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Are you ****ing serious, OKCupid?


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I'm sick of being passed over on that site.

 

I sent thoughtful and confident messages, have a cute photo, and have sold myself well. And yet fully 90% of the people I message visit me and don't respond. Seriously, what more do people want?*

 

*Not that I'm desperate or willing to sell myself for a date. It's just frustrating, the lack of response.

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Can I check out your profile? Maybe I can give you some insight.

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I'm sick of being passed over on that site.

 

I sent thoughtful and confident messages, have a cute photo, and have sold myself well. And yet fully 90% of the people I message visit me and don't respond. Seriously, what more do people want?*

 

*Not that I'm desperate or willing to sell myself for a date. It's just frustrating, the lack of response.

 

Your photo probably isn't cute enough. And you should have more than one.

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Here it is.
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You mention in your profile that you are off to France next year and you list that you are looking for long term dating, short term dating and casual sex. Since you are not going to be around in the States for long, most women assume you are only looking for the latter two. If you are after something short term I think plenty of fish is probably more suitable for you.

 

The fact you put 'aimlessly' in your opening sentence I'd say indicates that you either don't know what you want or that you only want something casual.

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I agree with Amilia, next year to France isn't that long of time from now. I would assume that you were really looking for an activity partner, a long-distance penpal or casual sex.

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Your self summary is too brief. Your reading list scares me. You're leaving the country soon. You've ticked every box in the 'looking for' section (and not in a good way).

 

I'm not exactly your target audience, but those are the things that stood out to me. :)

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I immediately skip over guys that have ticked "casual sex" box.

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You are chubby and only 5'8" tall...

every girl here who doesnt mention that isnt actually trying to help you.

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You are chubby and only 5'8" tall...

every girl here who doesnt mention that isnt actually trying to help you.

 

.... and your comment is helpful because... ?

 

He isn't chubby and 5'8'' is a good height for me personally. I would have said that the smiling face shot would have made a better main profile pic but it's the text that most women won't like.

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.... and your comment is helpful because... ?
Because he wants to know why he is being passed over... and that is why.

He isn't chubby and 5'8'' is a good height for me personally. I would have said that the smiling face shot would have made a better main profile pic but it's the text that most women won't like.

If he changes his height to above 6' and crops out his chubby belly, his response rate would be over 75%

 

He is here asking for honest help... You dont know him, dont try to spare feelings... Try to help.

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You mention in your profile that you are off to France next year and you list that you are looking for long term dating, short term dating and casual sex. Since you are not going to be around in the States for long, most women assume you are only looking for the latter two. If you are after something short term I think plenty of fish is probably more suitable for you.

 

The fact you put 'aimlessly' in your opening sentence I'd say indicates that you either don't know what you want or that you only want something casual.

This is the biggest thing, just about any woman who is looking for a relationship will pass on any guy mentioning causal sex in their profile. I think there is an option, maybe it is on pof, but to where users who have messaged people looking for casual sex cant send them messages.

 

Also your main picture gives me a creepy vibe, I'd use a different picture as your main picture.

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This site needs more people like you fry. Gotta be as honest as possible.

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I agree on the main picture. It's probably the worst of the bunch.

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