Interesting/intimate ways to break the touch barrier.

[tenspoons]

I'm not talking about groping or touching private areas, but what are some good ways to break the touch barrier without looking too creepish and not too friendly.

 

I've tried high fives and fist bumping but those ended up throwing me into the friendzone on the first date =/ almost directly after I did them too lol. I got out of the zone alright don't worry. I would just like to know some good ideas for future reference.

 

I was thinking about thumb wrestling, but idk. ideas? I know touching the shoulders, arms, hands, back, and knees/lower thigh work alright. But what are some good excuses to touch them in those areas without looking creepy or awkward?

[miss_jaclynrae]

I'm not talking about groping or touching private areas, but what are some good ways to break the touch barrier without looking too creepish and not too friendly.

 

I've tried high fives and fist bumping but those ended up throwing me into the friendzone on the first date =/ almost directly after I did them too lol. I got out of the zone alright don't worry. I would just like to know some good ideas for future reference.

 

I was thinking about thumb wrestling, but idk. ideas? I know touching the shoulders, arms, hands, back, and knees/lower thigh work alright. But what are some good excuses to touch them in those areas without looking creepy or awkward?

 

All the ones you described seem EXTREMELY awkward.

 

 

Soft hand on the back, shoulder to shoulder, and hands on ones waist are not awkward at all if done properly.

[MrCastle]

Just touch her. Don't look for reasons. That comes across as creepy. Touch her like you're not afraid to.

[somedude81]

I was really scared of touching at first and I practically had to force myself to do it. Eventually it gets easier.

 

Start with light touches on the arms and shoulders. You can touch a girl to make a point when talking, or to get her attention.

 

Don't be too light but also don't let your hand linger on her and be creepy.

[oaks]

I'm not talking about groping or touching private areas, but what are some good ways to break the touch barrier without looking too creepish and not too friendly.

 

With your hand.

 

I find that I use touch to emphasise points in conversation. I don't ever think "and this is the point where I should touch her".

[madjac74]

Actually the touching when you make a point during conversation or to get their attention seems annoying to me. I know people who are like that and it drives me nuts. It is totally different than a subtle touch when two people are getting close.

 

Of course it all comes down to whether they are into you at all anyway

[todreaminblue]

I'm not talking about groping or touching private areas, but what are some good ways to break the touch barrier without looking too creepish and not too friendly.

 

I've tried high fives and fist bumping but those ended up throwing me into the friendzone on the first date =/ almost directly after I did them too lol. I got out of the zone alright don't worry. I would just like to know some good ideas for future reference.

 

I was thinking about thumb wrestling, but idk. ideas? I know touching the shoulders, arms, hands, back, and knees/lower thigh work alright. But what are some good excuses to touch them in those areas without looking creepy or awkward?

 

 

A date where you could get up and dance together so take a date that you want to get closer too to a good night club not a dive somewhere others have said is excellent to go to........ wait till a bump and grind comes on or a slow song ask her if she wants to dance or she may even ask you and if she does ask you to dance to a slow song or a bump and grind or says yes to you asking her then she has to expect physical closeness.....just a suggestion because without even initiating touching her you will know where you stand.....dont go for the ass grab off the bat....waist is sigh worthy and what comes next should come naturally and feel right for both....crosses fingers....good luck .....deb

[Snowman219]

Just touch her. Don't look for reasons. That comes across as creepy. Touch her like you're not afraid to.

 

Like you own it. Giggety!

[FitChick]

If you are walking and at an intersection waiting for the light to change, when it changes, grab her hand or elbow and start crossing. When you are entering a building, hold the door open with one hand while you place your other hand on the small of her back to usher her through. Resting your hand on her forearm while you are at the table talking. Pretend to push a strand of hair out of her face. Help her on with her coat and if her long hair is inside the coat, gently (don't pull) lift it out. The list is endless!

 

All these little touches add up in an evening if there is basic chemistry and interest. It's so much better than not touching her at all and then suddenly pouncing.

 

A woman can encourage a man as well by doing variations of the above scenarios. That is what I do. It's quite funny when a guy is uptight in the beginning and all I have to do is grab his arm when we cross the street and he instantly smiles and stands up straighter.

[Oxy Moronovich]

You seem to forget these same chicks who will make a hissyfit about inappropriate touching will go to a nightclub and grind on any dude in the club. Just take that chick to a club and she'll grind her booty all over your crotch. If you don't get a second date at least you got a lapdance.