miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 threebyfate and pryo have derailed the topic at hand with their banter so I may as well jump on the train. miss_jaclynrae, why would we possibly care about any posts you have made? You are a girl that dumped a fat guy. Reasons you claim and the real reasons we know why. Still waiting on that example I asked for earlier by the way. I didn't dump him, if you read my previous post, we mutually ended it due to the fact that we both knew I couldn't give him what he needed. His weight had nothing to do with me starting to date him, or when I stopped dating him.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Where can I get a pair of those glasses, they look bad a$$. Jesus..... that one picture.......... your big beautiful eyes... Hahaha aw thanks. Everyone tells me my eyes are HUGE.
mesmerized Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Who knows? maybe he has money or a big penis. Maybe he is really funny or she has very low self esteem. The possibilities are endless. I could never date a fat guy personally and I haven't known many woman who would like that either. 1
dbzeng Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Who knows? maybe he has money or a big penis. Maybe he is really funny or she has very low self esteem. The possibilities are endless. I could never date a fat guy personally and I haven't known many woman who would like that either. Yup, not many woman would date someone who is overweight, it is rare that you find one.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Yep, and most females won't. Unless of course it's the best they can do. For example jaclynrae mutually dumped her fat ex boyfriend. The good news is dbzeng would still bang her and who knows, he might be hit in the face with a bag of pennies and 300lbs (no offense just hyperbole). Just her type. So, she has that going for her. ... You must be a troll. He was never my boyfriend and I never dumped him. I just don't weigh who I date so much on how other people view the guy. He was attractive to me, but to others I am sure people wondered why I was out with him. He was overweight, and I could have cared less. He was a great cuddler, and I prefer MEN, like full bodied, big armed, with a big meat on them. I am not a huge fan of super fit guys, mostly because I feel like a pig around them LOL.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Not at all, he ended up being a stage 5 clinger. Bummer too, because he was great when we spent time together. We still talk though! We only went on 3 dates but we hit it off well enough to where we decided to stay in touch. What was going on for you to define him as a "stage 5 clinger"?
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 That being said though, again, I date people really based on what they show me personality wise, I have ended things with super hot attractive men for the same reasons I ended it with the big maybe not so fit guy.
MaxNoob Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 We are talking hot women that are dating fat Men. Can you name one? jaclynrae couldn't. Sumo wrestlers have hot girlfriends: BBC NEWS | Asia-Pacific | Japan sumo star weds
USMCHokie Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Now my question is, why would anyone choose to if given no other option...? Being a slob, fat or not, is not only aesthetically displeasing, but also a reflection of one's personality and basic values. I don't understand why someone would be proud of the fact that they have lower standards. It might happen by exception, but Jaclyn is making it sound like she is actively seeking them out... But from her approach to dating (sit back allow the men to come to her), it would seem conducive to this kind of thing, where she dates who wants her and not who she wants... 1
dbzeng Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 States that you aren't hot when you clearly are very beautiful. Continues to argue with you on why you dumped the guy, just so you will talk with him... That is how 10 year olds act when they like a girl. just sayin....
Author O'farrell Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Ever think that maybe, just maybe... he makes her happy? Of course not, how silly of me, he must have tons of money, or she is using him for something money related. I like your name.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 What was going on for you to define him as a "stage 5 clinger"? That was a joke, but he was very clingy. Constantly getting upset if I didn't text right away, telling him I couldn't go out because I had work in the morning. We went on 2 dates and he automatically expected me to drop all my priorities in life for him. I finally told him that it is GREAT he wants to spend so much time with me, but I work a ton, and I can't go spend every night with him out late. I once canceled a date because I had a customer come in last minute. [i am a car sales consultant for Carmax, so I sometimes work bell to bell and get called into work a lot, not to mention I also work most days off.] Finally after him telling me that I am wrong to use lack of time as an excuse and that if I really liked him I would spend as much time as possible with him, I told hi m he was stressing me out and that I guess I wasn't the girl for him. I liked him too, which sucked, but I also could NOT handle feeling like a horrible person for being responsible. I live alone, support myself, and work my ass off to do so. If I didn't work so much I wouldn't be able to do all the things I enjoy. His weight had nothing to do with it, it was the fact that he expected more than I could give.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Now my question is, why would anyone choose to if given no other option...? Being a slob, fat or not, is not only aesthetically displeasing, but also a reflection of one's personality and basic values. I don't understand why someone would be proud of the fact that they have lower standards. It might happen by exception, but Jaclyn is making it sound like she is actively seeking them out... But from her approach to dating (sit back allow the men to come to her), it would seem conducive to this kind of thing, where she dates who wants her and not who she wants... I don't go on a date with a guy unless I want him in some way. The guy I am talking about? He was a big guy, but he was funny, and attentive, and so I figured I would go on a few dates with him. He was by no means obese or gross, he dressed well, and held himself well, he just wasn't super hot, I thought he was attractive though and that was enough for me.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 That was a joke, but he was very clingy. Constantly getting upset if I didn't text right away, telling him I couldn't go out because I had work in the morning. We went on 2 dates and he automatically expected me to drop all my priorities in life for him. I finally told him that it is GREAT he wants to spend so much time with me, but I work a ton, and I can't go spend every night with him out late. I once canceled a date because I had a customer come in last minute. [i am a car sales consultant for Carmax, so I sometimes work bell to bell and get called into work a lot, not to mention I also work most days off.] Finally after him telling me that I am wrong to use lack of time as an excuse and that if I really liked him I would spend as much time as possible with him, I told hi m he was stressing me out and that I guess I wasn't the girl for him. I liked him too, which sucked, but I also could NOT handle feeling like a horrible person for being responsible. I live alone, support myself, and work my ass off to do so. If I didn't work so much I wouldn't be able to do all the things I enjoy. His weight had nothing to do with it, it was the fact that he expected more than I could give. What things do you enjoy that your the long hours of your occupation provides as an acceptable trade? It sounds as if your occupation has priority at this point regardless of person's physical appearance. Do you think this will continue? Is there a "tipping point" for attractiveness that could change this?
