h2ojoy Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 so much pain everyone. we broke up july 3rd, it's been well almost 3 weeks with 8 days of no contact and the pain just keeps getting worse. we were together for 2 years. it's incredible how much you were so intertwined with someone then all of a sudden it's OVER. like a piece of your life got ripped out and you're left with a hole that kills you slowly. i have been crying everyday. our 2 year was on saturday and apparently she contacted my friend to tell her how much pain she's in. she's been self-medicating and hanging around stupid people who don't care about her. i've been feeling these feelings, not drinking (recovering alcoholic), and staying busy but the moment i get home, it all hits me. ESPECIALLY IN THE MORNINGS (MOURNINGS). everyone keeps telling me that she just needs space right now, and i am giving it to her, but this hope is not only a good feeling but it's killing me because i don't want to live on a lie. i told myself i'm giving it one month until i contact her, so we can reassess things, but the days are going by so slow. our relationship was beautiful. no cheating, no mind games. it was just because i had trust issues but i'm working on it with therapy. she just got tired of it. what do i do?? this pain is really unbearable. i can't focus and work. i feel like i'm dying.
Ruby65 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 It's very painful, but it can't actually kill you and it won't last forever. Right now, you're doing the best thing possible for yourself by not being in contact with her and not inflicting anymore pain on yourself that way. Your body and mind are in shock, so it's important to just be very gentle with yourself. Try and get as much sleep as you can and try to eat something healthy. Treat yourself as if you have a very bad flu. Crying actually serves a purpose -- it alters your brain chemistry and helps you feel better. So go ahead and cry and don't be ashamed of it! Keep posting here and reading through the old threads. You WILL feel better soon, this is the worst part and it doesn't last forever!
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