Triguluous Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 Here is a question, Do you kiss or hug on the first datish type event. I know that it may vary becuase some would say kiss if the date seemed to go well but I really feel unconfortable kissing on the first date. I hardly know the person and I don't want to give the empression that I really like them. That is what second, third, forth dates are for. But then I don't want to send her the friend vibe by a hug. Just want to leave a good empression that makes her think of me when she gets home. I don't think I will kiss her, or maybe a cheek one. But I am partial to the hug. It sometimes keeps me from worrying about the kiss at the end of the date. But what do you think. Just curious, feedback is always good. Girls?
UCFKevin Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 If you're uncomfortable doing it, that's how it is for you. Some people kiss, hell, some people f*ck on the first date. It's all on what feels right for both people.
DerangedAngel Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 I have no problems with kissing on the first date, but I understand that some people (usually women) do. If a guy tries to kiss me, and I had a good time, then great. If not, well, I don't know because they always try. Don't they, ladies? A kiss on the cheek would be very sweet, and I'd be pleased. If I were to ever get a hug, I'd probably feel that he had an awful time. Don't do something that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you don't want to kiss her, don't. As soon as she gets a call from you for a second date she'll not be thinking that you had a miserable time with her. -Deranged
CurlyIam Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 IT dependson how attracted you are to the girl and if she seems willing to respond to your kiss. I like feeling attracted to a new guy and I like more seeing that he's attracted to me, but that he doesn't want to push it... I must confess most of the times I enjoy kissing on a first date. It's not a rule, I just get a kick out of it . Of course, it does depend on the guy, on my disposition, on the how the date was...
Author Triguluous Posted July 9, 2004 Author Posted July 9, 2004 I have no doubt that the date will go well. If giving a hug may give her the friend vibe then AXe it! Don't want to do that. Maybe a kiss on the cheek. Just don't want to push do hard. Good advice and thanks for the posts. Good touching rule thanks. What about if you nudge up to them like playfully. just like once? Just thinkin.
krbshappy71 Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 Kiss her hand! Kiss her hand! A polite, SWEET gesture that is not too forward like kissing on the lips. The hug does tend to feel too "friendshipy". Or fake, if its just a "buh-bye" hug. I don't usually kiss on the first date, its a bit forward for me, I just say, "thanks I had a great time! bye!" and shut the door/leave/whatever. There's plenty of time for fun stuff later, I prefer to see if this person is someone I'm into, first. Okay so maybe the hand kiss is not your style but it melts me so thought I'd mention it, in case you wanted something different to try.
plagued Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 I am old fashioned, I don't kiss on the first date. And actually I have been able to weed bad guys out that way. I do not go any further with someone who kisses me on the first date or someone who talks about sex every date. If I am out with a guy, I wanted to go out. If I go out again, I am attracted and am entertaining the possibility of sleeping with him, but after I get to know him. I have given a hand shake not to lead anyone on, usually a hug if I like him, but never a kiss and I am 29 years old. I think there is a very thin line between respect and disrespect. Alot of descent girls will think you really respect them if you give them a hug and not go in for the kill and like "krbshappy71" said a kiss on the hand is subtle and very, very sweet. Now on the flip side to UCFKevin, even a nice guy will sleep with you on the first date, doesn't mean he wants a relationship and it doesn't mean he will respect you afterwards. That is how we get those awful 3 month mini relationships. There are those you marry and those you....well you get what I am saying. And even a nice girl will do the same and think nothing more of it. Sorry, but guys have to be just as careful with their hearts, we do it too. Good luck on your date if it is tonight!!!
Author Triguluous Posted July 9, 2004 Author Posted July 9, 2004 Than what does the average girl feel. 1. Small simple kiss 2. Soft long kiss 3. Kiss on the cheek 4 Hug (not too hard) 5. Hand shake and a good bye 6. The finger? 7. Maybe, "Not even In a nother life-time"
tiki Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 On the first date I like a hug. I like a kiss on the cheek/hand if I liked the person and had a good time. I don't kiss someone until after I know them and know them well. That's not after the first date for me. My boyfriend and I took a month and a half to peck kiss. Almost two to french kiss. Oh the joy.
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