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Sumo wrestlers have hot girlfriends: BBC NEWS | Asia-Pacific | Japan sumo star weds We should all go for these Asian women.
USMCHokie Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 I don't go on a date with a guy unless I want him in some way. The guy I am talking about? He was a big guy, but he was funny, and attentive, and so I figured I would go on a few dates with him. He was by no means obese or gross, he dressed well, and held himself well, he just wasn't super hot, I thought he was attractive though and that was enough for me. Quick question...were you like this before your prior relationship...?
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Quick question...were you like this before your prior relationship...? You mean my marriage? LOL I am not so sure, I was 17.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 What things do you enjoy that your the long hours of your occupation provides as an acceptable trade? It sounds as if your occupation has priority at this point regardless of person's physical appearance. Do you think this will continue? Is there a "tipping point" for attractiveness that could change this? I LOVE my job. I work with amazing people, I get to meet so many new and different people everyday and I really do get a kick out of going to work. Sure, it is pretty stressful and demanding at times [a bad month is a BAD month] but I really do enjoy my job. My job is important only because I personally was dependent on my ex husband and for the first time in my life I am a young woman who looks at my life and I can say that I am the one that made it all happen. I would LOVE to find someone to share my time with, I do get days off, but my schedule is sporadic. If I am behind budget I have to work more, and some days I think I will get out at for example 9 and get a customer at 8 only to be stuck until 11. I want a man who is ok with that, because right now, in order for me to NOT depend on someone else, I have to work this hard.
USMCHokie Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 You mean my marriage? LOL I am not so sure, I was 17. Heh, yes. And the reason I ask is that it often takes a failed experience or series of failed experiences for one to realize what actually matters in a person, and I think most posters are just surprised you figured it out at such a relatively early age, while you've maintained your beauty and youth. Oftentimes, it takes women into their 30's and 40's to pull their head out of their ass and start considering the "good guys". And by then, they don't look quite like you. There may also be a slight tinge of jealousy by members here where the perceived "inferior" guy is landing the attractive woman. Like I always say, life is just one big d*ck measuring contest, and we use the opposite gender as the measuring stick...
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Heh, yes. And the reason I ask is that it often takes a failed experience or series of failed experiences for one to realize what actually matters in a person, and I think most posters are just surprised you figured it out at such a relatively early age, while you've maintained your beauty and youth. Oftentimes, it takes women into their 30's and 40's to pull their head out of their ass and start considering the "good guys". And by then, they don't look quite like you. There may also be a slight tinge of jealousy by members here where the perceived "inferior" guy is landing the attractive woman. Like I always say, life is just one big d*ck measuring contest, and we use the opposite gender as the measuring stick... Well I have tried to explain myself and my views many times. My failed marriage plays a huge role in my beliefs about relationships and dating. The biggest learning experience of my life. I am lucky, because I DID go through it so young. He was abusive and controlling and taught me a lot about what I feel I am worth and what I believe I can actually work to have. I am 22 [my birthday was yesterday! ] and I fully believe that if I had not had the strength to walk away I would have been one of those 30 or 40 year olds.
USMCHokie Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Well I have tried to explain myself and my views many times. My failed marriage plays a huge role in my beliefs about relationships and dating. The biggest learning experience of my life. I am lucky, because I DID go through it so young. He was abusive and controlling and taught me a lot about what I feel I am worth and what I believe I can actually work to have. I am 22 [my birthday was yesterday! ] and I fully believe that if I had not had the strength to walk away I would have been one of those 30 or 40 year olds. Well happy birthday!
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Well happy birthday! Haha thanks! I had to go into work at 8 to sell a car and spent the day with my aunt at the fair petting all the cute animals and pigging out on yummy fair food. Not to mention spending wayyyy too much on margaritas. I feel old saying that though, since it really wasn't all that eventful.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Well I have tried to explain myself and my views many times. My failed marriage plays a huge role in my beliefs about relationships and dating. The biggest learning experience of my life. I am lucky, because I DID go through it so young. He was abusive and controlling and taught me a lot about what I feel I am worth and what I believe I can actually work to have. I am 22 [my birthday was yesterday! ] and I fully believe that if I had not had the strength to walk away I would have been one of those 30 or 40 year olds. What is "abusive and controlling"? Looking back now, were there signs and/or red flags that he was "abusive and controlling"? Do you think you will always want the control of financial independence?
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 What is "abusive and controlling"? Looking back now, were there signs and/or red flags that he was "abusive and controlling"? Do you think you will always want the control of financial independence? Yes. One hundred percent, but being young and stupid I found the whole "funny *******" act attractive. Which again is why I go for the nice guys. I don't want control of financial independence, I just, until I get married, want to be successful on my own so I don't have to go through what I went through in my divorce. He used his amount of income as a power house, he could control me because everything was "his". I will never go through that again. I don't mind being taken care of but I will never let a man make me feel like he owns me because he chose to take care of me. 1
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