Sailynn Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 I've recently been receiving group-addressed e-mails (not directly addressed to me) from my Ex GF and I discovered she's coming back to the health club we joined together. She hasn't been to the club since March. I've continued to attend classes and have never seen her. I've cut off all contact to her and I've removed myself from crossing her path as much as possible, such as civic club meetings adn ballgames we used to frequent together. My concern is, I don't know if she's either trying to contact me again, if she's trying to pry, or seeking an opportunity to come around and show off a new boyfriend. I just don't know how to trust the situation. I guess I need to be prepared for anything. I'll just continue to workout and be concerned with only controlling my space. I can't control anything else.
StartingAgain Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 Who can say what she's up to? Ignore her. If she has something to say to you, require that she approach you as an adult and say what she needs to say.
Author Sailynn Posted July 9, 2004 Author Posted July 9, 2004 I e-mailed her to thank her for the book and asked what was her motivation for sending it back to me after so long. She replied, "because it belongs to you." and she stated her appreciation for lending it to her. You know, I was hoping for something other than that. I keep getting these kind vanilla responses. It would almost be better if she said something like "choke on it" or "let's talk it over", but nothing. They want to just keep you dangling on a string, don't they.
StartingAgain Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 They want to just keep you dangling on a string, don't they. Youbetcha. She wants to let you see "just how over you" she is. But is probably hoping that you'll try to engage her a bit so she can reiterate her rejection. My ex tried this stuff with me. At first I bit on it, but it didn't take me long to learn the game. Now I let these go past as if I didn't even hear and am somewhat stand-offish and aloof. It kind of confused her at first, but I think she'd got the idea that I won't play that game with her anymore. She's been much more like her old self the last two times we've talked.
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