tigressA Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I had posted in earlier OLD threads about putting a thread up with my own profile. I have high standards for written profile content. I like to be 'shown' instead of 'told' what kind of person someone is. I don't like when someone just says "I'm nice/outgoing/fun/funny/whatever else". Unfortunately, most profiles I come across are like that. I have received a lot of positive comments on my profile from guys on the site, but I wanted to post it and see what people here think. I've had it disabled for the last 2-3 weeks, and don't plan on reinstating it for awhile yet. When I do, I might tinker with it a little bit. My self-summary Hello world, I'm your wild girl I'm your Ch-ch-ch-ch-ch-cherry bomb! What I’m doing with my life Leaving dishes in my sink for a few days before washing them, perfecting the flossing of my molars, saying "Jesus tap-dancing Christ" a dozen times a day/5 days a week at my job (which at 60 times a week, times 52 weeks in a year, would definitely earn me a spot in an outer circle of hell, assuming I believe in it), putting ghost pepper salt in everything I cook, walking 17+ miles every week, maintaining two blogs, dancing like a 6-ft tall white guy who wears pocket protectors. I’m really good at Cooking dinner at 2 A.M. on weekends and setting off the smoke alarm (so by extension, probably quite good at pissing off my neighbors), being startled by my phone when it vibrates, karaoke, saying nonsensical things when I'm very tired and then being very embarrassed about it, showing teeth when smiling, not being able to swim, looking everywhere but at the stoplights while waiting to cross a street, finding at least one thing to like about anyone. The first things people usually notice about me My third eye. Okay, okay, fine. I don't have a third eye. ...The sixth finger on my left hand. Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food (I have things listed here, definitely far from a mile long, but decided not to bore you with my particular tastes) The six things I could never do without My Kindle, apartment key, Cajun seasoning, chloroform, rope, a game of Twister...notice a pattern? I spend a lot of time thinking about What I would consider a utopian existence--it would include A LOT of swing sets. And see-saws. I mean, when was the last time you saw see-saws?! On a typical Friday night I am Streaking down my street and yelling that I am the Antichrist. The most private thing I’m willing to admit You'd have to put a gun to my head before I'd... *click* OKOKOKOKOKOK, I-I-I-I...sing along to Keri Hilson's "Pretty Girl Rock" in front of the bathroom mirror before work sometimes! You should message me if You want to have impromptu awkward dancing parties when a good song comes on anywhere. Or you'll at least think it's cute when I do. So, tell me: What kind of impression do you get from reading this?
ThaWholigan Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Crazy. Perhaps a little too creative, if that makes sense. It's guaranteed to get replies though without revealing too much. Sometimes I find that on OLD, people don't like profiles that reveal a lot, because they prefer to learn more about the person as they go along. Which is interesting, and a little different. At any rate, your profile is miles more interesting than mine
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 It's sure to put off uptight people, which is a good thing. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 can we see what you look like? She is super hot
Author tigressA Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Crazy. Perhaps a little too creative, if that makes sense. It's guaranteed to get replies though without revealing too much. Sometimes I find that on OLD, people don't like profiles that reveal a lot, because they prefer to learn more about the person as they go along. Which is interesting, and a little different. At any rate, your profile is miles more interesting than mine Hmm, I didn't think of it that way. I like that. I guess that fits in pretty well with my overall personality, too--not revealing everything from the get-go. And I made a point of not wasting time and effort in describing what kind of guy I would prefer to message me, since I knew I'd be getting messages from guys who didn't meet my preferences/bother to read my profile. I think that made me look more easygoing and less picky too, even though I really am quite finicky since I respond to maybe one out of every 50 messages. 1
ThaWholigan Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 It's sure to put off uptight people, which is a good thing. Indeed. Makes me wonder - I think I'm going to revamp my profile, I definitely got more responses when I took the piss more.
ThaWholigan Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Hmm, I didn't think of it that way. I like that. I guess that fits in pretty well with my overall personality, too--not revealing everything from the get-go. And I made a point of not wasting time and effort in describing what kind of guy I would prefer to message me, since I knew I'd be getting messages from guys who didn't meet my preferences/bother to read my profile. I think that made me look more easygoing and less picky too, even though I really am quite finicky since I respond to maybe one out of every 50 messages. I think it's better that way on OLD, or at least the girls think so . Yeah, describing the kind of guy you want really doesn't help, as noticed on POF when the girls are complaining, in their profiles no less, that their getting messages from guys outside their range. It does make the profile look more upbeat when you temper that, indeed.
Star Gazer Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Impression? Totally not to be taken seriously, flighty, trying too hard to be cool. If that profile was written by a man, I'd move on fast. It tells me virtually nothing about who you are. Instead, it's palpably obvious you're trying way, way, way too hard. Why not write...oh, the truth?
