tlamb93 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 I met this attractive girl who I liked about a week ago, and I started texting this girl a few days ago. I texted her for an entire night, and then for a few hours the next day. I asked her out on a date, and she said that "She wants to but she's got a lot going on, but when things calm down she'll let me know and maybe we can do something then." Should I continue to text her all the time, very rarely, sometimes? Or should I even talk to her at all anymore? She seems to be engaged in our text conversations, and I have made it very clear that I am interested in her. How can I show her I still have interest over time without being clingy?
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 No for now = no forever I would just give up. 4
yongyong Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Keep her in your 'Mass txt group' send out mass txt to those girls in a group on one random night. who knows, she might be ovulating and horny as ****? who knows, she just got dumped by her bf and want to bang someone as a revenge? who knows, nobody asked her out and she is in pjs and eating brownie like a loser?
Author tlamb93 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 You need to read between the lines and analyze her girl talk . It is a nice way of saying, there is another guy if it doesnt work out then maybe ill go out with you. Cease all contact. I guarantee she will come flying back. She's a young girl, so are you sure she'll come back? I'm afraid that if I cease contact, she'll just think I lost interest and forget about me.
Author tlamb93 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 You haven't quite figured out the semantics of women yet laddy. In due time you will. She's not a woman, and I am not a man. We are teenagers.
Author tlamb93 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Well there is your answer right there. You answered your own question. Elaborate?
Author tlamb93 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Does she have secondary sex characteristics? If yes the games are the same at 14 or 44. So do you agree, stop talking to her completely?
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 I disagree with previous posters. She may very well have a LOT going on. There have been times in my life where a guy has been interested but life has been too crazy for me to feel capable of handling even one date. That being said, let her know it sounds good to you, and to let you know when she finds time. If she wants to keep talking she will text you.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Yes, take taking dating advice from a female. This will get you everywhere. So because I am a woman my advice is useless? Thanks. As someone who is very successful and has a lot of experience dating, I would listen up.
Author tlamb93 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 I disagree with previous posters. She may very well have a LOT going on. There have been times in my life where a guy has been interested but life has been too crazy for me to feel capable of handling even one date. That being said, let her know it sounds good to you, and to let you know when she finds time. If she wants to keep talking she will text you. So just don't talk to her until she talks to me?
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 So just don't talk to her until she talks to me? Yes, I can tell you that if she means it, she will get back to you. I know it sucks but if you stop and she DOES like you she will shoot you something after a few days of not hearing from you. Otherwise, she won't and you can keep going knowing you made the right choice.
utterer of lies Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 So because I am a woman my advice is useless? Don't be offended just because he's right.
Author tlamb93 Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 She messaged me today and we had a decently long conversation before I told her that I had things to do and had to go. Was it a good decision on my end to end the conversation and should I wait for her to message me again, or is it now my turn to message in a day or two?
Eddie Edirol Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 She messaged me today and we had a decently long conversation before I told her that I had things to do and had to go. Was it a good decision on my end to end the conversation and should I wait for her to message me again, or is it now my turn to message in a day or two? Dont keep any conversations going until she asks you out, its her turn now. She now knows you are available, but now you have things to do. Do not text her until she texts you first. She is still keeping you on the back burner, and she is NOT busy, she is dating someone else. If she really liked you, she wouldnt be too busy. Actually, it could be worse, she could be heartbroken over someone, and cant stop thinking about him. Either way, she isnt worth your time since she isnt really into you. If I were you, I'd keep blowing her off. Hanging onto waiting for her to text you will keep you from seeing other good women that are available.
