Ponzzz Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I know I shouldn't care and my mind has completely shut my ex out but my heart kind of got to me today. Long story short, my ex's good friends have been contacting me lately and I can't fathom why. What does she hope to gain by sending her friends after me? They all say the same thing too like "we should hang out" and "I wish I got to see you around more". These girls have long-term boyfriends already and it amazes me that they're trying to "reach out" to me. I simply told one of them that im having a lot of fun and meeting some new people and she responded "That's great! you deserve it :)". Maybe I should've just ignored it from the start... le sigh
Tyler. Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Yeah i think they are on to something dude. Were you close with these girls before breakin up? If not, and this is all out of blue, they are either trying to find out how you've been and going to tell this to your ex, or they are trying to get you guys back together which most probably is your ex's idea. If its over and you've moved on, don't reply or just tell them you're busy. Over time they will stop trying to arrange you guys to meet up. Hope this helps, keep being strong dude.
Author Ponzzz Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 I'm reasonably close to them, we hung out a lot before my ex and I started dating. They definitely aren't trying to get me back with her as she just got into another relationship(LDR rebound most likely) just this monday. I am definitely pretty close to being indifferent about her but im still not over her. They seem genuinely happy to hear from me but we all know how girls can be . And most importantly I did not break rule #1, talking about the ex. I want to show her that im serious about moving on and not sitting around moping about it.
Tyler. Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Hmm if you're sure that they're not trying to set you guys up, then you can actually hang out if you want. But what you should never forget is, they are her friends too. So what you say may end up being told to her. So if you decide to continue this friendship with them, never show that you're hurt. Because she'll probably get a kick out of it if she hears that. Be happy, or at least act happy around them, so if they decide to tell her about you, she'll realise what she's missing. It doesn't matter if she wants you back or not, but not giving her power over you is the idea of this. She made her choice, but what you should do is show her that she made the wrong choice And that it's too late
Coffee20 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 so if you are decided to go out with them, don't talk about your ex at all.... what was in your relationship should never be spread between people you both know and especially not rumors and yes I agree with Tyler above, just act happy
Sugarkane Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 That sounds odd to me. Mine took sides and obviously my Ed said dodgy things and they just completely cut me off.
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