When men talk too much but do too little

[laura9]

I've been going out with a guy for a couple of months now. All of the previous boyfriends I had were very caring and gave me quite a bit of attention. It was easy to trust them. But this one, as much as I like him, I find it tricky to really give myself to him. He tells me he likes me all of the time... sends countless texts, emails, sometimes it seems like he's exaggerating his feelings just to keep me interested. Maybe to compensate for his poor effort to actually be there for me.

 

It's a LDR, so even when we see each other he's not 100% there for me. He wants to be with his friends as well, or talks to them for hours on the phone while I'm there. And we don't see each other that often.

 

I feel he's a bit... flakey. Something I hadn't felt with past boyfriends, who were very committed. As it's a LDR, I expect to talk to him often, at minimum. But this doesn't seem to be a priority to him, he's always putting his own plans first. He goes out whenever he wants, even if this means not skyping with me for a few days.

 

Am I demanding too much from him too early on? I feel he talks too much but acts too little. He keeps telling me how much he's in love with me, but if it was true, he'd give up some of his plans to chat to me and "be" with me, right?

[amantis]

First , LDR sucks

I dont know why people do it , but its not up to me .

You are more into him then him into you , thats whats happening , and i can tell you that every month is going to get worst and worst .

Thats the thing about LDR , they dont last , but in your case , is lasting because you like him and even if he spend days without talking with you , you put up with it .

 

You are wasting your time , i bet that you can find someone closer to you .

LDR makes you not to relax , thinking about what the other person is doing , if they are thinking about you , if they have someone else , if they dont msg or call you , you try and make excuses for them .... sucks

 

Im usually a positive guy and i try to see the positive side in relationships , but a LDR is a waste of your time .

And no you are not being demanding , you expect something from him and its not happening , actions count more than words !!

 

Good luck

Edited July 22, 2012 by amantis

[laura9]

Thanks for sharing your opinion... ironically, it's him who seems much more into me since the beginning. From the things he says, that is. Sometimes I wonder if it isn't me who expects a lot from guys. As said before, my exes were pretty much angels. Man, how I miss them

[xpaperxcutx]

My ex asked me to be his gf the very first night we met. He never took me out on dates and he never saw me unless it was on his terms. If you're unfulfilled in a relationship you move on. There is someone out there who wont treat you like trash and obviously ghis guy needs the boot.

[utterer of lies]

When men talk too much but do too little

 

they're not really interested.