Author tlamb93 Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 Dont keep any conversations going until she asks you out, its her turn now. She now knows you are available, but now you have things to do. Do not text her until she texts you first. She is still keeping you on the back burner, and she is NOT busy, she is dating someone else. If she really liked you, she wouldnt be too busy. Actually, it could be worse, she could be heartbroken over someone, and cant stop thinking about him. Either way, she isnt worth your time since she isnt really into you. If I were you, I'd keep blowing her off. Hanging onto waiting for her to text you will keep you from seeing other good women that are available. Again, we're teenagers. And she isn't dating anybody else, I know this for a fact. What if I don't message her and she thinks I lost interest, because I don't initiate conversation with her? Then she definitely won't take me up on my offer and ask me out, right? We are dealing with a high school girl here, let's try to remember that.
dispatch3d Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I would just go for a different girl if I were you. I'd still text with her but I wouldn't get into super long conversations. I think those are annoying anyways. I'm not sure how much I would or wouldn't read into her answer. "No for now" seems like "no forever" to me, and it seems like you are getting friend zoned pretty hard. When girls friend zone me I actually friend zone them back on my terms - none of this talking for hours crap, take me to go to the mall to go shopping, etc etc. Do that with your girlfriends I'm a guy. As for the girl that's hot and "good at dating". Look you have it easier whether you care to admit it or not. Advice for guys is completely different than advice for girls 90% of the time.
Author tlamb93 Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 I would just go for a different girl if I were you. I'd still text with her but I wouldn't get into super long conversations. I think those are annoying anyways. I'm not sure how much I would or wouldn't read into her answer. "No for now" seems like "no forever" to me, and it seems like you are getting friend zoned pretty hard. When girls friend zone me I actually friend zone them back on my terms - none of this talking for hours crap, take me to go to the mall to go shopping, etc etc. Do that with your girlfriends I'm a guy. As for the girl that's hot and "good at dating". Look you have it easier whether you care to admit it or not. Advice for guys is completely different than advice for girls 90% of the time. Yeah, I was thinking about something along the lines of texting her every once in awhile but not getting in to it that much just so she knows that my interest and availability is still there, but at the same time I'm not going to invest myself in her until she makes the next move.
dispatch3d Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I'd full on write her off though, unless she makes serious effort/shows some interest. Do you really want to be the fall back guy of some chick when she feels like dating you or doesn't have any other options? Screw that.
filani Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Yeah, I was thinking about something along the lines of texting her every once in awhile but not getting in to it that much just so she knows that my interest and availability is still there, but at the same time I'm not going to invest myself in her until she makes the next move. @ tlamb93 Bingo !!! Now that is a smart move on your part , if a girl is really into you there's no such thing as 'too busy' And as far as her making 'the next move' i wouldn't hold my breath if I were you, unless you accept a text message from her every other day as her 'making a move'. When you told her you liked her and wanted a relationship you MANNED UP and told her upfront , face to face. If she really wants to be with you then she needs to grow a pair of ovaries and tell you to your face that she WANT'S to be with you! Fair is Fair
Eddie Edirol Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Again, we're teenagers. And she isn't dating anybody else, I know this for a fact. What if I don't message her and she thinks I lost interest, because I don't initiate conversation with her? Then she definitely won't take me up on my offer and ask me out, right? We are dealing with a high school girl here, let's try to remember that. Well if she isnt dating anyone else, then she is looking at someone, maybe she is waiting for an opportunity. And that guy isnt you, so leave her be. If she isnt interested in you now, she wont be before high school is over. She has an idea in her head of what she wants, and it aint you. Maybe she is trying to focus on studies, so that means you arent interesting enough to risk dating. Doesnt matter the age, if she liked you, she would make time. Yeah, I was thinking about something along the lines of texting her every once in awhile but not getting in to it that much just so she knows that my interest and availability is still there, but at the same time I'm not going to invest myself in her until she makes the next move. You dont want her to know youre available, girls want to know they have to work for your attention, not the other way around. Its the mystery. If you keep making it obvious that youre available and interested in her, she has nothing to work for, and thats probably why she isnt interested now. Youre supposed to show your feathers (charm), she is supposed to hint that she is interested (stare at you to make you go talk to her). If you passed this stage and then she gives you a no, you are out, thats it. try it with a new girl.
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