Occu3.14'd Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 For the past two weeks, not a second has gone by where she hasn't been on my mind. Sleep is getting harder to come by, and when I do get some, it's filled with dreams about her. And like a sick, twisted joke, when I do wake up, the real nightmare begins. Before I even open my eyes and realize I'm awake, by body, mind, and heart are already totally consumed with despair, anxiety, sadness, and depression. I feel like I'm losing my mind. No matter what I do, I can't make any of this stop. I feel so helpless. This is the worst thing I've ever had to deal with in my life.
Ruby65 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 If it makes you feel any better, you're not losing your mind. All of the symptoms you describe -- including that horrible moment when you first wake up -- are perfectly normal and experienced by just about everyone following the trauma of breaking up. You can't really do anything to make it stop or go away -- but exercise does help an awful lot. Also be sure to get enough sleep and enough to eat. Reach out to friends and family to get as much support as you can and also keep posting here! You're not alone -- we've all been there!
2sunny Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Stop handing her so much power when she proves she doesn't care enough about you. Get busy living!
Author Occu3.14'd Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 Stop handing her so much power when she proves she doesn't care enough about you. Get busy living! I wish it were that easy. I know everyone feels like their situation is somehow unique, when in fact it really isn't. I've read a few threads here that parallel my experience, but somehow I just hope that mine will be a little different. She never cheated, there was no other guy in the works, not even an "I don't love you." Any of those would have actually been easier. I've written most of my story, but have yet to post it. I will do so tonight.
Zammo25 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Keep moving forward one second, one minute, one hour, one day, one week and one month at a time. The glib " live your life " platitudes do not help I know. One day this nightmare will end my friend.
headsashed Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 What ur going through is perfectly normal,i was and felt the exact same as you at the beginning of my BU. Im now nearly 10 weeks into my BU and all of those things you mentioned have faded quite alot. I wont deny that i dont think about her because i do,its just not 24/7,the dreams have beecome less too. Its just takes time,if you exercise regular and eat pretty well then you will sleep loads better,trust me on that 1. I was cheated on and most probably strung along pre BU so you can imagine how hurt i was,if you read my threads from the past few months you would see that i was such a weak and emotionally immature person but now im much stronger,i can sleep,eat,do my daily things just about normally now and thats because i just kept as busy as i could,exercised as much as i could which inturn made me hungry and tired. And as the days pass by things got easier,so will yours.
whoknows11 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 For the past two weeks, not a second has gone by where she hasn't been on my mind. Sleep is getting harder to come by, and when I do get some, it's filled with dreams about her. And like a sick, twisted joke, when I do wake up, the real nightmare begins. Before I even open my eyes and realize I'm awake, by body, mind, and heart are already totally consumed with despair, anxiety, sadness, and depression. I feel like I'm losing my mind. No matter what I do, I can't make any of this stop. I feel so helpless. This is the worst thing I've ever had to deal with in my life. Im going through the exact same thing. Have been. Its getting worse. Actually just got up from a bad dream. But only advice is to try and take it a day at a time. Just leave her be. Pestering/annoying her with constant contact only makes it worse. Then shes gone for good if she isnt now. I learned that.
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