2muchlove Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I just sent her a very long note to her work email. (So I know she would see it.) It wasn't anything hateful or childish. But it was long. I was 50/50 on whether or not I should send it. I figured it couldn't do any more damage since were for sure over. I don't even know if she's going to read it. But I still have a funny feeling about it. Wish I could just forget about the year I spent loving this girl with my whole heart. A heart she ripped from my chest and shat on.
Brokendude Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Dont sweat it, the deed is done, look forward and learn from it, keep ur head up man, what u did wasnt a crime
Sameold Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 We all slip up but your in control of your closure. The best thing to do is think about how you really feel and say it in a composed structured manner. Then employ NC with regards to the relationship talk and just use generic, cold e-mails to sort any flat/house matters/finances if you have them together. Try to avoid sending e-mail after e-mail or text after text. If you need closure think what that means to you but mean it. For me I needed to make sure my ex of 4 years knew just how disgusted I was with her. I didn't want to leave it with her thinking I was ok with her and happy if she was happy. I wasn't and I'm still not. Don't say things to try and get her back, be honest but then employ NC forever.
Author 2muchlove Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 (edited) For me I needed to make sure my ex of 4 years knew just how disgusted I was with her. I didn't want to leave it with her thinking I was ok with her and happy if she was happy. I wasn't and I'm still not. I pretty much did that in the nicest way possible in the letter. I made the mistake of giving the impression that she walked away with clean hands before. I really want to just text her telling her she's a callous whore, just in case she didn't read my message. But no matter how hard I try I can't love our past any less. And I've been trying very hard. But my past will always exist, and it will never change. Edited July 21, 2012 by 2muchlove
k100danny Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Don't beat yourself up about the message. I have sent my ex two letters since we broke up both in the first 2-3 weeks. neither were what I would be embaressed about even now so i really don't blame myself for sending them. they were more for me than her, I wouldn't go the route of cursing at her and knowing you are frustrated, I got very irritated when i found out/ thought i found out she was seeing someone new after telling me two weeks before i was still in her thoughts everyday day. I sent a short not too pleasant message, I wasn't horrible in it but let her know i was hurt, then i felt bad and sent another one appologising and saying obviously i was slightly shocked but she is of course free to move on and make herself happy and now i need to do the same. This is when I blocked her and haven't spoek to her since, 9 days now.
Author 2muchlove Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Don't beat yourself up about the message. I have sent my ex two letters since we broke up both in the first 2-3 weeks. neither were what I would be embaressed about even now so i really don't blame myself for sending them. they were more for me than her, I wouldn't go the route of cursing at her and knowing you are frustrated, I got very irritated when i found out/ thought i found out she was seeing someone new after telling me two weeks before i was still in her thoughts everyday day. I sent a short not too pleasant message, I wasn't horrible in it but let her know i was hurt, then i felt bad and sent another one appologising and saying obviously i was slightly shocked but she is of course free to move on and make herself happy and now i need to do the same. This is when I blocked her and haven't spoek to her since, 9 days now. I found out while we were tryin to work things out and she "still cares and loves me" she was sleeping around. And 1 week after it was officialy over she was involved with 5 other guys and sleeping with at least 2 of them. One of which was supposedly my friend. It's hard to not want to tell her how I feel about that.
k100danny Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Yeah i suppose that would really hurt me too and i feel for you. I believe if you feel wronged and want to give someone a piece of your mind, if you truly believe it will help then go for it. Mine wasn't as hurtful, as far as im aware she did nothing wrong to me that i can complain about, sure she was selfish ect and very demanding but i could have walked away from this so although i was very hrut it had ended I didnt have hate in me. It hurt like hell when i assumed and maybe rightly that she was seeing someone else only a couple of weeks later but I thought to myself maybe she handles it better than me and tried not to take it personally. In your situation i have to admit i would be screaming at her more than likely, Im not saying thats the right thing to do but i totally understand it.
Author 2muchlove Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Funny the last thing she ever said to me before she made the break up official was "Thank you xxxx for making such a huge positive impact on my life." Wish I could say the same, gutless cow.
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