Day 4/60 of NC, it's killing me

[meezy]

I've been with him since April after I moved from NJ to ME on and off. It seems silly to care for someone so much after such a short (and turbulent) amount of time but I do. Ever since we started dating there were issues...him talking to his ex, trying to change me as a person, never calling/skyping, and blowing me off for his friends. Because of this we broke up almost constantly. But it didn't stop me from driving 8 hours to visit him where he still blew me off. Finally 4 days ago he broke it off with me (AGAIN) because he 'never cared for someone this much and is terrified of it'. He told me he didn't deserve me because we fight a lot and he has commitment issues. So I told him I respected his choice and wouldn't make him stay...then I blocked his cell number and facebook. It's been four days but man I feel dead inside and I miss him. I keep picturing day 60 of NC where I'll be in college with a new life and feel nothing for him...but how do I get there?

[BrokenMirror]

Sadly there is no shortcut to there. You will have to endure each and every day. And if he broke up with you, it's HIS loss, not yours. I'm sure that somewhere is a guy for you, and this one is not him. Some men do have commitment issues and I am sure one day he will realize that he has lost someone. But don't let it get to you.

 

Invest yourself in new things. Learn how to crochet, cook. Go out and work out. Hang out with people, read a book, learn a language.

[Frank13]

He told me he didn't deserve me

 

This is code for "I don't want to be with you". I hate when people are to cowardly to tell the truth so they use this line of garbage. Just like the "it's not you, it's me" line.

[meezy]

Well yeah he didn't want to be with me that's why he broke up with me. But he always said that, even when we were together. Always told me I was too good for him. But why did he bother to say he never cared for anyone this much?

[ScienceGal]

Read my quote, that's how you get there.

 

Good luck.