without Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Little things can have a drastic effect on me, little things can make genuinely laugh and feel good and some can make me feel sad and cry? How do I be in control of my emotions more? Also If I like someone everything about them, what they do etc can totally change my emotions. I'm literally like a child. I want to be more in power of what I feel. Its esp hard if others hurt me. I have tried but it's hard for me to change , any suggestions?
pie2 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 (edited) It might help to really get a firm understanding of your emotions' triggers. Keep a journal throughout the day for a week (or month) of the ABCs...Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence. Antecedent: What happened to lead you to a shift in emotion? Behavior: How did you react? What did you do? Consequence: What effect did your emotional reaction have on your life. It doesn't have to be complex, but it helps to know these things, as you might start to see patterns. You might see that certain times of the day, week or month, you are more vulnerable to emotional changes, for example. Once you have a clear idea of your typical responses to triggers, you can learn to expect them, and later to control them. If you know that weekends are a more emotional time for you, you can figure out why that is, and work to change the circumstance. Also, you can actually change your thinking and reaction to garner a more appropriate reaction. Check out dialectical behavior therapy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialectical_behavior_therapy . Also, please consider pursuing a relationship with God. We are all flawed, and can find peace and understanding by knowing Him. Edited July 21, 2012 by pie2 1
Author without Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 It might help to really get a firm understanding of your emotions' triggers. Keep a journal throughout the day for a week (or month) of the ABCs...Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence. Antecedent: What happened to lead you to a shift in emotion? Behavior: How did you react? What did you do? Consequence: What effect did your emotional reaction have on your life. It doesn't have to be complex, but it helps to know these things, as you might start to see patterns. You might see that certain times of the day, week or month, you are more vulnerable to emotional changes, for example. Once you have a clear idea of your typical responses to triggers, you can learn to expect them, and later to control them. If you know that weekends are a more emotional time for you, you can figure out why that is, and work to change the circumstance. Also, you can actually change your thinking and reaction to garner a more appropriate reaction. Check out dialectical behavior therapy Dialectical behavior therapy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia . Also, please consider pursuing a relationship with God. We are all flawed, and can find peace and understanding by knowing Him. Thank you. I'll try it.
Forever Silent Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 I would also like to recommend mediatation and breathing exercises. This will help keep your body in balance.
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 I would also like to recommend mediatation and breathing exercises. This will help keep your body in balance. thanks......
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Little things can have a drastic effect on me, little things can make genuinely laugh and feel good and some can make me feel sad and cry? How do I be in control of my emotions more? Also If I like someone everything about them, what they do etc can totally change my emotions. I'm literally like a child. I want to be more in power of what I feel. Its esp hard if others hurt me. I have tried but it's hard for me to change , any suggestions? I had this problem..until I realized how passing all emotions are and I don't ACTUALLY have to react or do anything about them. Just let them pass and keep calm. The art is in doing nothing.
Author without Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 I had this problem..until I realized how passing all emotions are and I don't ACTUALLY have to react or do anything about them. Just let them pass and keep calm. The art is in doing nothing. Yeah But I don't exactly want to be like that..
zoomzoom Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I read a wonderful book to help mine, someone else on here recommended it to me. Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving your Emotional Intelligence by Cornwall
Nikki Sahagin Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Have you tried exercise? I think exercise is a great way of building self-control and focus. You feel calm and 'depleted' afterwards which can strengthen your emotional responses. Even if you just go for a quick run, I find that can really help. If you are a sensitive person it might be useful watching what you eat. I was in denial over this for ages, but some foods really can overstimulate the body and mind, especially if you are quite sensitive generally.
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