Author tigressA Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Indeed. Makes me wonder - I think I'm going to revamp my profile, I definitely got more responses when I took the piss more. I do really love it when a guy shows off his sense of humor in his profile and is sarcastic to boot. I even like really long profiles if they have something interesting to say. Basically, 'show', not 'tell'.
SJC2008 Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I had posted in earlier OLD threads about putting a thread up with my own profile. I have high standards for written profile content. I like to be 'shown' instead of 'told' what kind of person someone is. I don't like when someone just says "I'm nice/outgoing/fun/funny/whatever else". OP I think many women who do OLD share the same view IMO but from a mans perspective let me tell that most of us aren't poets/writers and english majors so you may be skipping over some good men because you don't like their wording. If you like their pics and think you have something in common reply to their messages and go on a Date! Your profile seems to offer an insight into your personality but at the same time has an air of trying to hard/OTT IMO.
Author tigressA Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Impression? Totally not to be taken seriously, flighty, trying too hard to be cool. If that profile was written by a man, I'd move on fast. It tells me virtually nothing about who you are. Instead, it's palpably obvious you're trying way, way, way too hard. Why not write...oh, the truth? I didn't try 'too' hard; I threw it together in about 15 minutes.
ThaWholigan Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I do really love it when a guy shows off his sense of humor in his profile and is sarcastic to boot. I even like really long profiles if they have something interesting to say. Basically, 'show', not 'tell'. Yeah, but mine was really wordy (lots of words that nobody uses) and odd , it was like a big ass soliloquy rather than profile. However, I did get better responses at one stage, but they all tended to come along in one bulk then nothing after that.
Star Gazer Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I didn't try 'too' hard; I threw it together in about 15 minutes. Time isn't the measuring stick. It's really obvious you're trying too hard to be "cool." Your profile doesn't shed light AT ALL on who you actually are. What's the point of having one if you're going to just...play games on it?
tuxedo cat Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I think you are trying too hard to sound quirky and fun. I don't really learn much about you from that profile. I would start over and try to say more with less. Spend some time on it, if you care. Good profiles take time to write.
Author tigressA Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Your profile doesn't shed light AT ALL on who you actually are. I'm quirky and flighty and sarcastic. My profile does a good job of illustrating those things. Oh, and something else: I listed only 'short-term dating' under what I was 'looking for' with this profile. If I had been looking for long-term, the profile would read differently. I didn't desire to be taken seriously this time around.
MrCastle Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 It's interesting but at the same time pretty standard from what I've seen. I live in NY and a lot of what I find in my searches are these quirky, hipster, random, I'm-so-unique-and-lovable-and-silly type of profiles. It's hard to determine who really has that personality and who's just acting the part in the hopes of seeming "different" I like a little bit of that quirkiness when the time calls for it but for some areas I'd actually like real answers as to who you are, and what you're looking for. We both know you're not going to reply back to guys who are looking for "impromptu awkward dancing parties", you're going to reply to the guy you find physically attractive. So writing something like that doesn't really let a guy know if he has a chance of getting a reply from you or if he's totally not your physical type and he's wasting his time trying to craft a quirky, random, silly message opener to you in the hopes you'll respond. 2
Art_Critic Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I'm quirky and flighty and sarcastic. My profile does a good job of illustrating those things. Oh, and something else: I listed only 'short-term dating' under what I was 'looking for' with this profile. If I had been looking for long-term, the profile would read differently. I didn't desire to be taken seriously this time around. This is just my opinion.. I think that you should take these quirky, flighty and sarcastic items and balance them with an equal response that tells the reader who you are. I love your profile, the way you wrote it is great but it leaves me with "who is she?" and balancing the GREAT and WONDERFUL humor you show will make the profile pull in a better type of guy who cares who you are. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I think that Star has a point. This profile will attract men looking for "short-term". Serious men looking for LTR will probably skip you over. But I think you ARE looking for short-term right? 1
Star Gazer Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 It's hard to determine who really has that personality and who's just acting the part in the hopes of seeming "different" I think it's clear that TA is just acting the part, but that's based on what I've observed of her over the years.
Andy_K Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I kind of agree with Star Gazer... the profile comes across as a little too 'trying to be quirky' without really revealing much. I used to have one which was somewhat similar. Whilst I did get a lot of compliments on how amusing it was, I ultimately got more messages/responses/dates by adding some genuine things that were unique to me. It gave people something to latch on to, a starting point for a connection of some sort. 2
utterer of lies Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 So, tell me: What kind of impression do you get from reading this? Horrible. Definitely not interested.
Emilia Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Agree with Star, I'd also add that excessive quirkiness can come across as neurotic and high maintenance. It's hard to write to someone who doesn't provide hooks. It's impossible to tell from the profile the real person behind the hype 1
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