MrNate 2.0 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 I have actually looked for you but I think I have deleted them. The creepiest by far are sexual fetish ones. This guy wrote an essay about how he wants me to take a s... on him and described it in explicit detail. I nearly threw up what the... Thank the stars I'm a man.
ThaWholigan Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 what the... Thank the stars I'm a man. Indeed. This is the flip side of what it's like to be a girl on OLD it seems. I've had some weird messages in the past myself, but usually, I just get messages like "elo, ur sooo gawjus bbz, gt @ me". Last message I remember getting that was weird was a yuppie chick who wanted to have an interracial cuckold roleplay (her boyfriend wanted to watch).
Anela Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 I have "I am not into casual sex so if you are, keep looking". And I still get more than 50% of messages from guys asking for casual sex or to hook up "tonight" Me, too. And as soon as I added in, "Don't contact me if you're in a relationship, unless your partner is okay with it," clearly stating the for FRIENDSHIP, a woman contacted me within seconds, looking for a woman for a threesome. She apologized for the mistake, though.
Art_Critic Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 It's tough being a girl. that's the creepiest OLD message you have gotten
Art_Critic Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I have actually looked for you but I think I have deleted them. The creepiest by far are sexual fetish ones. This guy wrote an essay about how he wants me to take a s... on him and described it in explicit detail. I nearly threw up ... A Stanley Steamer for the first date is over the line..IMO
ascendotum Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 (edited) True. I rarely get messages of any substance. Most are"hey wassup?" or casual sex ones. I don't bother replying to either. I've heard enough complaints from women about this to know not to do it, the thing is I have to guess some guys do it because they strike success at times with it. I agree its a really lame initial approach, but I've read the stories of dummy profiles that have a pic of hot looking guy where that sort of msg was sent out and numerous women took the hook. A good looking construction worker I know who does OLD, I've seen some of his msgs and he uses lines like that and ramps up the conversations to flirty very quickly. I've seen some of the women he's met (of many) and while 'classy & sophisticated' are certainly not words you would use to describe them, 'sexy & fun nature' are (which suits him). Then there are guys that don't handle rejection well. If I don't respond to their message, they will follow it up with something like "you ugly slut, I hope you never find anyone". Charming.When you read about so many shyte msgs being sent out to women, you would think a decent length msg that leverages off some of the woman's interests would work a treat but as many guys find, it isnt the hit they would expect. I found short quirky/smartalec/stupid initial msgs the most successful. Getting those sorts of nasty msgs back is pretty bad (I guess it could be good if it was possible to see on a person's profile how many people have blocked that person). The guys who send you those nasty replies back do they come from all sorts or is there a type or you just dont even look to know? Look it might not be easy for a woman in this respect having to deal with jerks, but you do gets lots of msgs to work with....swings & roundabouts. Plenty of guys wouldn't care if old fatties contacted them, if they also got a reasonable supply of msgs from some cuties. That guy who wanted you to take a dump, you should have had some fun & stooged him. Arranged to meet him at midnight in some gay beat park but not show up. Edited July 22, 2012 by ascendotum
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 I get nasty messages from all types. As for casual sex ones, I am so not into that, that I don't even look at guy's profile or pictures. It doesn't matter how hot the guys is. I am looking for real connection and a relationship.
ascendotum Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 ES, is it still ideal for you to find a guy from your original country, or it just doesn't matter so much now...juz curious because I thought you were looking at OS site at one time and I am wondering how much this limited what guys you found 'longterm' desirable? (slightly off topic)
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 ES, is it still ideal for you to find a guy from your original country, or it just doesn't matter so much now...juz curious because I thought you were looking at OS site at one time and I am wondering how much this limited what guys you found 'longterm' desirable? (slightly off topic) Good question. My ex was from my own country but it happened by accident. Not only is not ideal for me to find someone from my own country, I would actually PREFER not to. In general, men from my own country are very traditional and expect women to be stay at home moms - I feel that this would bore me to death. I care about my career and am not prepared to give it up. It's hard for me to meet single men my age because I pretty much work and go home. My friends are generally couples and going out with them doesn't really open me to meeting new men. So I can easily go for a year without meeting a single man my age in real life (let alone one I like!). That's why I resort to OLD....
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 BTW that thread I posted on "Husbands from Russia" was a spoof thread to "Brides from Russia". I wasn't actually serious
Trimmer Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Shave off ten years and less wrinkles and I'd have thought about it Off you, or her? 1
manup Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I can't say I get many creepy ones, but I get some pretty funny ones. I just wanted to say this message has been pure gold for me, thank you.
