ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 have been seeing a guy for 5 weeks now once a week. we have only gone out one weekend night the whole 5 weeks the rest is during week. he doesnt seem to make plans to see me on weekends. last time he asked what i was doing on weekend i was out one night and the night i was free he was doing something with friends, this is now the 2nd time. should he be asking me along? or am i being to pushy and impatient? so i invited him over for dinner tonight, ( i text him at lunch telling him what im making) he replies 3 hours later saying; he sexy one im down at my boss's place my phone is on charge, at a bbq i will let you know what im up to later?
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 You're just being used, not a priority. He's either got something else or someone else going on ("he sexy one im down at my boss's place my phone is on charge, at a bbq i will let you know what im up to later?") red flag, he's intentionally ignoring you and you're not worth the valuable time, just when it's convenient for him. Don't be a fool, you know you like this guy but you're always going to get second class treatment If this is where you started out at, it doesn't get better or improves. 4
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 do you think there is a possibily he is attached, he never texts at night and sometimes in the beginning even before we met he would take 2 days to reply? i rang him once he was out at lunch with family he said 'seeya mate' on the phone?
2sunny Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 do you think there is a possibily he is attached, he never texts at night and sometimes in the beginning even before we met he would take 2 days to reply? i rang him once he was out at lunch with family he said 'seeya mate' on the phone? He sounds like he's attached or married. I hope you haven't had sex with him!
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 hmmm i have had sex with him he bought me lingerie...as well...he has a weird obsession for underwear
xpaperxcutx Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Red flag. If he doesn't make you a priority now What makes you think he will do so in the future? Have y slept with him yet? Also a guy who uses names like sexy and babe outside of a relationship are normally players and douchebags who dnt bother to use your name.
2sunny Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 hmmm i have had sex with him he bought me lingerie...as well...he has a weird obsession for underwear And why are you paying attention to this dirtbag?
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] hmmm i met him online, he was flaky evenbefore we met, ie arrange date for a sat night he texts me at 5pm saying carbroke down let me know whats happening soon, he never let me know, i text 2days later no reply until a rang him a week later, he reckons he had familyissue's? this happened before we met. another time i asked him to pub i text noreply he reckons he lost all his phone contacts. both of these things happenedprior to meeting.does it sound like he could be attached? [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT]
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 And why are you paying attention to this dirtbag? its been a while in between drinks
2sunny Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] hmmm i met him online, he was flaky evenbefore we met, ie arrange date for a sat night he texts me at 5pm saying carbroke down let me know whats happening soon, he never let me know, i text 2days later no reply until a rang him a week later, he reckons he had familyissue's? this happened before we met. another time i asked him to pub i text noreply he reckons he lost all his phone contacts. both of these things happenedprior to meeting.does it sound like he could be attached? [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] He's married.
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 ok i was taking it personally i thought it was cos he wasnt attracted to me...
2sunny Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Spend 50.00 and do a background search. It will tell you everything you're wondering about. You know his name right? Or maybe he gave a fake name... You know where he lives? Find out what's real! Search him!
xpaperxcutx Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 ok i was taking it personally i thought it was cos he wasnt attracted to me... Is he that hot that you need him for validation? No guy or girl is worth it if you're being treated the way you are.
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 i have been to his house, i also saw bills on his bench with his name. he has his photo online...wouldnt he be concerned he would get caught?
2sunny Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 i have been to his house, i also saw bills on his bench with his name. he has his photo online...wouldnt he be concerned he would get caught? Doesn't mean a thing. If he's not married - he's certainly not making effort to make you feel special. Don't communicate or see him again! 1
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 yeah but wats wrong with me? its made me feel so awful and doubt myself.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 ... Is it just me? Or do I not see a problem with any of it? Calm the eff down, he is obviously a busy guy.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 PS. flaking is making plans and then cancelling last minute.
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 flaking is what the guy has done to me if you read my post. calm down hmmm dont think you read the whole thing.
threebyfate Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Who knows if he's married but there are a number of reasons why people are flaky: Not that into you.Selfish.Juggling which might or might not include a significant other.Playah. Might be a mix of a few of the above. No matter what, ditch this dude.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 flaking is what the guy has done to me if you read my post. calm down hmmm dont think you read the whole thing. What? That you invited him over one night last minute and he was at a bbq? I read it, 5 dates darling... that is not a substantial amount believe it or not.
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 no i didnt invite him over last minute he complained i dont ask him for dinner so invited him 3 days before he agreed, i text him at 1pm on the day he replied 3 hours later near dinner time saying he would let me know what he was doing later. i ring his phone he doesnt answer he only texts. there have been many occassions; 1. making a date before we met texting at 5pm that night saying his car broken down let me know what he is up too soon. i never get another text. 3 days later he replies saying family issue's makes another date. never hear from him so i basically text him and tell him to get lost. he texts and say's sorry give him another chance, i do. we go out for first date. he only texts during the day never responds at night. he invites me over dinner he is all over me in first 5 mins. another night we plan to go out he says i will text you later, i never hear from him. i ring next day he answers as with his family calls me mate. say's he will call me back i dont get a call only a text.
Author ozziegal8 Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 what annoys me is that i asked what he was looking for online and he said a girlfriend and he said he liked me.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 what annoys me is that i asked what he was looking for online and he said a girlfriend and he said he liked me. So..... Dump him? I really don't think what he is doing is HUGE unless you guys have been together a long time.
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