StrangeBehaviors Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Is it evil to not break up with someone until you find someone new?
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 that is so immature and childish. why be in a relationship to begin with and break someones heart? you're living off of someones expense for your own pleasures? dumb and irresponsible
Ruby65 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 It's not evil, sadly it can just be human nature sometimes. Some people are afraid of being alone so they don't leave one relationship until there's someone else on the horizon. Most breakups happen when the dumper has someone specific in mind..... even if they swear up and down this isn't the case -- they just need space, it isn't you it's me, I'm just not ready for a relationship right now, blah blah blah. When I was younger, I even did this myself! It's awful..... but karma's paid me back since then so I'll never do it again.
CopingGal Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 that's what my bf did to me. He kept telling me he loved me, which was a lie. Then he cheated on me and kept me around in case the new relationship did not work out. I never felt so used in my life. He had planned on dumping me in the future, but I left him first because he was ignoring me and lying to me that he was spending time with his autistic son.
2muchlove Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Is it evil to not break up with someone until you find someone new? If you're doing it to intentionally mess with someone's head I'd call that evil. But take it from someone who has done this and is currently dealing with the intense aftermath after having it done to him. Whoever may be in this situation asking the same question - please don't do this to someone. I know the thought of being alone is scary. But consider being alone after thinking the one that "loves" you has been stringing you along for 2 months and never actually loved you during that time. Absolutely mind boggling and even traumatizing to some. Be kind.
JoJola Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 It is one of the most hurtful thing someone can do to another...devastating
CopingGal Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 My bf and I knew we were not going to be together forever. We were too different. Still we decided to stay in the relationship and see where it led. I thought that one day, when one of us decided to end the relationship, we would sit down together and talk. I had NO idea he was keeping me around until he found someone better. I had no idea I was being used like that and manipulated like that. He went SEARCHING for other women online and when he found someone, he treated me like crap until I finally left him to keep my sanity. He wanted to keep me around as a back up. No one has even treated me so badly in my life.
Sugarkane Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 My ex dumped me after a year saying that he never cared about me at all. I wish I could make karma happen myself, I haven't seen karma happen at all. I took the high road but now I wonder what's the point?
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 My ex dumped me after a year saying that he never cared about me at all. I wish I could make karma happen myself, I haven't seen karma happen at all. I took the high road but now I wonder what's the point? Did he have someone else set up as the new girlfriend for awhile before ending things with you?
Sugarkane Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Apparently he stringed me along for that long. Yet everyone still thinks the sun shines out if his butt. Whets karma now?!
Author StrangeBehaviors Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Apparently he stringed me along for that long. Yet everyone still thinks the sun shines out if his butt. Whets karma now?! Sorry to hear. Everyone? His friends and family? Yours? They know the details?
Svet74 Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 its more evil when your ex breaks up with you.. then keeps leading you on.. then finds someone new, trys to hide it from you. Plans on marrying the girl, keeps hiding it from you, just incase it dont work out and keep you as backup.. yes thats my story
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