budley12 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Hey everyone. Some of you may remember me, but I just "recently"(10months ago) was dumped by my first love. We were together for 3.5 years and I truly loved him. The breakup really devastated me and I obsessed over my ex for months... Well, I am now in New Zealand studying abroad and I met someone new. I really like this new guy however I have only been with him a few weeks. He seems to really like me, however I still love/miss my ex. Is this normal? I really like this new guy, however I still hope my ex will message me and that we will be back. I have had a few drinks tonight and am tempted to message my ex saying I still love him (i havnt talked to him in months), but then again I feel like it would accomplish nothing. I just hope that since I still love my ex that I wont hurt this new relationship. I hope that I can learn to love this new guy, but I still have memories and hopes of my past/first relationship. Should I tell my new boyfriend that I still have feelings for my ex but I want to let it go and hopefully develop love for him? Im just so confused and flustered because I dont want to hurt this new guy. Thanks
Dblock10 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 i wouldn't tbh. what you are doing is using this new guy as a sponge. please be true to yourself and don't be in a relationship right now. until you are over the ex. saying that, a lot of people use the next person or people until they no longer think about the ex. just don't go looking for love or it won't happen
Ruby65 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Just my opinion, but I vote for don't contact the ex, and don't say anything to the new guy. If you really like him, and he really likes you, there's a possibility that the relationship can grow into something meaningful. A few weeks isn't long enough for you to be more in love with this new guy than you were with your ex! This new guy sounds like a NICE guy and those are worth holding on to!! Meanwhile, your stupid old ex is happy never hearing from you again.... what a loser. 10 months isn't really a recent breakup.... it's almost a year! This loser has obviously moved on from you and it's in your best interest to move on as well. I vote for New Guy! Why stay single to mourn the loss of some guy who's perfectly happy without you?
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