that true?
Els Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Well, it's hard to quantify 'true love'. But yes, I do think that people who are in genuine LDRs (not where one side is cheating or in an open R, etc) are generally very committed to one another and very much in love. It takes a lot to go through one to get to the end goal, and you wouldn't do that unless you find the investment is worth it. Several years and many grey hairs later, I still don't regret putting up with an LDR to be with mine. 1
HeavenOrHell Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I didn't choose it exactly, I became close to someone who lives in another country, he contacted me in the first place, if he'd been any further away than he is I would have kept it at just friendship as I won't fly (phobic) and wouldn't be able to afford long distance flights anyway, we live in different continents in Europe, just about manageable. Been in touch since Jan 2010, first met IRL April 2010. We've had our ups and downs, mostly because of the distance. Not something I would enter into lightly again, or something I would recommend unless moving is possible. I wouldn't do it if he wasn't special and if he didn't think I was. For those of you in LDRs, why do you choose to be in one? Is it because you found the one and decided an LDR is better than losing him/her? I can't think of any other reason that might have someone enjoy being in an LDR. So I tend to think those willing partners in LDRs have found true love. Is that true? 1
pettie Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Well, in my case, I was casually dating him while I was doing a master sponsored by my employer. I was reluctant to be in a relationship because I knew I was going to be reassigned to another country by the time I finished studying. When this happened, we kept in contact, and while not being in an official relationship, the dynamics of it were like one. Things sort of progressed and got more serious, and, well, here we are , travelling to each other when possible, growing strong and taking baby steps towards our future together. It's been more than a year already. I think it depends, really. I wouldn't deliberately choose to be in one. If given the context, you find someone really valuable and think this person is worth your patience and efforts, then go for it. Finally, yes, I think he is the love of my life - I wouldn't be putting up with this if I thought otherwise.
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