dannykeyz831 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 (edited) Hello Everyone! My name is Daniel and I'm new to this forum. Basically the reason I'm here is because I don't know what else to do with my current situation involving my ex gf and I. To give you guys a quick summary, we had been dating on and off for 3 years since 2009 and even lived together for 6 months so I could be closer to her where she was going to school. When we first met everything was great, we got along very well and had tremendous chemistry. It was no too long after that were we started having these magical intimate moments together. However, she was still hurt from her previous relationship and was still in love with him so she dumps me saying she didn't know what she wanted and that it wasn't for me to be with a girl who was still in love with her ex. I was devastated and began crying and begging for her to come back with me but only pushed her away. She then started dating other guys soon after and It confused me even more considering she had told me she was still in love with her ex. Then she gives me this thing about wanting to be with someone who had goals and dreams and who knew what they wanted in life. At that time I was 26 and working at a retail job full time while living with my parents. It wasn't what I wanted at that age but I was a good person and had nothing but love to give which was the important thing right? Well her family would convince her that I wasn't that right guy and that she should be with someone who is going to provide for her and be the independent person that she was looking for. She dated around for another year or so and even though we weren't together we still talked about once or twice a month. Well one day (summer of last year) she called me up saying if we wanted to meet up and I said yes. She asked me if I wanted to get back together to see if she can truly love me. (she was already over her ex) I didn't hesitate and said yes. However, I ended up finding out that the day we were officially back together, she had slept with another guy. I was crushed..my heart just sank to the floor. Her excuse was that she wanted to experience her single life one last time before she settled down. Can you believe that? I was disgusted by the sight of her and we both started crying and she said that she was sorry and that it was a mistake. I ended giving her another chance but I just picturing her having sex with that guy and it destroyed me mentally. I would always bring it up when we were together and a few weeks after that she called it off saying that it was too much for me and that she didn't want to hurt me anymore. It made things worse because now I didn't have her. This all happened last year. We didn't talk for few more weeks after that and I decided that If I wanted to be with her, I had to man up and fix things. I just loved her very much and couldn't stand to be without her. We got back together during the fall and were having a long distance relationship because she was going to school 3 hours away. I wanted to be with her so we decided to get a place together for the spring semester. Everything was great in the beginning..she even started saying I LOVE YOU! but I was having a hard time finding a job and I started feeling very lonely while she was at school. She was all I had there. She had some pretty tough classes so there would be days where she would be away like 10 or 11 hours at a time. That plus not having a job and barely having enough for rent and food just turned me into a mean guy. I stopped being affectionate with her and I wanted to go back home to my family. I did admit to her that at first I wasn't to hesitant in finding a job because I wanted to spend time with her. Well it made her question my integrity of the relationship. Soon after I find out she was talking to other guys online and it got me into a rage mode. We both ended up crying again and she said she was sorry..ya that one again. Ok so the semester ended and decided to move back to our hometown since I never found a job out there and get a fresh new start. Well that's when she began to distance herself from me and as the days went by, the fewer messages she would send me and fewer call she would make to me. Then about 3 weeks ago she tells me that she doesn't want to be with me anymore. That she tried for 3 years to see if she could really love me. I was shocked! I agreed to the break up but then I did some snooping around and found out that she had been talking to this guy since early May while we were still living together. I also found a text message her telling him that she missed him. She denied having done anything with him and that she was only talking to him. I knew we weren't together anymore but at the time we were and told her that it wasn't right. Well I basically pushed her so far off the edge that she said she didn't want anything to do with me anymore and that the reason she had done all those horrible things was because I wasn't a real man. I told her fine and that I didn't want to see her for the rest of my life to which she agreed. She is suppose to come over tomorrow to pick up a few things and I keep thinking about what I'm gonna tell her. I just want to move on with my life but she was my first true love and I'm not even sure what I'm gonna say to her. I need help. Being friends is not an option. She has hurt me so bad but she means so dam much to me..I'm going crazy here guys!!! Edited July 21, 2012 by dannykeyz831
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