SJC2008 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Had a date with the 6th woman I've met on a particular dating and it finally happened. She asked me what my longest relationship was and I looked her in her eyes and said "A little over a year". It just came out like it wasn't even me talking it was like I was watching myself or something. I don't like to lie but I wasn't about to tell a grown women in a restaurant that I'm a relationship virgin. The date went well IMO and I kissed her after and it was my 1st 1st date kiss ever! I felt compelled to kiss her to dispell any possibility of doubt so I think I pulled the wool over her eyes but why should it matter? I'm not a player and women only care about exp because they want COMMITTMENT!
darkmoon Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 there are plenty posters here, in love, but full of dread at their partner's ex insisting that s/he keep in touch, which causes alot of insecurity and pain
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 No big deal. I would be understanding of such a lie as long as guy came clean if relationship got serious. My ex lied about how many women he slept with. He thought I would be impressed by a large number
nessaaa Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 And? You'll be doing alot more serious lying than that when and if you get into relationship because your a MAN. * waits for cry babies* 1
ScienceGal Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Had a date with the 6th woman I've met on a particular dating and it finally happened. She asked me what my longest relationship was and I looked her in her eyes and said "A little over a year". It just came out like it wasn't even me talking it was like I was watching myself or something. I don't like to lie but I wasn't about to tell a grown women in a restaurant that I'm a relationship virgin. The date went well IMO and I kissed her after and it was my 1st 1st date kiss ever! I felt compelled to kiss her to dispell any possibility of doubt so I think I pulled the wool over her eyes but why should it matter? I'm not a player and women only care about exp because they want COMMITTMENT! I think this is a harmless lie. I wouldn't worry about it. But, as another poster said, you'll have to fess up if things become more serious. Good luck.
Badsingularity Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 And? You'll be doing alot more serious lying than that when and if you get into relationship because your a MAN. * waits for cry babies* lol at you
Forever Learning Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I pulled the wool over her eyes but why should it matter? Bad habit to lie. You'll find out why eventually, life will show you. So there's no need for me to explain. And you will learn this eventually of your own accord. All the best to you.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Well put it this way, if you stay in a relationship with her for a year, if it doesnt work out, next time a year will be the truth. 3
Casablanca Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 there are plenty posters here, in love, but full of dread at their partner's ex insisting that s/he keep in touch, which causes alot of insecurity and pain Yeah, of just friends of the opposite gender in general. No big deal. I would be understanding of such a lie as long as guy came clean if relationship got serious. My ex lied about how many women he slept with. He thought I would be impressed by a large number Wow, what an idiot. To the OP, that might come back to bite you in the butt. I wouldn't have lied that big. I would have said something, like only a few months or just nothing ever came serious because I wasn't ready to find something long term. Have you had sex? That might be an issue if not and she'll be wondering why you're a virgin/or just really bad if you lie. You could always say your only serious relationship was with a wait till marriage woman.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 I'm not worried about it, that's a pretty heavy 1st date question IMO. I haven't asked her out again so I don't know if she wants to see me again but if not I'm not too worried about it anyway, I'm a little more than 50/50 about seeing her again.
oaks Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I'm not worried about it, that's a pretty heavy 1st date question IMO. Yup. Sometimes you get 'interviewed' and it's really tedious. I recently had "why do your relationships usually end?" and, in relation to first dates that go nowhere but where I was interested, "Why do you think those women didn't want a second date?" I think I mentally checked out somewhere around there and wound things up at the end of my beer.
Oxy Moronovich Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Well put it this way, if you stay in a relationship with her for a year, if it doesnt work out, next time a year will be the truth. Pretty much. OP, just worry about getting laid and move into an relationship from there. I've been seeing you post about meeting new chicks all the time and going nowhere. It's finally time you get some tail and pronto. Dating karma is a myth. So don't worry about it. Alpha males lie all the time. Why? Because when dealing with women, you're gonna have to lie. Fact.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Yup. Sometimes you get 'interviewed' and it's really tedious. I recently had "why do your relationships usually end?" and, in relation to first dates that go nowhere but where I was interested, "Why do you think those women didn't want a second date?" I think I mentally checked out somewhere around there and wound things up at the end of my beer. I would of been like because the contract expired and I didn't re-sign her lol!
