loveonsleeve Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Now wasn't that just a lovely title? I guess it was pretty lame to trust someone who lied/cheated on me the first two time, but unfortunately it took 3 mishaps for me to realize this man was just a habitual liar and a selfish individual. I want to try to make this as direct and straight to the point, as possible... We were friends for a few years, dated for a few months and was an official live in couple for a year. He cheated on me the last few months of our relationship, with a woman who knew of me, but I suppose in her mind, she figured if he wasn't happy in his relationship, then it was okay. So anyhow, I end up finding out by searching through his phone (which was not my intent...at first). I'm not a "snooper" in general, but I so happened to be on his phone with my sister, when an incoming text from a woman said, I miss you. We brake up, try to work it out, it doesn't work, I do what he "claims" he didn't expect me to do ...move out. We KIT over the months, he tells me he isn't dealing with "the other woman", I decide to give him another chance (me thinking he didn't have sex with her, because he simply told me he didn't...I know, I KNOW). Now, I know long distance isn't exactly the ideal situation ( by the way, I moved 2 hours away), but it worked because we had every intent to live together again, or so I thought. About 3 months roll by (it's June 1 2012), and I get a text from "the other woman", stating: "you can have him back now, he cheated on you once, he will cheat on you again...he says he misses you and wants to be back with you, but as long as you two are happy, that's all that matters. You should let him come stay with you now, because he is in between places". It was right then when it became VERY apparent that he was sleeping with this woman from the beginning. I blow his call off for a week (yes, only a week), and then after doing very little, I take him back. Its July 7th 2012 and he takes me to his family reunion, which was a two day event. She ends up texting him early Sunday morning, asking if he had brought me to the reunion, and started spazzing out, threatening to shoot him (bizarre). He leaves to handle the situation, only for him to tell me 1 week later "I can't do this anymore, you deserve someone better...I'm stuck between the two of you, I hope to make this relationship work with her". Now I'm sure some may be thinking I'd be quick to take him back yet again, but I am truly done...being lied to a few times was more than enough. It's definitely a "goodbye and good riddance" kind of feeling at this point....and even IF I wanted him back, he broke it off with me, and I am not one to chase or beg. I've gone from heart broken/sad to angry and slightly bitter. I feel like it's not fair that the two of them get to get off scotch free, while I sit here left to deal with these emotions. I feel revengeful, but I know inside it is better to just bow out gracefully. I'm wondering if there will be KARMA involved, or are they truly meant to be together. I say this because he told me that she made him happy...and I know that's the last thing I should be worried about, but truth of the matter is, I can't help it. I will most definitely get over it eventually...I give it about 2 months for it to be completely out of my system...but um, yeah.... please excuse all errors/typos:)
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