ThaWholigan Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Off you, or her? Ten off me and she'd be a pedo!! 1
seachangeoflove Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I get a ton of very unattractive women messaging me saying how hot I am and they want to have sex with me. Really shocking to me that people in my age group don't have anymore substance than that. The other thing that is comical about it is I wrote in my Intro basically "Avid athlete and outdoors lover seeks the same. I am not a magnet, therefore opposites do not attract me. If you do not consider yourself either, I have no idea what we would do together, so no need to message me". It's not like I have a inviting Intro, but I guess they figure doesn't hurt to try? wow, you're not very bright are you? You insinuate people wanting casual sex are lacking substance. they probably figure you aren't interested in a relationship with them but wouldn't turn down a hook up. Why waste your time with anything else of "substance" since they don't meet your qualifications of being outdoorsy and athletic. Casual sex, while not morally appealing to everyone does not mean "lack of substance" perhaps they are intellectuals that don't want dumb them selves down for a jock... I am an avid cyclist and Im amazed by how many of my riding buddies have non riding spouses.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 wow, you're not very bright are you? You insinuate people wanting casual sex are lacking substance. they probably figure you aren't interested in a relationship with them but wouldn't turn down a hook up. Why waste your time with anything else of "substance" since they don't meet your qualifications of being outdoorsy and athletic. Casual sex, while not morally appealing to everyone does not mean "lack of substance" perhaps they are intellectuals that don't want dumb them selves down for a jock... I am an avid cyclist and Im amazed by how many of my riding buddies have non riding spouses. hey! tone down the hostility in my thread please
seachangeoflove Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 hey! tone down the hostility in my thread please dont be so sensitive.
betterdeal Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 "I MAKE MY OWN HOLES. Fancy a coffee sometime?" That's what I'd call creepy. 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I understand that on further reflection, however my first instinct was to feel creeped out. I am also not into messages like "I hope I am not one step closer to getting a restraining order. Haha." I feel majorly turned off on reading that, I can't help it. It is perfectly OK for you to feel "turned-off" by just about any element of another person. What is wrong is to use (any variation of) "creepy" when no such thing was present. You are free to be turned off by tall, dark, handsome, chiseled, six-pack abs, deep blue eyes, and many many more. I give that person soooooooooooooooome credit for having matched what he was surely observing, to what he SAID. With so many other guys out there, they're having a conversation with your chest, and stammering non-sensically. So even if this guy was a turn-off, he still expressed himself mostly effectively on a part of your physical being which society has not deemed socially uncouth for such mention.
USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 "I MAKE MY OWN HOLES. Fancy a coffee sometime?" That's what I'd call creepy. "I want to tongue punch you in your fart box..."? 1
johan Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 It is perfectly OK for you to feel "turned-off" by just about any element of another person. What is wrong is to use (any variation of) "creepy" when no such thing was present. Actually I think it's perfectly ok to use the word "creepy" to describe guys who make her feel creeped out. Just like she can call Brad Pitt ugly if she wants. Or Albert Einstein stupid. That's all perfectly ok. Not wrong in the least. I think as a guy, you'd better get used to being called creepy occasionally. It's going to happen. It's nothing to get upset about.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 Actually I think it's perfectly ok to use the word "creepy" to describe guys who make her feel creeped out. Just like she can call Brad Pitt ugly if she wants. Or Albert Einstein stupid. That's all perfectly ok. Not wrong in the least. I think as a guy, you'd better get used to being called creepy occasionally. It's going to happen. It's nothing to get upset about. johan gets called creepy all the time, he is no longer bothered by it
johan Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Mostly just when I show a woman what I keep in my closets. But I figure they should know the real me, whether they find it creepy or mortifying or whatever.
SunandMoon Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Mostly just when I show a woman what I keep in my closets. But I figure they should know the real me, whether they find it creepy or mortifying or whatever. A detachable crane penis would creep me out a bit too. /kd
Anela Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Mostly just when I show a woman what I keep in my closets. But I figure they should know the real me, whether they find it creepy or mortifying or whatever. The freezer wasn't bad enough?
johan Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 A detachable crane penis would creep me out a bit too. /kd Oddly enough, they seem to like that. The freezer wasn't bad enough? Well, it sort of kills the moment to take a so much time to unload the freezer in order to show them the things you keep way back in the back. 1
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