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 No big deal. I would be understanding of such a lie as long as guy came clean if relationship got serious. My ex lied about how many women he slept with. He thought I would be impressed by a large number That's........quite backwards. Don't what memo that guy got! But yeah, this is a understandable lie to a degree being that it's such a severe circumstance you are covering it up for. I know that impacts the way she sees you so that would have been unfair, even though it was a little unfair for you to lie but it's one of those few exceptions to the rule...at least at this point in the game...it's still debatable If you're to stick to one true philosophy because you don't want to start this relationship off lies, it will look badly upon you but that also depends on her point of view and perspective.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 (edited) I hate lying and am not a liar but I did because I was put on the spot and I didn't feel comf admiting my past to a stranger in a public place. If I dodged the question in any way it would of been suspect. I hate lying and pretty much never do. One day at work a customer came to get her car when we opened and she saw it outside and asked me if we pulled it in over night and I said I'll find out and she said "Oh you'll just lie anyway" and I found out and told her it was left outside and she had a sh*t storm of a fit and and all it would of taken was a white lie but I didn't and I took her ass chewing. I'm 30 years old and being an honest good person has gotten me absoloutely nowhere in life so mabye I should be a little bad now! I'm not gonna change and be some liar now but do you see what I'm saying? Edited July 22, 2012 by SJC2008 edit
sid3 Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I hate lying and am not a liar but I did because I was put on the spot and I didn't feel comf admiting my past to a stranger in a public place. If I dodged the question in any way it would of been suspect. I hate lying and pretty much never do. One day at work a customer came to get her car when we opened and she saw it outside and asked me if we pulled it in over night and I said I'll find out and she said "Oh you'll just lie anyway" and I found out and told her it was left outside and she had a sh*t storm of a fit and and all it would of taken was a white lie but I didn't and I took her ass chewing. I'm 30 years old and being an honest good person has gotten me absoloutely nowhere in life so mabye I should be a little bad now! I'm not gonna change and be some liar now but do you see what I'm saying? I see what you're saying, basically you've had it and you're not going to take it anymore?
Oxy Moronovich Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I hate lying and am not a liar but I did because I was put on the spot and I didn't feel comf admiting my past to a stranger in a public place. If I dodged the question in any way it would of been suspect. She put you on the spot. You're not obligated to tell you the truth. Many dudes won't believe this, but most women lie about how many partners they've been with or how many options they have regarding finding a mate. You guys need to get rid of the notion that women are 100% honest. False. The average women lies just as much if not more than the average man. The sooner you realize this, the easier it will be to lie.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 I see what you're saying, basically you've had it and you're not going to take it anymore? We're right yeah, we're free yeah... lol
Casablanca Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Yup. Sometimes you get 'interviewed' and it's really tedious. I recently had "why do your relationships usually end?" and, in relation to first dates that go nowhere but where I was interested, "Why do you think those women didn't want a second date?" I think I mentally checked out somewhere around there and wound things up at the end of my beer. I hate questions like that...what do you expect someone to say, "i'm an ******* who treats women like crap"?
Author SJC2008 Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 I'm not worried about it, that's a pretty heavy 1st date question IMO. I haven't asked her out again so I don't know if she wants to see me again but if not I'm not too worried about it anyway, I'm a little more than 50/50 about seeing her again. I called her and left a message I'll see if she calls back. I'm leaning toward she won't. She kept talking about how she feels old and blah blah blah and I didn't kiss her *ss and try to lift her up mabye I shouldn't of called her.
Snowman219 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Well put it this way, if you stay in a relationship with her for a year, if it doesnt work out, next time a year will be the truth. Not with the way inflation keeps jacking the time requirement up! We're all screwed!
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