redrose123 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Ugh Im having a rough night. I keep thinking about how when my ex broke up with me back in January he sent me a text the next day that said 'I made a huge mistake yesterday and I just want to talk to you' I didn't reply and he called me so many times. When I finally picked up he told me he was coming over, he hugged me so tight for so long and cried begging me to forgive him and take him back and promised me that things would be different. He said he couldnt even go one day without me. I believed him and I was so happy but just a month later, 2 days after my 21st birthday he left again and he hasnt looked back this time. He's been able to go 5 months without me apparently. Why do people break up with you, come back, and then leave again? It's been 3 weeks strict NC but i still miss him. I made mistakes of texting him every few weeks after we broke up but ive been strong. It still sucks though. He literally passed right by my at work the other day and didn't even look my way or say one thing. I felt like I'd been stabbed in the heart and it ruined my entire day. I keep thinking that one day I'll get the 'I regret doing this' text but I know he's happier without me and regardless I could never trust him again. I'm just so tired sorry just venting and can't sleep
zanzi Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Oh god thats awful. Im sorry that happened to you. To be honest, if someone did that to me, I would hate them. It sounds like he had doubts, but became afraid of being outside the safety of your relationship and came running back, the doubts went on, and he left. What an awful thing to do. I think you are better off without him in your life. You are too good for someone like that.
Kovalchoke Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Ugh Im having a rough night. I keep thinking about how when my ex broke up with me back in January he sent me a text the next day that said 'I made a huge mistake yesterday and I just want to talk to you' I didn't reply and he called me so many times. When I finally picked up he told me he was coming over, he hugged me so tight for so long and cried begging me to forgive him and take him back and promised me that things would be different. He said he couldnt even go one day without me. I believed him and I was so happy but just a month later, 2 days after my 21st birthday he left again and he hasnt looked back this time. He's been able to go 5 months without me apparently. Why do people break up with you, come back, and then leave again? It's been 3 weeks strict NC but i still miss him. I made mistakes of texting him every few weeks after we broke up but ive been strong. It still sucks though. He literally passed right by my at work the other day and didn't even look my way or say one thing. I felt like I'd been stabbed in the heart and it ruined my entire day. I keep thinking that one day I'll get the 'I regret doing this' text but I know he's happier without me and regardless I could never trust him again. I'm just so tired sorry just venting and can't sleep Should've kept NC and ignored him... You gave in and he had all the power... The part where he left you again (and it seems permanent) makes it seem like he was keeping you on the backburner or something. Maybe he said/did all those things because he was just lonely and wanted to boost his ego, so he took it out on you since he knows you're still in love with him. But That's just my honest opinion.
Author redrose123 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 'The part where he left you again (and it seems permanent) makes it seem like he was keeping you on the backburner or something. Maybe he said/did all those things because he was just lonely and wanted to boost his ego, so he took it out on you since he knows you're still in love with him. But That's just my honest opinion.' I kind of disagree with this. I don't think he was keeping me on the back burner or looking for an ego boost because it was literally 12 hours after we broke up that he came back and said he made a mistake. 'keeping me on the back burner' would imply that he had another girl or something and it didn't work out so he came back. If weeks or months had gone by then that might be true. However when we broke up I don't think he was even planning to do it that day, it was kind of circumstantial. I'm sure if most people's ex's on here contacted them saying they regretted breaking up especially if the break up was fresh then they would reply in hopes of reconciling so i of course broke NC that day. But thanks for your input.
hopelessromantic29 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Something similar happened to me, but we were fighting over nothing n got tired of it. 2 weeks later, he called n wanted to try again. Went 6 months, fights free, progressed deeply. I met his entire family. We connected so much. Then we got in one silly fight.... N he's done. It's been one week of NC n it's been killing me too. To get my mind off, I go hiking a lot to get sweat out the pain. It keeps my mind off. I picked up overtime at work to keep busy, go out for drinks with friends who are on the same boat. That all helps. N instead of contacting him, I journal or go on here. It's a good way to communicate your feelings. Hang in there.... We will eventually learn to let go.
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